Need advice :(

GlynD

MrsE wrote: »

What a foul post.
The marriage, relationship & family board is where people post these sorts of issues. I suggest you don't say anything if you don't have anything constructive to say.

And what a foul reply. A shrill and unnecessary response to an opinion. Mind you I should have realised you'd say it when you're prepared to argue the toss over a simple question on a tin of beans.

I suggest you read the rules where it says "Be Nice To All Posters". :cool:

Georgiegirl256

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

The village mob went that-a-way

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> run and you might catch them.

Don't forget the burning torch and pitchfork!

No village mob mentality, just opinions, like on any thread.

Calling your son or daughter sexy is IMO weird, but that is just my opinion and what works for one family doesn't necessarily work for another.

Me and my Dad have a very close relationship and we are very huggy and tickley and not afraid to show affection, I'll sit on his lap sometimes, I'm the same with my Mam to a certain extent, but not as close as me and my Dad are, I've always been a Daddy's girl. But, I would feel extremely uncomfortable if he ever called me sexy, not that he ever would as that's just not normal.

System

When I was a child 6-12 my father and I would play fight and sometimes he would lay on top of me and hold me down and sometimes lick my face which made me feel really uncomfortable. When I was 12 he jokingly called me sexy, another time he 'playfully' slapped my bottom. I always felt like I was being 'watched' when I was in the bathroom, like he had a camera in there. I never bonded with him or felt safe around him. He also jokingly kept asking me if I was going to marry him when I was older.

I feel sick.:(

ska_lover

I think a parent of either gender calling their child 'sexy' is quite shocking to be honest. It really does creep me out, I have never known this behaviour in any circle of friends I have mixed with

GlynD

ska_lover wrote: »

I think a parent of either gender calling their child 'sexy' is quite shocking to be honest. It really does creep me out, I have never known this behaviour in any circle of friends I have mixed with

I can see circumstances where it would be acceptable, perhaps as humour and with both parents present. Where it would be creepy was if it was just one parent alone with the child saying such things, particularly the father.

What concerns me about the OP in this case however are statements such as:

I always felt like I was being 'watched' when I was in the bathroom, like he had a camera in there.

I can certainly appreciate that some people have a sense of "being watched" but where does the camera thing fit in?

There's also no doubt that some troubled souls do want to be a victim for reasons best known to themselves, like parents with Munchhausen Syndrome.

It is possible that Sapiens (the OP) is absolutely genuine and just not able to express herself in a way which lets the rest of us accept her story as she wrote it. In which case I would appeal to her to engage with the other women on this thread, even by PM if she feels she isn't being taken seriously on open forum.

If it makes you feel more comfortable Sapiens I'm quite willing to unsubscribe from this thread and make no further comment. I'm very cognisant of the fact that having a man around can make many women who have been abused feel anxious.