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continualdiamond wrote: »

Can I ask re nurseries how people would feel if before LO started the nursery was advertising for a new manager?

I picked up my local paper on Thursday and saw in the jobs section that the nursery we chose is looking for a new manager. I admit I did freak out a little as the current manager is lovely, she's so approachable and been really helpful and now it's made me unsure of our decision. Would it concern anyone?

I wouldn't be concerned - staff turnover is inevitable, and the same thing happened to us; the manager who showed me round when I came to see the nursery left before LO started. Your day to day interaction will mostly be with your LO's key worker anyway, and maybe with the deputy/office manager for administrative things. If they have well established routines and practices and a committed, stable and professional staff team (and from what you've said before, they do), then I'm sure it'll be fine.

The other thing I'd say might sound a bit, uhm, mean, but I mean it in the friendliest possible way, and I'm saying it because I care. I think you should stop worrying about the nursery and whether you've made the right decision - for the sake of your own sanity. You considered all your options and gave a lot of thought to all the pros and cons before you made your decision, so don't doubt yourself. You will always find things to worry about if you look for them (that's parenthood for you ), but I think you should rest assured in the knowledge that you have indeed made the right decision and stop worrying.

Your little pupils sound lovely

Mrshaworth2b

Anyone seen Delain, I hope she's ok

BeNiceToMySelf

we've just been to our first birthday party together, LO was the youngest at 8 months. He did really well just getting tired towards the end. He had a nap in his cot as soon as we got home

I was chatting to another mum and she said that she just picked a nursery that was 5 mins down the road and didn't even look at another one. I felt a bit relieved! I've just looked at 2 that are five mins away. Both are really good. I'm going to have a look at a third nursery that's cheapest for curiosity sake. The one that I'll probably pick has been recommended to me, is midway in price, sounds like they have experienced staff and has only been running for a year. I honestly don't really know what I'm looking for, I guess staff is the most important thing for me.

I haven't seen Delain recently either.

sunshine_1988

CD - It wouldnt phase me tbh and I used to work in a nursery. Its not like they are selling up and its new owners, its just a new manager who will oversee the day to day running and ensure they adhere to statutory policies and procedures etc. I hardly see the manager at A's nursery, she sends us communications via email every week but as I rarely have any need to see her face to face. I always deal with his key worker or the room leader. Try not to worry, its still the same nursery that you chose.

Hey guys whoever made comment on clarks doodles shoes?! I sooo agree. We wanted a basic pair of shoes, mainly for nursery so his decent clarks and trainers dont get ruined, they dont excite me at all!!! Hoping they wear well though, will make up for the style anyway!
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Sunshine, it was me commenting on the doodles shoes - definitely a case of sacrificing style for practicality! We've only had the sandals and slippers so far, but they do wear well, even after several machine washes. Just bought a new pair of sandals for summer - again, I think they're ugly, but LO loves them and wants to wear them all the time

VickyVics

Hello ladies,

I am a new mummy to a beautiful 2 week old baby girl. She is absolutely amazing and I am totally in love but I am after a bit of advice and support.

We are breastfeeding and it has been going really well so far, however I am quite nervous about breast feeding in public. I was wondering how everyone eased themselves into it at the beginning. I just don't know how to approach it really. Where do you go to breast feed? What do you wear? Is there anywhere you won't breast feed?

My LO also has her hours reversed so she is sleeping in the daytime and not much at night. I know she is still so very small and young so I am not expecting miracle but I would like to know if there is anything I can do to help her along?

Any help and advice would be very much welcome. Thank you in advance xxx

Crabapple

Hello Vicky and congrats on your little one!

If you have a breastfeeding group near you (look for breastfeeding network or ask your health visitors/midwives) it's a brilliant place to start feeding in public. Everyone else is doing it so you don't feel at all out of place.

I'm on my second breastfed baby but I will admit I had a waver when he needed to be fed in public for the first time. Thankfully I was with my hubby and my mother and mother-in-law (both of whom breastfed) so they gave me moral support even if they didn't know it!

It helps to know that as much faff as it can be latching them on to start with (the waving hands getting in the way was something I had totally forgotten) they do get the hang of it and latching can be quick and discreet.

Practice at home in front of a mirror so you can see how much of your boob can actually be seen - if you do top up and top down or have a nursing top the baby basically covers you. You can of course use muslins or covers if you feel more comfy like that.

I don't think there is anywhere I haven't breastfed (not that I've been skydiving or anything silly like that!). If they need feeding I'd rather do it than have a crying child. Especially as they can make you leak!

The day and night thing they do work out in their own time. When you have to feed in the night (and before you put them down) keep things quiet, dim lights, that kind of thing. That's probably about all you can do for the moment.

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VickyVics wrote: »

My LO also has her hours reversed so she is sleeping in the daytime and not much at night. I know she is still so very small and young so I am not expecting miracle but I would like to know if there is anything I can do to help her along?

Congratulations and welcome

If you haven't already, try creating 'day' and 'night' to help her learn the difference. So daytime is curtains open, music/TV, talking, singing, general noise and chatter. Night-time is dimmed lights (only as much as you need to feed etc.), whispering/quiet talking, and generally a calm atmosphere - maybe also use something like Ewan the Dream Sheep. Other than that, there's not much you can do at this stage, but slowly slowly she'll learn what's what But do sleep when she sleeps, irrespective of what time it is - it will help you stay sane!

Rummer

VickyVics wrote: »

We are breastfeeding and it has been going really well so far, however I am quite nervous about breast feeding in public. I was wondering how everyone eased themselves into it at the beginning. I just don't know how to approach it really. Where do you go to breast feed? What do you wear? Is there anywhere you won't breast feed?

I breast fed every where and anywhere I decided that it was that or skulking at home all the time and I was never made to feel uncomfortable. If out on my own I tended to go to places I knew were BF friendly or large coffee chains like Costa.

One thing I would say is if you are nervous go with a partner/friend to a family friendly place for your first try as you want to be somewhere that will put you at your ease.

I wore a BF bra with a vest top and a loose top over it top up vest tucked under and nothing could be seen, I also had a few BF tops which were easy for feeding subtly. There was nowhere that my boy and I went that I would not feed.

Once you have been out and fed a few times you will feel more relaxed about it

BeNiceToMySelf

congratulations VickyVics

I gradually built up my breastfeeding outside of home gradually. I went to baby cafes and breastfed there in a usually all women environment. I began with breastfeeding rooms in shopping centres and mothercare too. Eventually I had to brave it in playgyms and coffee shops and now pretty much everywhere. I just wear nursing vests and nursing bras with maybe a cardigan.

Just been to visit relatives and friends who were astounded by the 8 month BLW baby who could eat cucumber, cherry tomatoes, cheese and chicken with his hands My friends raised their kids on puree so said I was really brave giving LO cucumber 'cos they were afraid that their babies would choke. However they had no qualms about giving a 3 week old baby chocolate pudding and in fact liked giving babies sugary junk food! It's a strange world we live in!