Oh come on! Stake through the heart. A little sunlight. It's like falling off a log"

in_need_of_direction

Are you sure there are men out there who don't need fixing?

Apply for the job decision is only needed when it's offered. Until then, keep your options open.

Sun_Addict

Hi Buffy, sorry to hear you're feeling down and unwell Let us know how you get on with the agnus casta, if it works we'll all be on it.

mothernerd

I told myself I had to stop treating men like puppies "Oh look, there's a sad one in the corner, I can make him better". Also experience taught me that the ones who had been badly treated would stay with me until I made them all better and feeling good about themselves and then they thought they were too good for me and went off with someone else (possibly more attractive than me externally) who would proceed to treat them like dirt.

Also from being a child I was attracted to people like Peter O'Toole, Richard Harris, George Best and even (oh help me) Oliver Reed. You can see a pattern emerging can't you. Lovely to look at, terribly entertaining but not someone you would want to be around long term.

lulabelle

Bufster, I recommend ordering and reading mr unavailable and the fallback girl by Natalie lue. She has a website called "baggage reclaim" if you want to check it out first

As you know, we have had some similar experiences and after that idiot broke my heart last June (and as you know I was a wreck) I read a lot on that website and also the book. Just as you said you felt you kept meeting men who needed "fixing" as think that's what I was doing too. The website and book really helped me to understand why I was doing it and to recognise and stop it xx

Buffythedebtslayer

mothernerd wrote: »

I told myself I had to stop treating men like puppies "Oh look, there's a sad one in the corner, I can make him better". Also experience taught me that the ones who had been badly treated would stay with me until I made them all better and feeling good about themselves and then they thought they were too good for me and went off with someone else (possibly more attractive than me externally) who would proceed to treat them like dirt.

Also from being a child I was attracted to people like Peter O'Toole, Richard Harris, George Best and even (oh help me) Oliver Reed. You can see a pattern emerging can't you. Lovely to look at, terribly entertaining but not someone you would want to be around long term.

Apart from George Best they all sound good to me! I LOVED Oliver Reed......

lulabelle wrote: »

Bufster, I recommend ordering and reading mr unavailable and the fallback girl by Natalie lue. She has a website called "baggage reclaim" if you want to check it out first

As you know, we have had some similar experiences and after that idiot broke my heart last June (and as you know I was a wreck) I read a lot on that website and also the book. Just as you said you felt you kept meeting men who needed "fixing" as think that's what I was doing too. The website and book really helped me to understand why I was doing it and to recognise and stop it xx

I have read every dating book out there. I did it all in my early thirties and although I have moments I know I am coming to terms with the being single thing.


One moment happened the other day actually! My friend said someone liked me - his eyes lit up when I came in, she was half teasing but it turned out to be this teacher - who whilst lovely is a little older (not a problem for me on previous form) who I assumed was married (cute sandwiches made every day) and when I said that, my friend said no.......it is so sad.........he never met anyone...........really sad as he is lovely..........


And I thought God, one day people will say that about me! Which felt strange. But as I have dealt with (?) my best friend feeling huge pity for me I figure "people" will be easier. Not great, but society does want us all to be the same.


I have to say there is a power in admitting all this and deciding it.


Any how shoes have to be returned as they are too big, so that is good for the savings/spending.


It may be if I play my cards right I will have 800 in the ISA.


I am trying to work out how much I could save each month...I feel light headed regarding money. Like I could go crazy and blow it all. Well some of it.


I feel like debt is an addiction like I have to go back! Mental.


any how I am not. I am DETERMINED to have the money to buy the new fish tank.


And the stuff for the pond..........I feel SO bad posting this here, if you are reading and in lots of debt and want to scratch my eyes out I do understand. Totally.


To ameliorate the situation, I was in debt = 2007 about 25,000(paid off in June 2011) and then again (!) in 2012 = 7000 (paid off 1st March this year) I am living proof it can be done, and you too can have pots for everything and piggy banks with every spare penny.


Still haven't made a decision about the job. It was a rough week, voice was all but lost Tuesday and Wednesday(bad cold), Yesterday not so bad but really really should have taken a day off. Was nearly crying with tiredness when I got home today, had a little high as I had left early and got to check the fish and the piggies. then virtually collapsed till almost eight.


Holiday is in a week. I am sure all teachers reading this will understand when I say I will regroup and get in touch with my life then.


Just ate a Twirl. Amazing bit of chocolate. Plus Elementary is on
Have a good weekend folks xxxx

Pooky

I took Agnus castus about 10 years ago for fertility reasons....it gave me the most horrendous headaches and after a month hubby told me to stop taking it or he was leaving - the mood swings were extreme so keep an eye on it.

I'm a bit fixated on twirls and ripples at the moment - don't eat them on a train, you'll always end up with bits melted into your cleavage that you can't see until you stand in front of the mirror...usually after you've been talking to some bigwig Dr who you thought was a bit of a perv and grinning at your chest.

in_need_of_direction

Omg pooky. I thought stuff like that only happened to me.

Sun_Addict

Hi Buffster

I'm sure anyone in debt reading this will be encouraged not annoyed. You're living proof that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Like you now I'm debt free I still post on here to help me stay on the straight and narrow. Also like you I got debt free once and slipped back into it again - I'm determined it won't happen a third time.

Hey - the teacher sounds promising, get in there!!!!!

Buffythedebtslayer

Pooky wrote: »

I took Agnus castus about 10 years ago for fertility reasons....it gave me the most horrendous headaches and after a month hubby told me to stop taking it or he was leaving - the mood swings were extreme so keep an eye on it.

I'm a bit fixated on twirls and ripples at the moment - don't eat them on a train, you'll always end up with bits melted into your cleavage that you can't see until you stand in front of the mirror...usually after you've been talking to some bigwig Dr who you thought was a bit of a perv and grinning at your chest.

Well, that made me roar with laughter. Thank you

in_need_of_direction wrote: »

Omg pooky. I thought stuff like that only happened to me.

I struggling to think of a time any chocolate would escape my mouth.

Sun_Addict wrote: »

Hi Buffster

I'm sure anyone in debt reading this will be encouraged not annoyed. You're living proof that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Like you now I'm debt free I still post on here to help me stay on the straight and narrow. Also like you I got debt free once and slipped back into it again - I'm determined it won't happen a third time.

Hey - the teacher sounds promising, get in there!!!!!

I really hope so re the debt part, I would hate someone to read this and want to scratch my eyes out. I would understand having looked with horror at my bank accounts.


Mum is off on her trip in a week and I have two WHOLE WEEKS OFF WORK.


SO.
Am planning loads of Kondoing and gardening. Ideally I would like to,


1. Empty and re arrange both sheds.
2. List items on Preloved. Aim to make at least 100 towards new tank.
3. Figure out the pond re build.
4. Sell two fish tanks (might be pushing my luck with that)
5. Buy new tank. Set up new tank.
6. Do pond (that worries me a little)
7. In the process re arrange conservatory/fish tank, to create a sanctuary for me to sit in and for Mum to look at the garden from!
8. Move Guinea pigs and hamster downstairs so I can redecorate room properly. Also Kondo room. Am about half way through that so won't be huge. hopefully........;)
9. Kondo the Kitchen. That would be an on going thing.
10. "Do" the garden (weather dependent)


XXXXX

Buffythedebtslayer

so today, I got up early cleaned out the piggies, before 8.30!!


and returned my shoes (sob) did the shopping thing, came home hovered and had a general tidy up plus decluttered a hotspot!


Then it all went a bit wrong as I fell asleep...........woke up and started sorting out my laptop. the new one I bought about 4 months ago.


am getting there. Slowly.


any how this post is my first log in from my new laptop


XXX