The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

gwithbag

new_year_new_start wrote: »

Still no more a/f nights to report but another small battle won tonight. Last shift today, Friday night for me. Had a few beers, wife has gone to bed. This is the point when i would go buy more brandy and indulge.
Not tonight, it's water and lemon for me.

Feeling very proud of myself.

Way to go NYNS! The battle can seem endless but we drag ourselves forward!

Top_Girl

14/31 for me :A

Hard work today; long stressful day at work, home to a still not 100% Top Boy who just wanted to cuddle up on the couch which was fabulous for an hour but he also wanted feeding and I am but one woman. He ended up sat on the kitchen worktop reading me poems whilst I nuked the hash I made last night and prepped and cooked loads more vegetables to banish the lurgy!

More cuddles and a bit of 'his go' on the TV, him bathed and in bed and all my jobs finally done and thank the Lord I made the decision to keep the house alcohol free this month as I would definitely craved a glass/bottle/crate of something 'to unwind'.

Instead it's a hot chocolate and an hour in front of the PC/TV before a few pages of my book and on to almost halfway through the month!

joanne109

beth2242 wrote: »

Please could I join this challenge? I have read through all the posts from #1 and found them all to be very encouraging. I wouldn't have said previously that I had a drink problem but I certainly enjoy a drink and dread the nights I know I can't.

However, I have manahed 8 days so far this is my 8th day on the run and I hope to get to the end of Jan alcohol free! BUT (and its a big BUT) I am very P$*%£d off with H2B as he was supposed to be doing dry January with me and hes bottled it on the first weekend and already planned two nights out! Grrr! I'm doing it to lose weight, feel healthy but more so to allow us to manage our money more effectively and put more money towards our wedding fund - so at the moment he is well and truly in my bad books as I feel like I'm going it alone, budgeting, being healthy AND having a dry January.

We went out for a family members birthday on Saturday night - I drove so that I wasn't tempted to drink and he and his Mum laughed at me all night saying I was boring and cracking jokes about me not drinking.

SO I'm hoping I can get the support I need from you guys! PLEASE!! I've been doing the WW diet too for a week and its my first weigh in tomorrow so if I lose weight I feel like laughing in his face and saying 'ha! now who's laughing'. :rotfl:

Hi Beth, I saw this and wanted to reply last night. I hope you don't mind me asking but why do you want to marry someone who sits with his mother and takes the p155 out of you?


Joanne

gien

Good Point Joanne.

Another AF night here, 11 now.
This thread is going great guns at the moment - well done!

Has anyone heard from Jo? She had a blip and vanished - come back if you're lurking!!!

joanne109

I'm not asking Beth to explain to me as it is none of my business, however, I hope she is able to ask herself the question.


PS hope the WI went well


Joanne

Baileysonice

tiller_girl wrote: »

It's my birthday today, and I bought some Becks Blue rather than a bottle of red :j

14/31 please Shaggy

Happy birthday tiller_girl and thats impressive :j:j

5/15 please shaggy

Not been struggling so far this week but then work has got in the way of most things guess its the "keep busy" rule which does work for me. Love the nobody wakes up wishing they had a drink mantra - that is so very true.

Green_Karen

This thread is on fire, just tried to do a multi quote as I have so many comments to make to so many people but it stopped me at 3 so gave up.

But want to say really warm welcome to new starters I haven't said it to already. Notechno I would really advise taking up the counselling as often as you can. I have other issues besides alcohol and am currently dragging my feet on getting counselling due to the cost.

However I realise that issues surface when I don't invest a certain amount on time in myself. And it eventually backfires on me.

I decided today that I am going to call this investment of time 'me maintenance'. This could be time for my physical or mental needs, but can be something like keeping a journal, listing some treats, gratitude lists, meditation night etc.

Also a big hug to those who have issues, it really fills me with humility that you are fighting multiple battles and reminds me to think myself fortunate. Maman I think it was you who said the same thing though I think you were a little harsh on yourself. Don't be!

Arsenalbarnie - you may be struggling but I see that the key is you are still here and that you have lost some weight. Well done!

11/25 AF tonight and really grateful for it.

scotdebs

Wow this thread is inspirational at the moment :T had starting trying to take a note of all the folks I wanted to thank/support but was getting a tad long :rotfl: so just want to say well done to all the folks managing to stay strong and for those that are struggling hang in there...... There were months I struggled to notch even 3 or 4 AF days on the board however Shaggy am pleased to report 6 AF days for the month

rachelww1

Been there myself scotdebs with only 3 or even less AF days a month. No more AF day here to report but hopefully tomorrow will be one. I have no idea what is up with me....I should be over mum by now but i'm not..

She died 6th April 2012 but it still feels like yesterday. I still have nightmares where I see her on her deathbed...especially the the one where she tells me to stop smoking..then get out.....That wasn't a nightmare..that was true. I drink cos if I don't, all i see is my mum's face but as she was when she was dying with a cross in her hands and not looking like she was really.

Surely the nightmares should have stopped by now?

I also have had severe panic attacks, palpitations, and been unable to drive since mum died.......probably mostly to do with alcohol... I have had bereavement and other councelling.

new_year_new_start

rachelww1 wrote: »

I have no idea what is up with me....I should be over mum by now but i'm not..QUOTE]

I don't think you 'get over' big things like this in life, they just get added to your life experiences and your personality adjusts accordingly.

My wifes mum passed away 9 years ago last week, the first year she cried a lot off and on. The second was easier and so on. Last week on the anniversary day she just sighed and said 'I wish my mum was here to see our kids now they've grown up'.

I suppose I'm trying to say in time you will feel better. Don't beat yourself up over it, there is no time scale to bereavement.