MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

Saffagal

Oscar, we had rather a different experience. We only did three settling in sessions - the first was for an hour (Friday) and I stayed the whole time. The second (Tuesday) was an hour and a half and I left her after just 5min. The third (Wednesday) was 5 hours, including lunch, and again I left very quickly. On the Thursday she had her usual short day so was there 5 hours.

I think it helped that we had consecutive days so she got used to it. When we drop her off we take her coat off and kiss her goodbye, say how she was overnight/in the morning, never staying longer than 5 min. When OH started dropping her on his own she would cry and on two occasions was peeled off him, but after a few minutes would get distracted and stop crying. When I pick her up I spend about 10min or so just checking on how the day was etc. I had never left A with anyone, not even OH, for 5hrs.

At home sometimes OH has to peel her off me if I need to get something done and she'll scream, he'll distract her and usually after a few min she'll stop crying. I am sure that she cries at nursery - in fact today she was crying when I picked her up, but I know if she has a sleep late afternoon, she is often very clingy and tearful after.

LO will get used to going to nursery; but as my friend - mother to a 3 year old said to me - somedays she drops her LO off at nursery and even now, she cries and clings, and my friend gets back in the car and has a little cry feeling like a rubbish mom for having to send her little one to nursery. Unfortunately, for some of us, it is a fact of life.

*Nutella*

Re post baby shape - I did really well whilst on maternity leave, but then put the weight back on when I went back to work and was permanently shattered - eating chocolate and drinking coffee to stay awake at my desk, and takeaways and ready meals for dinner because I was too tired to cook Don't beat yourself up over it - being a mum is hard work and eventually you'll be ready and able to do what you need to do.

I read an interesting article a few months ago about snacking like your child, basically suggesting that you should eat the healthy stuff that you give your child at snack time to limit/avoid weight gain. As in, you wouldn't give your child a muffin/chocolate bar/half a packet of Digestives, so don't eat them yourself either! I've been trying to stick to that - I'm always going to prefer chocolate to apples, but I thought it was good advice although it might sound obvious

Mrshaworth2b

Hello ladies,

Hope everyone is well. I really feel for those of you using nurseries. It must be so hard, although I understand needing to work financially and for sanity ha however I can't even let the inlaws watch lo for a full day, i def don't think I can do nursery yet.

Lo is wanting to feed himself and I remember someone talking about dishes that stick to the highchair, can anyone reccommend? I like asking on here before I look myself because if it's reccommended by you ladies then I trust it

I'm slowly trying to wean myself off chocolate but it's really really hard because I'm craving it all day long. But I'm now back to my pre pregnancy weight, after giving birth to my pregnancy weight and losing an extra stone after through lack of sleep etc. I thought I would have lost weight by constantly being on the move but alas no!

katiechoc_2

*Nutella* wrote: »

I read an interesting article a few months ago about snacking like your child, basically suggesting that you should eat the healthy stuff that you give your child at snack time to limit/avoid weight gain. As in, you wouldn't give your child a muffin/chocolate bar/half a packet of Digestives, so don't eat them yourself either! I've been trying to stick to that - I'm always going to prefer chocolate to apples, but I thought it was good advice although it might sound obvious

This is a good idea! I try and eat healthy snacks mainly because I realised a few months back that G must see me eating biscuits and stuff all the time and I want him to eat healthy snacks, so I'm trying to lead by example. I totally haven't just eaten half a big bag of minstrels as he's napping and not around to see...;)

I've not had to leave LO at a nursery (although looking at preschool in the near future) but on the odd occasion I've left him with mil I always say goodbye, even when he was super clingy and I was just nipping to the loo I always told him I was going to leave the room but would be back very soon. I sort of don't think it a fair to sneak off, and agree with Nutella that it can make the situation worse, as in if he thinks I could disappear at any moment he really won't want to leave my side. We had our second night out since having G last night and mil came to babysit for us. He was stood at the window howling as we left but apparently cheered right up after a few minutes and being distracted by a video of a digger

*Nutella*

MrsH, we have Munchkin suction bowls and plates - would definitely recommend

sunshine_1988

It took my LO a couple of months to settle at nursery too. We did the settling in sessions which he coped with fine but on his first day he had to be peeled off me which made me really upset. They will settle though trust me, and it does you both good to have a bit of seperation. I would say dont hang about as it just prolongs it, if you need to sign any forms or letters, ask to go in the office and do them. On his first day I called nursery about 5times just to see how he was, they didnt mind at all and they are used to parents being aprehensive. It gave me peace of mind to know he was playing or sleeping etc.

I have put on at least a stone since I went back to work 18months ago. I lost it all when on maternity leave, combination of walking and not having time to sit at my desk and snack!! Im determined to lose it for summer this time. Love the idea of eating the same snacks as LO! I need something to stop me popping to starbucks for a fruit toast or boots for a chocolate mid day though!!

X

sunshine_1988

*Nutella* wrote: »

MrsH, we have Munchkin suction bowls and plates - would definitely recommend

We have these too. Got them from home bargains if you have one near. X

Bangton

Katie the TV debut was fab! Your OH is such a character. My partner and I thought it was really funny!

Nutella 3.45?? I really feel for you. Lo once got up at 3.58 and just seeing a 3 on the clock made me want to cry. Luckily he's got up at 5 - 5.30 for the last 3 days though I'm sure it won't be the last of the 4am starts.

Thanks Oscar for your comment. It seems like other babies have been getting up super early with the warm weather too which is consoling!!

I have a quick question. I'm sure a while ago I saw a post on here about a baby throwing up each time they had finger food? I might be wrong but it's happening with my lo most days now he's on lumps/finger food. We were doing well with finger food and suddenly he's now throwing up after meals. Just wondering why really and if anyone has any experience of this (really sure I remember this happening to someone! !) Thank you xx

Saffagal

Good luck for tomorrow Lazywife - hope that your first day back is ok

Had a better week this week, though I felt absolutely knackered by 9 on Wednesday evening (my second long day). A has been very good for me and has slept well all week so that has been a big help.

We've visitors for the weekend; it's the first time really since A is older a little more aware that we're having people to stay. I hope that she is ok and it won't disrupt her too much. I've done as much pre-planning and prepping re meals that I can so fingers crossed. Today she has been like a leech clinging onto me... so looks like we're having a clingy phase. She is fine when I'm not about though or when she knows I'm not there.

continualdiamond

Morning everyone.

Well my 1st day back at work yesterday was fine and now I'm on holidays for a week :D.

I work in a special needs school for those we don't know and I was favourite of the day with students I worked with last year. We had a special morning that involved a 45 min walk to get to the destination and I was supporting a different class and it happened to have a student I worked with last year in it. He requested that he walked with me, bless him and then didn't stop talking the whole journey, telling me everything he has achieved while I've been away and then asked how I was, how LO was and also how my dog was.

I also just love it how honest they're as he said to me, you're tummy is a lot flatter than when your baby was in it.

I was totally fine yesterday as LO was with my OH so when I left for work she was sat happily in her high chair waiting for her breakfast. Be a different story once I'm back properly for my 3 days.

Can I ask re nurseries how people would feel if before LO started the nursery was advertising for a new manager?

I picked up my local paper on Thursday and saw in the jobs section that the nursery we chose is looking for a new manager. I admit I did freak out a little as the current manager is lovely, she's so approachable and been really helpful and now it's made me unsure of our decision. Would it concern anyone?

I'm trying to also look at it from a professional point of view as I know when my school has had different deputy head's and a different head teacher it didn't change how I myself worked in the classroom.