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katiechoc_2

*Nutella* wrote: »

...And belated happy birthday to Katie's little man! Hope you had a lovely weekend x

Thanks Nutella, and everyone We had a lovely day, although he's got atleast 2 of the big molars coming through so is very out of sorts and stroppy at the moment. We went to a local family theme park for the day and he threw himself around on the soft play bits and in the sandpit We had family and a few friends over in the evening for a bbq (AND it stayed dry, and even warm-ish!). My living room is lost under Brio, diggers, toy food, diggers, balloons and diggers. See a theme there?!

Haven't had chance to catch up as its been a bit hectic with family staying but hope everyone is well!

continualdiamond

*Nutella* wrote: »

At first I read this as you'd removed your bathroom door and I was wondering why anyone would do that - then I realised that that wasn't what you'd said :rotfl:

:rotfl: love it.

I can see why you would of read it that way. I was struggling myself with how to describe it. We took the door leading to the bedrooms and bathroom (that sounds better as I said it out aloud this time) off when we moved it to create a sort of arch way.

But decided it needed a door going back on as will be closing it to stop the cats and dog from accessing that part of the flat. We don't want to be forever keeping our bedroom and Scarlett's bedroom door closed as just makes the rooms too stuffy.

I have now run out of energy. Nearly 3:30pm and been sat down for about 10 minutes. It's taken all this time to just sort out the lounge. Though I did create more work for myself with deciding to sort the drawers out in the tv unit.

But on the plus side got rid of a load of junk and also put the washing machine on a 5am this morning after giving Scarlett her bottle so that's all dry and put away as well.

I needed some distraction today though cos my mil is just driving me crazy even more. We go to Australia in the summer and it will be the 1st time my husband and of course Scarlett visiting, it was a present from my relatives in Australia. Anyway we've been trying to work out what to do with our dog and hubby asked his parents if they'd mind having him.

Clearly they did cos she text back saying basically we shouldn't of been relying on them to look after the dog as they have a life as well and the thought of being confined to the house for 3.5 weeks is not what they want. Yes cos we're confined to our house every day of the year cos we have a dog.

Then the other week when I was out for the day with my friend and hubby looked after lo she txt him asking where he was. He replied that he was out at the shops with lo and she txt back saying she'd tried ringing the house ph and no one answered and she thought we didn't wanna talk to her.

We saw them yesterday. I just reply with very direct answers to q's now, rather than holding a conversation. I know it's silly but I just cannot be bothered to put in the effort when I know deep down how she sees me now. She got annoyed on the ph to hubby the other day cos we're sending lo to a nursery.

I just heard hubby reply 'someone has to look after her'. Apparently she doesn't like the idea of lo going to someone else and asked why I was going back to work.

I really wish she'd of just kept her thoughts to herself cos for me it's changed everything.

BeNiceToMySelf

oh dear CD how horrible to have an unsupportive MIL. You know what's best for you and bubs. I would be avoiding her and not asking her for any help at all now - but that's how I am!

I'm thinking of just having close family round on the weekend before LO's birthday which is a Monday and maybe visiting a few the weekend after.

continualdiamond

That's my feeling as well BeNice.

It's just little things now that bug me. Yesterday lo wasn't herself cos she was teething, her cheeks were bright red and she just wasn't all smiles like usual. Anyway I gave her her teething ring she loves and as I'm sure majority of mums do you talk to your lo so I just said to lo 'is that tasty' at which mil replied 'of course not mummy it's not food'

I mean really....did it honesty warrant that reply.

It was no surprise that within about 5 mins of them being with lo outside and us inside that they were passing her back because she was crying. They refuse to look after her unless it's night time cos she's sleeping and doesn't know we've gone out.

LO will clearly get to know her nursery key workers more than her grandparents in the UK. Debating now to spend time with a child minder who offers 24/7 care to use her as a baby sitter (she offered) as lo is 7 mths old today and hubby and I haven't had time to ourselves yet.

Yes okay we've gone out at night time but even so it's not just be the 2 of us. We went to a Christmas work do and then to the cinema twice when my sister was over and also to friends for a chinese.

I don't see any other option than to build up a baby sitter relationship for lo as inlaws attitude is it will be better when she is older. So clearly maybe when she is 10 they'll babysit in the daytime for us :rotfl:

lazywife

cd that's a bit of a rough situation with in laws. hopefully they'll see the light soon & be nicer.
Oooh happy birthday to little man Katie and Nutella's little lady. T had a great time, lots of family over, so he could play with his cousins and then his little party. We didn't plan any sort of entertainment, just had his little friends and his toys. By the time he'd (well his cousins) opened his pressies, and we'd had food, sung happy birthday and had cake the party was over. It was only 11-1, I'd recommend it.
I don't think he'd know if we hadn't done anything though, it's just another day for him.
x

Bangton

Gosh CD she sounds just awful! It's quite nice for me not to have a mil although I know my mum does OH's head in at times! !

Sympathies with the comments. My mum does it to me constantly. Her favourite is 'does your mummy need to get you new socks I'm sure she puts you in ones that are too small' (they go up to his knees but there we go. ..)

All her sisters say things too and the comments about lo going to nursery drive me nuts. When I was pregnant my mum actually said in a horrid tone 'no doubt you'll be sending him to private school too' (insinuating that going to nursery meant I couldn't be bothered looking after my own child). I've had it all. .. my mum would rather be poor than leave her child. Comments about wanting make up/clothes. It makes her sound horrible. She's not, we're actually close but she has such strong opinions about raising children she ends up getting shirty when I disagree and being quite mean.

I hate leaving my lo with anyone and just don't do it (bar his dad) . I know those around me would go against the way I look after him. He's been weaned and my family always try to give him choc and cake even though I don't want him having it. I also don't give puddings if he hasn't had much of his 'main course' as I see puddings as a 'top up' if your still hungry. If he rejects solids in front of my mum she sees fit to offer pudding and it annoys me! !

I'm no perfect mother but I hate been undermined when I'm trying my absolute best so I have to be desperate to let family look after him (I don't mind my brother though. . He's pretty respectful)

That's turned into a right rant. I just meant to offer my sympathies!!!

SmlSave

Hi everyone, I was wondering how you get your lo's to nap? DD is currently held to sleep and I think she needs to learn to self sooth - any suggestions?

DS was always held so this is new to me

Even nice MIL's offer unwanted advice and ignore how you raise your child the min you're out of the room. Like Bangton we limit the amount of sweets DS gets. MIL however tells me that he's not a good eater while stuffing him full of chocolate! I'll never forget her proudly telling me that at 9 months he always ate his all lunch at hers - being a nutella sandwich it didn't surprise me! 'oh he really loves it' she'd gush, imagine that, a child liking chocolate!

Crabapple

Morning ladies. I have clearly missed lots of birthdays so Happy Birthday to any littlies who've had one!!

So sorry to all with rubbish families, especially CD as your MIL is clearly a nightmare. I hate people telling me what is wrong with my children, I find random older people are normally the ones saying my baby is hungry just cos he's crying. No, he's crying cos he's really tired and he hates being in tesco trolleys!

Although I'm lucky in that although we do have some family issues they are not generally too interfering. I did have my MIL over last week and she drove me crazy just talking to the kids in a silly voice for hours. My daughter loved it and couldn't stop giggling though!

We still have the chicken pox here so haven't been out to any groups this week. She seems better but the itching has been driving her nuts and she kept crying about it. It could be up to 2 weeks before we find out whether the baby has caught it or not which is horrible.

lazywife

Regular readers will know how quickly I rant about my MIL so I can empathise with you all. She's here at the mo,lives 200 miles away so only see her about once a month Just little things annoy me, like if T's upset or whiny because his teeth are playing up he just wants a mummy cuddle. He'll settle instantly, but she'll insist on taking him and "calming" him whilst he screams. If I'm not there, that's what'll be done (although tbh if I'm not there he'll not fuss for me if he can't see me), but let me just have my child for 5 mins and I'll make it better, then she can still play with him after he's calmed down!?!!!??! Grrrrrr.... Look I've started again!
Crabapple, my LO was exposed to chicken pox at 8 weeks old, but never got it. I think your baby is a bit older though so may well have lost that initial immunity, fingers crossed he's still clear in 2 wks, then you'll know he's ok.
X

Bangton

lazywife wrote: »

Regular readers will know how quickly I rant about my MIL so I can empathise with you all. She's here at the mo,lives 200 miles away so only see her about once a month Just little things annoy me, like if T's upset or whiny because his teeth are playing up he just wants a mummy cuddle. He'll settle instantly, but she'll insist on taking him and "calming" him whilst he screams. If I'm not there, that's what'll be done (although tbh if I'm not there he'll not fuss for me if he can't see me), but let me just have my child for 5 mins and I'll make it better, then she can still play with him after he's calmed down!?!!!??! Grrrrrr.... Look I've started again!
Crabapple, my LO was exposed to chicken pox at 8 weeks old, but never got it. I think your baby is a bit older though so may well have lost that initial immunity, fingers crossed he's still clear in 2 wks, then you'll know he's ok.
X

URGH this happens to me lazywife! I feel like everyone I know jumps in if he's upset for even a second.

I feel utterly fed up today. I can't bear maternity wage much longer. I've been looking for jobs because I am being made redundant at the end of the year (unless they change the date). Its so depressing. I can't do my job part time as no one seems to employ part timers in this type of job. I probably can't see the wood for the trees but it feels like I'll have to take a random job if I want to be part time on relatively low wage. I'm not above that honestly I'm not but I don't want to lose experience in the job I do now.

I feel like full time is my only option and likewise that I'll have to apply for jobs miles from home because we live in s small town with not much scope for the job I do now.

I've felt so happy lately but today I could crawl in bed and cry. I feel like I'm sacrificing either my career or my time with my son.

Something will come up I guess!

On the plus side we are off to the seaside at the weekend to visit my OH grandma. She hasn't met lo yet. Aside from petrol costs it's a cheap weekend of actually being able to do something. This month I've over spent (my mot failed! !) And have no chance of recouping on rubbish smp!!

Hope everyone else is well and sorry to those with interfering relatives! !