MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

Bangton

Finally had a moment to catch up! !!

Thank you for all the support regarding relationship issues. Id never wish strife on others but it really helped normalise it for me. We've got on better this week too. . He's been less of a hot head!!!

BLW ..I really want to do it but I'm too scared of choking. I started with purees because i weaned at 5 months and now I feel stuck with it. I've added lumps to the purees and he does gag sometimes on them so I've lost confidence a bit. . Having said that he's definitely starting to use more of a chewing motion so I'm hoping we get there soon.

Some days weaning confuses the heck out of me! I'm really proud as LO can use a spoon now and has mastered drinking from his sippy cup at mealtimes. At the same time we're no where near finger foods so that worries me but I know if I was BLW I'd be worried he'd need to learn to use spoons etc for feeding sloppy things. I think so far into things I think I'm making slow progress!

Cd I'd use 2 childminders happily. I'm in a similar boat in that my childcare can't do Tuesdays. Luckily work have agreed I can go back in Aug and do 12 weeks phased return (no Tuesdays!!). I'm then expecting I'll be redundant at the end of November so managed to get it covered. To be honest I'm so impressed with the support regarding coming back to work from my manager. I confided in her that I was terrified of leaving LO and she said i must speak up if I was feeling anxious on my days in so they could support me. I feel much better about returning now and I'm so happy with my childcare. It did get an outstanding but by the time I read the report it was just an added bonus as I had a really good feeling about the place straight away.

my LO has been so grumpy this week. I'm tired out and it's only Wed and OH has been off and helping too! We have some mum friends we see each week and lately whenever we go he's fed up and trying to wiggle off my knee. He's the oldest in the group but only by a month. He doesn't seem to have been very baby ish for long. Their babies are all girls and seem more content to sit or sleep on their mummies while mine won't. This week I really felt there was little point going as he just cries because he wants to play but we're in non baby friendly cafes. Not sure how to brooch it really. I don't want to lose these friends but I can't sit with a bored baby all way through. This week I suggested a playgym but no one got up to play in the gym bit as they were chatting so I ended up leaving early as we have more toys at home than there was in this playgym.

I really adore these mums and want to get out there but it's no fun. my friend suggested boys are a bit more lively but I think he's just older and that's why so hoping if I keep going they'll soon have bored babies and be more inclined to join me in wanting to go to baby friendly places!

That was long, whiney and a bit b**chy!! Sorry! !!

BeNiceToMySelf

BLW does seem scary when I thought about choking. Seeing LO consistently cough and spit stuff out that he can't handle has given me a lot more confidence in him. I'm trying to relax and have confidence in him. Apparently choking is silent whereas if baby is coughing and making sounds it means that they are working it out of their mouth. LO isn't distressed at all by coughing it out and often reaches for the same piece again lol.

Bangton I know what you mean. I was out with LO at doctor's surgery waiting for an appointment at the drop in clinic and had to sing and play with him on my knee while everyone was waiting silently! I'm hoping to get some bar stools in my kitchen soon and put down an ikea play mat so LO can have more playdates at home in the nice kitchen.

I had LO to myself all day until 6:30pm and ended up going 'I'm going upstairs 'cos I've had enough!' to OH when he came down from his daily nap. My friend described it as walking on eggshells all the time. He is so vocal that I have to make sure he's happy all the time otherwise he's screaming. Then when he's settled and napping, I dash round like crazy 'cos the house is a state from all the building work and me staying away at my parents. OH is starting to get the message I think.

*Nutella*

Bangton, a month at that age can make a big difference, so the other mums will soon have bored babies too! I found as LO was getting older, meeting at each others' houses worked a lot better, as the little people could sit/play/crawl/walk/sleep in a safe and child friendly space. Could you try inviting them round to yours? As the weather warms up, picnics are also good (although also fun indoors if it rains!).

delain

Bangton I don't think that was whiny or b****hy!

Some people just aren't that considerate of babies going out... and even though they have babies themselves don't seem to mind that they are bored and grumpy!

How old is your LO? (sorry I'm useless with dates!)

katiechoc_2

Agree with playdates at home - the other mums will get to that stage too eventually and understand! Although I still get the odd remark from strangers in the park about how energetic G is, maybe you've got a similar bundle of energy to me?!

I think with weaning its important to remember that babies can choke on purees too, its not just finger foods that are a potential hazard. There are some really good first aid videos around on what to do if your LO does choke, I like the Millie's Trust ones, and I felt much more confident after watching it that if it did happen I'd be a bit prepared. I'm thinking of signing up for one of their courses actually - the only first aid I've ever really been taught was when I did my first aider badge at Brownies

Bangton

benice and katie really good advice on the choking. I actually tried him with a cucumber stick today. He threw it on the floor so my mum tried the trick of 'look at grandma eating HER cucumber' ... bait not taken! ! Never mind-he was the same with the spoon at first. I'll keep offering. Glad I confided on here as the advice was great. He defo does gag on these thicker purees too so the comment regarding that couldn't be more spot on.

Regarding my 'mum friends' the age gap is so apparent, as Nutella says a month makes such a difference.
delain he's just turned six months. He's not really ahead development wise yet somehow seems like an older baby than he is. I think he's just always been very alert and he's never ever fallen asleep in my arms while we are out as these babies do. Not that I care about that but I don't want my little boy bored and whiney for 2hrs!

home dates are the way forward. I offered last week but they seemed to want to have lunch out which is fair enough. I'll offer again now I think!!

hope everyone has had a good day xx

Saffagal

Its between 4 and 5am and A is awake again please tell me this is a short phase!

lazywife

Saffagal wrote: »

Its between 4 and 5am and A is awake again please tell me this is a short phase!

Lol, just about to post that T has had another rough night!
For the past 2 nights he's really fought going to bed (sort of 90 mins of fighting) won't bf, just biting, so having to give cow's milk for bed so he's had something (Can't express) and then when does finally go off he's waking again an hour or so later crying again.
Hopefully it's not the new way of doing things?!!
Ps he does still take a noal bf on waking

Saffagal

A couple weeks ago A fought going to bed, taking about 90 min and messing about on the boob. A few times I even brought her back downstairs and gave her to OH until she was ready. This week she's been going down beautifully, but waking at 3 or 4 and then being up for up to 2hrs no matter what I do!
I have to believe it is a phase and she'll go back to sleeping soon...

We have had a lovely day here today... Definitely feeling like spring

Seems odd, this week I am officially back at work though on AL so not actually at work... Where has the last year gone? After going in last week, I really don't want to go back. More because I am going back to a different job that is not one I would ever have applied for, but one I have been allocated by HR when my old post was dissolved.

continualdiamond

Hi everyone, I have come on here to have a right old moan I am afraid. Feel this is the only place I can do.

Yesterday was a horrible day in that it just all went wrong. I'm from Australia and now that I'm married I had to do my new passport application in person, the high commission is in London. Ages ago hubby asked his parents if they'd look after our LO, his mum at the time said yes. However when we left LO with her for about an hour whilst we went to the shops she said she didn't know how she'd manage a whole day.

I took that as take LO with you to London and even though nothing was said about them looking after LO again they never mentioned it so LO came with us. I found that a right faff as felt guilty for having to get her out of her nice comfy crib and put a coat on her at 4am in the morning.

Anyway we decided we'd have a nice day in London as a family and parked up at a station where you could park all day and then get the tube in when hubby noticed my car was leaking water everywhere. So we got the tube into London, did my passport and went straight back to the car as he thought we'd have to phone the RAC to get towed back, he was thinking the head gasket might of gone.

Got back and it hadn't lost any more water and his friend who is a mechanic said it was fine to drive back. We got home at 3pm and I was mighty annoyed to have got up at 3:15am to go all the way to London to do a passport application that took all of 10-15 mins.

I was just looking forward to a nice walk around London, didn't matter if we didn't get lunch or buy anything just make the most of having to go to London in the 1st place.

So I was annoyed about that to then get back and find my mother in law had written us a 4 page letter (she'd been and let the dog out for us). She felt she had to write down how she felt.

Without boring everyone with all the information it said she felt my relationship with them was doomed from the start because they agreed for me to stay with them (I moved in when I moved from Australia) and that I should of found my own place to live. It obviously goes on and on and on with it being 4 pages but then it also mentions how when she bought me flowers when my parents & sister went home it seemed like I didn't care.

In the grand scheme of things I didn't want anyone to come round and visit right after I'd seen my parents & sister off at the airport and as horrible as it sounds when hubby said they were coming round with flowers my immediate thought was 'flowers aren't going to cheer me up'.

It made me angry when I read that part of the letter cos why did she expect me to be all my normal self when I've just said goodbye to my family at the airport. I have no family here cos I chose to move here for my now husband. I have been here since April 2003 and in that time I have been back to Australia once is 2007 and my parents & sister have visited in 2011 and in 2014.

I appreciate that no one can understand what it is like for me, even my husband can't cos it's just me who faces every day having no family around her.

I wish she hadn't written the letter, I don't know what good she thought it would do cos now in all honesty I don't wanna see her for ages or know how to be around her.

Now feel like the horrible daughter in law and it is just me cos hubby is an only child. Of course my natural reaction is sooner we move to Australia the better cos then I am back around people who I at least hope like me for me. (don't know when we're moving to Australia :rotfl: but have said we'd do it before LO is in school full time)

So sorry for the moan everyone but feeling I dunno just alone I guess. Did go out earlier for a coffee with a friend who I work with as of course it's Easter holidays so able to catch up with her more and said we'd do lunch tomorrow so it's made me cheer up a little.