Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!!

Diamond_Orchid

Oh no lulu, I am so sorry Hun xx take care of yourself xx

WizzyPop

Ohh Lulu, I'm sorry to hear your news. Look after yourself!

Finally got a scan date for next monday...... mind is currently racing with the thoughts of what if its twins or triplets.... the mind boggles!

Rambosmum

So I had my scan on Monday which showed everything is as ok as it can be at this stage and so OH wants us to tell other people (close family). So far his dead grandma and our 2 best friends know. I'd prefer to wait but this is his news too. I just know that we can't tell his family and not tell mine, though I'd prefer mine didn't know for a while (I wouldn't tell mine if I lost it, he would).

What do others think?

cookiecrumbs

His dead grandma???

Rambosmum

cookiecrumbs wrote: »

His dead grandma???

Haha! I guess I should have said 'so far we have told - his gran, who has since died'!

bookgirl_2

We told both sides at 10wks after a scan showed all was going ok. The other way round to you, I wanted to tell my mum and dad but was less keen to tell MIL/PIL! DH felt both had to know or neither which I understand.

So we told my parents at lunchtime and his that afternoon. MIL put out that she didn't know first...

12 weeks today and we are waiting for harmony test results tomorrow before telling any friends etc.

Rambosmum

I thought I'd be screaming it from the rooftops but I've found I like not telling people and keeping it our secret. I don't want to tell family because they'll make it their news IYKWIM? Sounds weird but I just like it being mine.

Also it's OHs grans funeral next week so I don't want to say anything until the aftermath of that has settled down, because it's a serious time and I wouldn't want people to feel forced to be jolly or like we were taking something away from the sadness, making it all about us.

I might just say we can tell his parents and not mine, and just not tell mine when we told his.

devildolly5

Glad your scan went well rambosmum. Great news.

I wonder if anyone on here will find out they are having twins (or more)!!!

What is it with parents being miffed at not being told over other sets of parents. Unless you can get them in the same room at the same time, someone will be first and someone will be last. That's just the way that it is.

Personally, I was really grateful when we lost our first two that we hadn't told anyone. It meant we could get on with grieving and not worry about everyone else. Even IF everything is OK this time (I doubt this very much) I don't think I will tell anyone until well after 12 weeks. I will probably get a scan done at 16 weeks and then tell family.

OH was super keen to tell everyone when we found out about our first. He got caught up in the excitement of it all. It was only a few days before christmas when we found out and he had a build a bear all wrapped up from the baby to give to me, asking me if I would put this together for them. He gave it to me the day we found out and it sits by my bed as a reminder. I am glad he did it, but it made that one difficult to come to terms with. The second we were detached from the start, and this one, I forget I am pregnant most days as I am so far removed from everything. Sorry for being all negative, but it getting really close to the point when we lost the others and sooner rather than later I am going to HAVE to have a scan telling me good or bad news. Not sure I am ready yet though.

On a lighter note, weather will be lovely this week and we are just starting to renovate a flat we bought to rent out, so exciting on that front.

Rambosmum

devildolly5 wrote: »

Glad your scan went well rambosmum. Great news.

I wonder if anyone on here will find out they are having twins (or more)!!!

What is it with parents being miffed at not being told over other sets of parents. Unless you can get them in the same room at the same time, someone will be first and someone will be last. That's just the way that it is.

Personally, I was really grateful when we lost our first two that we hadn't told anyone. It meant we could get on with grieving and not worry about everyone else. Even IF everything is OK this time (I doubt this very much) I don't think I will tell anyone until well after 12 weeks. I will probably get a scan done at 16 weeks and then tell family.

OH was super keen to tell everyone when we found out about our first. He got caught up in the excitement of it all. It was only a few days before christmas when we found out and he had a build a bear all wrapped up from the baby to give to me, asking me if I would put this together for them. He gave it to me the day we found out and it sits by my bed as a reminder. I am glad he did it, but it made that one difficult to come to terms with. The second we were detached from the start, and this one, I forget I am pregnant most days as I am so far removed from everything. Sorry for being all negative, but it getting really close to the point when we lost the others and sooner rather than later I am going to HAVE to have a scan telling me good or bad news. Not sure I am ready yet though.

On a lighter note, weather will be lovely this week and we are just starting to renovate a flat we bought to rent out, so exciting on that front.

I'm very detached as well. Trying not to think about it much, the constant nausea doesn't help that though! OH and I don't talk about it much. I'd prefer to leave telling anyone else until at least my next scan.

pinkshoes

1. WizzyPop EDD 13.12.15 booking in 26.05.15
2. Bookgirl EDD 16.12.15, next scan 4.6.15
3. DiamondOrchid EDD 22.12.2015 early scan 29th May/dating scan 17th June
4. snow_ball EDD 31.12.2015, booked in 14.05.15, scan 11.06.15
5. hieveryone EDD 06.01.2016 - early scan 01.06.15
6. frozenpenguin EDD 19.01.2016 1st early scan 01.06.15, 2nd early scan 15.06.15
7. Rambosmum EDD 19.01.2016 booking in apt 15.06.15 scan 9.07.15
8. Devildolly5 EDD 20.01.2016 waiting for booking in apt
9. Pinkshoes EDD 25.01.2016 - booking in appt 01JUL, waiting for dating scan
10. michbright EDD 04.02.2016 waiting for booking in appt

Updated list. Spoke to the doctor today, who has requested a dating scan for me. Whether I get one or not will depend on how busy they are, so he said not to hold my breath. My fingers are crossed, otherwise I shall try and find the money for a private one. We recently moved, so money is a little tight, plus I am trying to save up for maternity leave so I can afford to take the full 12 months.

Still feeling nauseous which I will take as a positive sign!

Rambosmum, perhaps your OH is rubbish at keeping a secret, and is worried it will slip out? Sometimes it is helpful with some close family and friends knowing, particularly if you have any early complications - it is good to have some support!

My parents already know (as I have had 2 MMCs - they do live 160 miles away), but we haven't told DHs parents yet who are local. Will hold off as long as possible, as they will just get too excited! Their other two children are late 30s/early 40s and have no interest in having kids, so I am the only grandchild hope!