The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

maman

joanne109 wrote: »

I'm not asking Beth to explain to me as it is none of my business, however, I hope she is able to ask herself the question.

Like sukey was suggesting, sometimes people do it because they are secretly envious and full of admiration but don't want to admit they haven't the willpower to do it themselves.

Green_Karen wrote: »

I decided today that I am going to call this investment of time 'me maintenance'. This could be time for my physical or mental needs, but can be something like keeping a journal, listing some treats, gratitude lists, meditation night etc.

Great idea. I'd recommend plenty of pampering, some walks, some decluttering, some reading in bed. And the bonus is they all help with distraction.

rachelww1 wrote: »

I have no idea what is up with me....I should be over mum by now but i'm not..QUOTE]

I suppose I'm trying to say in time you will feel better. Don't beat yourself up over it, there is no time scale to bereavement.

I agree. I still think of my mum fondly (after 10 years) on all sorts of occasions but it doesn't hurt as much. I feel for you Rachel, but you know the mantra 'whatever the problem, alcohol isn't the solution' is so true. Have a hug.:)

It's worked for the past two days so I'm going to call in early again today.

5 AFDs please Shaggy.

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So so good to read all the posts. Without a doubt it is keeping me on the straight and narrow. A big :grouphug: to everyone and a massive thankyou for sharing

I didnt manage an AF last night but what I did manage was to not take anymore than 1 glass of red I was out with friends for a meal and yes I could have refused the glass of wine but I didnt What I did do was STOP myself ordering another wine and then when I was dropped home I DIDNT go out again to the supermarket to get a 'small' bottle of red a big step for me :T

I watched the other girls who were drinking and how they sipped their wine and placed the glass down again - whereas I have a tendency to take in a mouthful...and hold the glass in my hand then usually I would just order another wine and to heck with the cost. This would have been followed by a walk to the supermarket to buy a big bottle of red when I got home.

Im working tonight and tomorrow night so I am determined to be AF the next 2 nights

Shaggy - im still at 8/31 and 5 in a row non-AF but becoming more and more aware of my triggers

** Stay Excellent, Stay AF **

ManPants

Hello Everyone!

Happy New Year to you all!

Just got back from ski-ing 3 days ago and FINALLY am starting my alcohol free period after a boozy period for most of December and into January! Somehow - and I'm not sure even how - I seem to have even got my OH on board as well.

Reporting 3 AF so far this month with an overall target of 20!

3/19

Hope you are all well, happy and healthy!

Stupotstu X

P.S And reading back through the threads to catch up I would like to add in that for those of you wishing to lose weight through giving up alcohol - in my 5 week period of HAVING alcohol (champagne, prosecco, red and white wines and beer!) I have managed to GAIN (almost) 5KG!! !!!!!!!!

P.P.S Just remembered about a planned drinking occasion so reduced to 19!

Green_Karen

Welcome back SPS! Wondered if you had ski'd off the face of the earth!

That's a brave target for the rest of January. Good luck :T

PriceySOS

10 please, Shaggy, thanks

Tiller-Girl - we are almost twins! My birthday was Monday.

Thank you so much to all of you who have send me their best wishes with regards to my issues with D?H at the moment. It wasn't sure whether to mention it on here. I appreciate your advice too - I don't really have any friends in whom I can confide these problems, and my family really are not particularly interested. Two of my daughters are being very supportive - now they realise what I have been going through all these years - but it is not fair to weigh them down with my problems :cool:

What a great group we have at the moment :T:T

xx

afoolwithmoney

Just want to say thank you to everyone it really helps knowing that your here & a special thank you Shaggy. Knowing that your giving your time to keep track for us is probably one of the biggest factors for keeping me on the right road
15/31 please & Im doing the dance lol

milky1991

5-year_plan wrote: »

I watched the other girls who were drinking and how they sipped their wine and placed the glass down again - whereas I have a tendency to take in a mouthful...and hold the glass in my hand then usually I would just order another wine and to heck with the cost. This would have been followed by a walk to the supermarket to buy a big bottle of red when I got home ]

This is so true and it's what I do, maybe that's why I can easy get through a bottle to a bottle and a half a night without realising it till the next day.

I was at work last night and people were talking about drinking and someone was saying about one of their friends who drinks up to two bottles of wine sometimes and they didn't know how they did it and I was sat there thinking its easy

Anyway doing another night tonight so I will be AF again today so that will be 5AF days for me pls Shaggy

sukeyboo

Way to go 5-year :j you did amazingly well last night :T.

Welcome back stupotstu - Happy New Year to you as well

Fruball

rachelww1 wrote: »

Been there myself scotdebs with only 3 or even less AF days a month. No more AF day here to report but hopefully tomorrow will be one. I have no idea what is up with me....I should be over mum by now but i'm not..

She died 6th April 2012 but it still feels like yesterday. I still have nightmares where I see her on her deathbed...especially the the one where she tells me to stop smoking..then get out.....That wasn't a nightmare..that was true. I drink cos if I don't, all i see is my mum's face but as she was when she was dying with a cross in her hands and not looking like she was really.

Surely the nightmares should have stopped by now?

I also have had severe panic attacks, palpitations, and been unable to drive since mum died.......probably mostly to do with alcohol... I have had bereavement and other councelling.

Grieving doesn't have an end date hun. I lost my Dad 2+ years ago and I see him in my dreams all the time. Sometimes I wake up thinking that him dying was a nightmare and that he is still alive and have to remind myself he has gone. It doesn't help that I have always been a bit psychic and I know what messages he is trying to send me. Go easy on yourself. You never 'get over' losing a parent but you learn to live with it.

milky1991 wrote: »

This is so true and it's what I do, maybe that's why I can easy get through a bottle to a bottle and a half a night without realising it till the next day.

I was at work last night and people were talking about drinking and someone was saying about one of their friends who drinks up to two bottles of wine sometimes and they didn't know how they did it and I was sat there thinking its easy

Anyway doing another night tonight so I will be AF again today so that will be 5AF days for me pls Shaggy

It is very easy and sadly I do it all too often

I called in early yesterday so no more to report from me. I am holding back on declaring tonight even though I was attempting a SNC but have already failed at that so taking it one day at a time.