The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

notechno

Thanks for all your good wishes. Had my first AFD yesterday and am really tired today, so much so I fell asleep on the couch early afternoon, and now I've got a banging headache. On the plus side the headache will put me off having a drink.

I think really I've got other issues than just the drinking and am having difficulty dealing with things, always procrastinating. Or maybe it's the drink that's causing the other stuff too? So I'm cutting the other issues back. I was made redundant last yr and done temp work since. I was supposed to be doing another claim for JSA but I can't face it. I've decided it's more important to get myself back fighting fit, and deal with this thing. Ok, it might mean a bit more debt on the credit card, but I can tackle that when the big stuff's a bit more under control. And my daughter's moved back home so that's a bit more income for the household.

Everyone sounds really inspiring and strong on here, so I hope I'll be able to absorb some of the the positivity!

Angela84

Sorry to hear everyone's life struggles. I do wish my life didn't circle around drink. Good news? Yay, have a drink! Bad news? Oh dear, have a drink. Stressed out? Quick, have a drink.
I've managed to cut down by a few things: the hangovers were getting increasingly bad. Was hearing voices, heart palpitations, paranoia. And by the evening would be craving just a couple of drinks to level me out.
Also I realised being hungover most days was effecting my parenting responsibilities. Forgetting non uniform days, throwing together pack lunches, being late, not wanting to play.
And I started drinking hot lemon water. I think I need something to sip, wine used to be the choice. Now this lemon water has replaced it. I tried having nice fizzy drinks, cordials etc. but I'd just drink the lot quickly, knowing it was alcohol free. You can't sip this lemon water, too sharp!

judi24

gwithbag wrote: »

Just like to say I have the utmost respect for those like PriceyOS, Judi and MrsRainman who are fighting big personal battles and are still trying to reduce their alcohol intakes!

I know that it's not just those whom I have mentioned who are having their struggles either, best of luck to you all!

Thanks gwithbag - quite glad I am doing this challenge - it helps me focus on something other than my problems - i am also sure things would of been much worse if i had been drowning my sorrows. I have a meeting with SW to review her report tomorrow and case conference on Thurs - after that I hope i feel a bit better although I may have undersetimated the effect this is having on me as a person - my mum thinks I should get some counceling and I am coming round to her thinking - my self esteem has taken a massive hit! Hopefully the not drinking will help improve that and I know my kids are pleased with me and it sets a good example not drinking your way through your probelms - I think! Even if it is hard to do!

Fruball

notechno wrote: »

Thanks Fruball and Green Karen. I'm hoping to go cold turkey, like Fruball I think I'll be better doing all or nothing. If I find I can't do it that way then I'll have to look at cutting down. The doc asked me quite a lot of questions and I did answer them as honestly as I could. I'd had blood tests including liver function a couple of months ago for an unrelated issue and he said they came back fine, so he doesn't think any serious damage has already been done.

He didn't discuss medication at all. He gave me the phone number for the local alcohol counselling service, I rang them and they run a drop-in centre every morning so I'm going to go down and register with them.

First dry night in ages, but I've felt so upset and shaky today that I honestly couldn't have faced a drink. I bought some Valerian a few months ago and had one of those tonight, washed down with cups of tea.

:rotfl: I don't need a morning drop in centre! It's the evenings that are a problem

PriceySOS wrote: »

9 please, Shaggy, thanks

It was my birthday yesterday, but I managed without any wine because a) it was school night and b) I had had several large glasses on Sunday evening and on Friday night to celebrate birthday/commiserate/be able to put up with D?H, who is frankly being impossible at the moment :mad: He works away during the week and is very stressed with work - but this work stress spilling over to home life and blaming me for everything, trying to upset the DD's, being really, really messy in the house, has been going on for 20+ years. :mad:

He has decided to stay away this next weekend and calm himself down. I don't know if this will help him, but I feel so free and happy about this. :cool: The next few months will decide whether we 'make or break' - pretty scary for me, it would be easier to stay together, but I don't know if I can stand his moods and behaviour any longer.

Anyway, enough about moi - I hope everybody is well and good luck for the rest of the week xxxxx

Happy Birthday for yesterday

Having split with my kids father when they were very small, I can understand why you think it is easier to stay with him. I felt the same. In the end, things got so bad and I was so so miserable that I had to leave. None of my family condoned me splitting with him (they didn't know the half of what went on, no violence but lies and other horrible things) and so I have stopped bothering with them too now! I am much much happier without all of them to be honest Anyway, I am not suggesting that you do the same and I hope he bucks his ideas up and comes to his senses before it is too late.

Sadly I failed on day 2 of my SNC and stayed up too late last night so I feel absolutely dreadful today.

The only upside is I definitely won't drink tonight and will have a blissful early night so calling in early with 8/18 for me please Shaggy

notechno

I don't need a morning drop in centre! It's the evenings that are a problem - haha, you're spot on there, Fruball

System

Do you know something - you lot are just fantastic!!

Just saying!! :grouphug:

** Stay Excellent, Stay AF **

Yvieblue

Declaring ever so early but 14/31 for me please.
I'm sooo tired right now that an early night is much more appealing than a glass of Wine!
Think it's a low mood, combined with the time of year, but at least it's helping me with the challenge!
Hugs and massive supportive vibes to all xx

arsenalbarnie

I've found you all. Not doing very well, but aiming for an afd tomorrow, I just know it won't be tonight.

milky1991

I'm off to work shortly working till 5am so can say I definitely shan't be partaking in any alcohol tonight so that's 4 AFD's for me please shaggy.

4 days is about what I managed every 2 months before I thought about how much I was drinking.

I shall have a couple more AF days this week but off to Espanol on Friday for my 50th so can forget this weekend but I shall be back on it come next Monday

tiller_girl

It's my birthday today, and I bought some Becks Blue rather than a bottle of red :j

14/31 please Shaggy