Any advice on getting a child into their own bed?

notanewuser

peachyprice wrote: »

Do you think she would have started a thread about how to get her eldest child to sleep in his own bed if that isn't what she wants?

She might have done!

chirpychick

I also feel that if co sleeping is the way in which she wants to carry on then there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, every parent has to do what they feel comfortable with.
But she sounded desperate for help in getting her LO to sleep independently. I guess thats the trouble with forums you can't tell exactly what someone means without facial expression and emotion.
My son seems much happier in his own space, he slept through as soon as he went in his own room, i found it heartbreaking, everyone told me he should move into his own room at 6 months, i didnt feel ready then so put it off to 8 months and thats when he slept through. I can only assume my snoring was disturbing him lol.

peachyprice

notanewuser wrote: »

She might have done!

Now you're just being silly :rotfl:

notanewuser

peachyprice wrote: »

Now you're just being silly :rotfl:

There's a thread about the ages children have been potty trained. It's not that the poster wants to potty train her child, but she thinks she should because he's almost 3.

If the OP has been told/advised that her son should be sleeping independently, she might post a thread asking how to do that. She started with a paragraph comparing her son's rate of development. That's about comparison with others. If other children sleep perfectly in their cots at 16 months then the OP might also be concerned that hers won't, and is looking for ways for him to match his peers.



Not at all silly, if you think about it.

dizziblonde

I was going to suggest leaving it a month or so and going down the bed route, but someone's got ahead of it and gone for the mattress on the floor thing. We had our eldest in a bed at 17 months (she was a climber and tall enough to be a good climber so the risk wasn't worth taking) - she's got some picture books in reach of her bed if she wakes up and she's happy as anything with that (we used to leave some books at the end of her cot for her anyway - she's always needed to rattle around for 10 mins or so before settling down so I've just gone with that).

As for the mama dadda thing - mine at 20 months still uses daddy indiscriminately for any adult she likes - so daddy is daddy, I'm daddy, grandma is daddy, the flipping dog is daddy.... Her language and understanding took a massive leap forward around 17/18 months - at 16 months she could chunter away for hours without much understanding and it suddenly just exploded overnight almost.

I still have mine in bed with me if they're having a rough night (I don't appreciate listening to the wheels on the bus getting sung over the baby monitor for hours at 3am) - they only don't sleep with us normally because they take up too much blooming space! Had the youngest in with me the other week as she wasn't well... 9 months old and at 3am I concluded she was taking the mickey - not only doing the starfish thing to take up as much space as possible - but doing the diagonal starfish to take up a bit MORE space!

YORKSHIRELASS

First off I think whatever your sleeping arrangements thats up to you. I wouldnt criticise anyone for co-sleeping if it works for you. In my own personal opinion though its really hard to sleep properly with a child in your bed and the bigger they get the harder it is. I need my sleep and I like to get the kids into their own beds and have some time for myself.

Children need to learn to fall asleep on their own. I have a friend who has always cuddled her daughter to sleep and at 10 years old they are still having night time problems.

I think you have to accept that this is going to be tough but if you are really determined to see it through you have to stick at it. We went through this when my eldest was about 18 months and I was 6 months pregnant at the time.

We did the whole thing of me sleeping on the floor by the bed and then moving step by step to the door. It was really tough but I stuck at it and eventually it worked. I remember making a mental decision to not let him into my bed no matter what happened and having to really grit my teeth and stick to this.

After a few months he never looked back and we let him into our bed if he was ill or had a bad dream or whatever without any problems.

Kayalana99

Oh my!! I was only logging on to update and had all that to read through!

Well. Last night was absolutely gob smacking, I know its the first night and we could still go backwards...but I took a risk and got in the cot bed (cringe) as I didn't think it could take my weight. (I still feel it could break under but I was careful)

Well DS settled down instantly with me as I thought he would as all he wants is me really...but once he had settled I actually managed to get out again whilst he was still awake!! So he basicly went to sleep by himself.

He woke up twice in the night and I did the same thing (the 2nd time I actually fell asleep in their with him whoops :rotfl:) and hes got abit of a cough this morning so woke himself up at 7am... still crying when he wakes up but I got back in with him at 7 and although he didnt go back to sleep once I got out again he played happily.

So fingers crossed!

As for everything else, I don't really want him to sleep in his bed.. I never would of choose to co sleep originally but I'm used to him now and I like having a cuddle I have to admit, but I feel like its the right time for us (as a couple) due to the fact he is taking over the bed. He's alot bigger now and he likes to sleep with his legs over the covers which means we are constantly pulling it back over him or going cold, he likes to sleep upside down sometimes on top quilt...so again we are having to struggle round this pulling the quilt etc..and last but NOT least he has head butted myself and my partner a few times and it hurts alot more then it sounds!!

It isn't because its what other parents are doing anyway, as for my comment about his speech/understanding it does worry me slightly, but as others have said they develop at their own rate so I will simply plod along for now.

Another plus side is this morning I actually managed to get dressed, brush my teeth etc without having him crawl round my feet opening drawers trying to open the toilet... Bliss.

notanewuser

dizziblonde wrote: »

I still have mine in bed with me if they're having a rough night (I don't appreciate listening to the wheels on the bus getting sung over the baby monitor for hours at 3am) - they only don't sleep with us normally because they take up too much blooming space! Had the youngest in with me the other week as she wasn't well... 9 months old and at 3am I concluded she was taking the mickey - not only doing the starfish thing to take up as much space as possible - but doing the diagonal starfish to take up a bit MORE space!

My DD was exactly the same, lol. DH would be working away and I'd find myself balanced on the edge of the (6ft!) bed because she'd taken all but 6 inches. Somewhere around 2 she learned to lie straight in her spot in the middle so now I get enough to actually sleep on.

Okydoky25

We had this problem with my eldest Son. At 18 months we bought him a toddler bed and out a gate on his bedroom door. No toys only teddies & nightlight.
It was same routine, bath, bottle, books, bed. For about a week he would cry for about 20 mins and when he went quiet we would go up to find him asleep at the gate with his blanky so we moved him back to his bed.
After that 1st week he was fine

notanewuser

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Oh my!! I was only logging on to update and had all that to read through!

Well. Last night was absolutely gob smacking, I know its the first night and we could still go backwards...but I took a risk and got in the cot bed (cringe) as I didn't think it could take my weight. (I still feel it could break under but I was careful)

Well DS settled down instantly with me as I thought he would as all he wants is me really...but once he had settled I actually managed to get out again whilst he was still awake!! So he basicly went to sleep by himself.

He woke up twice in the night and I did the same thing (the 2nd time I actually fell asleep in their with him whoops :rotfl:) and hes got abit of a cough this morning so woke himself up at 7am... still crying when he wakes up but I got back in with him at 7 and although he didnt go back to sleep once I got out again he played happily.

So fingers crossed!

As for everything else, I don't really want him to sleep in his bed.. I never would of choose to co sleep originally but I'm used to him now and I like having a cuddle I have to admit, but I feel like its the right time for us (as a couple) due to the fact he is taking over the bed. He's alot bigger now and he likes to sleep with his legs over the covers which means we are constantly pulling it back over him or going cold, he likes to sleep upside down sometimes on top quilt...so again we are having to struggle round this pulling the quilt etc..and last but NOT least he has head butted myself and my partner a few times and it hurts alot more then it sounds!!

It isn't because its what other parents are doing anyway, as for my comment about his speech/understanding it does worry me slightly, but as others have said they develop at their own rate so I will simply plod along for now.

Another plus side is this morning I actually managed to get dressed, brush my teeth etc without having him crawl round my feet opening drawers trying to open the toilet... Bliss.

Thank you for the update. I'm glad last night went well.

Your DS does what my DD did/does. I'm used to it now and just let DD get on with it. A bigger bed helps (if that's an option)when it comes to putting a single bed in your son's room I'd recommend one with a pull out trundle bed underneath. Ours is slways pulled out when DD is asleep. It means that if necessary one of us can be in there reasonably comfortably. DD went straight into a single bed after she climbed out of her cot in the middle of the night (in a sleeping bag). She was 18 months and the trundle bed meant we were less worried about her falling onto the floor from 3-4ft up!!!