MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

lulu_92

My girls are now 3 weeks old and finally back to birth weight!

We've had a couple of difficult days but luckily they behave at night and I only have to get up 2 or 3 times.to feed and change them!

We're having their newborn photoshoot tonight, can't wait!

How do you ladies split the work of caring for a newborn? I pretty much do everything even when OH is here. He does help, but I feel that he should do a bit more although his excuse is always "I'm tired because of work" grr...

kroberts

lulu_92 wrote: »

My girls are now 3 weeks old and finally back to birth weight!

We've had a couple of difficult days but luckily they behave at night and I only have to get up 2 or 3 times.to feed and change them!

We're having their newborn photoshoot tonight, can't wait!

How do you ladies split the work of caring for a newborn? I pretty much do everything even when OH is here. He does help, but I feel that he should do a bit more although his excuse is always "I'm tired because of work" grr...

My little girl was 3 weeks yesterday and same as you, we've had a couple of hard days but is mainly good and sleeps well at night.
We had a photoshoot last week and got a sneak peek at a photo, cannot wait to see the rest Hope it goes well


I do most of the caring at home as OH is at work early morning to sometimes quite late evenings. He does help to feed or comfort her when he gets home though and at weekends. I let him sleep at night otherwise I feel mean when he has to get up early. We don't have twins though so you have double the work x

sweetilemon

Thanks Lulu.

Although I'm part of the stupid 'lost a child' club no-one wants to be in, I loved, remember and still wish i was part of the 'new mummy' club so will still answer your question.

OH helped with baths and changing. He loved cuddles with her when he got in from work. I was breast feeding so I covered that and did all the night time changes and feeds. Where my OH really helped was making sure I ate properly and keeping the house in order. I had a c-section so couldn't vaccume so would do that when asked. When he was at home he would cook the meals but when he went to work he'd make sure I had something easy to grab on the go. By the 3rd weeks I really felt we were getting in a routine until it went t*ts up!

pigpen

Lulu.. OH does nappies and baby passing and cuppa making and sorts the older ones out and school runs and he is very good and snuggling them to sleep when I am tired.. I do the feeding and the cooking and the cleaning and the juggling and the everything else.

As for the 'I'm tired' crap.. kick that into touch straight away.. tell him you are tired because you are looking after 3 babies, 2 you have just grown and birthed and get up with during the night and does he actually think you are sleeping 10 hours a night and having 3 naps in the day? Poke him in the eye and tell him to grow a pair!

minimuffin12

Hi everyone, sweetie just to let you know I'm still thinking of you and sending gentle hugs your way. Can only echo what others have said in that don't be hurrying into sorting things out just take your time xxx

Lulu, I do most of the housework and dh sorts the garden and does dishes. He hasn't a clue on washing clothes, tidying- he never puts paperwork away and it drives me mad! Tbf he does muck in with the kids and would do dds night bottles at weekends to give me a rest. He just isn't that domesticated round the house. I would be having a stern word with your oh, i think men often think if women are at home all day then they should be coming home to a sparkly house, and they shouldn't have to help. And it is hard work looking after smalls all day. Does your oh take over sorting girls out when he gets home? I had a massive meltdown with dh when dd was just born as I felt I was doing too much and should have been resting. Sorry I've rambled on!

pigpen

My favourite line was work doesn't finish at 4:30pm for me, so it doesn't for you either, you just put on different work clothes and get on with it!

I am very lucky with OH he is pretty marvellous with our girls..

Claire_A87

9 months on here and we've never really figured out the division of labour house wise! It's especially muddled now i'm back at work PT.

Neither of us are particularly domesticated, but I crack way before OH does when something's been neglected for a few [STRIKE]months [/STRIKE] days. His threshold for sh*t is much higher than mine! What I did point out about 2 months in was that as far as I was concerned I wasn't getting paid mat pay to clean a house, it was to raise a baby, and that I'd do as much as I could house-wise but he could stuff it if he thought I was going to take on the mantle of 'home-maker'! I laugh looking back because he'd done absolutely nothing to warrant this outburst, I just thought I'd make it clear :rotfl: Poor bloke. In all seriousness though, I wish I'd brought things up to do with house work and baby duties, as in the first 6 months I probably did harbour some resentment and was a bit of a martyr to it. I was surviving on about 3 hours broken sleep a night though.

lulu_92

The photos we had taken look incredible, I can't wait to see them all!

Went to slimming world tonight which meant I got almost 3 hours out of the house! I missed the girls like mad but it was nice to get out and talk to adults! OH is being very supportive and did a great job with the girls whilst I was out, he even remembered to put the steriliser on, which is a big deal for him!

Saffagal

I do the majority of the care for the children, although recently OH has gone in to 3 year old if she wakes in the night (before he's gone to bed). He genuinely doesn't hear her if he's asleep. OH will help, but I tell him what to do.
In terms of household, I run the house, OH tends to cook at weekends and helps with washing up/ bath and bed time with the kids.

E is 3 months old today. This morning A said to put him in an outfit that is 3 - 6 months. Looking at it I thought that will never fit but I'll pop it on as can change him again if necessary once she is in nursery. Wouldn't you know, it fits him perfectly! Doesn't look big at all!

So my task for today is to remove all the 0 - 3 clothes and move the next size up into his drawers. Instead I had my cousin round for coffee and am now heading to a first aid course...

sweetilemon

How long did your first period last after birth? I thought I'd stopped bleeding and my period had started (normal cramp symptoms) but it's now been on for a week and a half! Not sure if I should go to the doctors? I keep thinking it's stopped then it starts again. I had a C-Section, slowed down breastfeeding at 3 weeks and stopped just after 4 weeks. It's been 8 and a half weeks since the birth of my baby. It's is exactly like a period so wasn't worried it was abnormal bleeding it just seems to be lasting for ages!