The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

maman

piggles1 wrote: »

I've had another couple of AFDs, so my total is:

16/17 AFD please shaggy

That's excellent piggles and I insist on giving you a pat on the back and a round of applause!! You deserve them.:T:T:T

satchmo1

15/20 AFDs today.

Barny1979

13/15 AFDs for Tuesday

debjay

16/18 for last night please

piggles1

maman wrote: »

That's excellent piggles and I insist on giving you a pat on the back and a round of applause!! You deserve them.:T:T:T

Thanks maman tell you what, I will accept the pat on the back for today:

17/17 AFD please shaggy

I've also found out I've got to move house in the spring. I never knew that :eek: I love my little place, it's the sweetest tiny house I've ever lived in with a cute garden and I'm trying to get a cat who would love it here

Ah well, start again, uprooting myself for the 12th time. On the upside I do like moving house, but could have done without moving twice in 6 months.

Maybe I can get somewhere near the cat rescue places for the spring kittens season I hope I can get somewhere that allows a cat.

My first thought was, ah, an excuse for a beer, but I'll see if I can not have one. But I keep changing my mind..

Honey_Bear

piggles1 wrote: »

I'm totally not used to any praise, let alone for not drinking, so struggle to say that to myself.

I'm pleased I've had days without and done better than I expected, but it's in my head as a fact, not a pat on the back.

In fact, any days with booze in I see as feeding 'evil me' and being naughty, not that it was planned and allowed. I hadn't realised how it all worked in my head until I typed that out

Well, there you go. Now you know, you're in a better position to figure out how you feel comfortable breaking that rule that was imposed on you and doesn't actually apply any more.

I wasn't praised at all when I was a child, never, not once, by anyone in my family and I don't remember anyone at school telling me I'd done anything well, either. Then, a few years ago, I was taught how to brag and while I still draw the line at doing it out loud when other people are about I do allow myself the recognition when I know I've done something well, now. I'm pleased I do, because it seems other people still forget to! Pretty much all of us have a little voice in our heads that tell us when we've done something wrong, or badly; I just make sure that's not the only voice I hear.

Thanks for that Honey Bear I spent yesterday looking back from that part of the thread you linked to and reading all the information.

I took this test:
https://ncadd.org/get-help/take-the-test/am-i-alcoholic-self-test

Good. That test looks very much like one I did, and while there were a few questions I could answer honestly that seemed to show I wasn't yet as far advanced as some people were down that road, I was very much on the way. As I've always said, I'm so, so glad I got out when I did.

I seem to prefer to have a load in and not bother with it than to get the panics if the cupboard is bare of booze. That'll have to be the next step then, to leave it all there and it might go down eventually, but not buy any more. And one day have none in the house.

We'd just been to France and stocked up on wine and I absolutely had to be okay with not drinking a single drop of it. So I was.

But yeh, thanks very much for writing out your experience with giving up. It really shows a lot of carefully thought out resistance to drinking. It's an inspiration

I've had another couple of AFDs, so my total is:

16/17 AFD please shaggy

Thank you for saying that, Piggles. Everyone's experience is unique, and reading other people's stories had a massive impact on my ability to stop and stay stopped. Without their accounts I honestly don't think I would have made it.

maman wrote: »

That's excellent piggles and I insist on giving you a pat on the back and a round of applause!! You deserve them.:T:T:T

Very true and seconded by me! :T:T:T

23/31 please, Shaggy.

Barny1979

14/15 AFDs today

Dizzy_Imp

Hello lovelies :wave: checking in early as I feel a bit pants, so won't be drinking this evening. I had one glass of red wine yesterday and that was enough, but AF over the weekend. 18/19 for me please Shaggy - I think I may actually exceed my target for once with a week still to go :rotfl:

CountingPenniesClaire

Wedding anniversary meal and drinks (a bit too many to be honest!!) today so no AFD. Planning on drinks for xmas day and ny eve so i won't hit my target but assuming the rest are AFDs then I reckon I'll be on 23/25 - which isn't too disastrous right!?

debjay

17/18 for tonight please.