Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!!

LittleMoog

Hi ladies,
Hope everyone had a nice BH weekend We had a lovely time at the wedding of a friend I met through MSE while pregnant last time around, was great fun.

Welcome to PinkShoes, michbright and frozen penguin, hope all goes well for you x

I've had a bit more brown spotting/ brown stained CM this weekend, and a heavy crampy/AF feeling in my tummy. It's been on and off for 10 days now, but there was only one bit of pink which was on the first day, so I think it's probably ok. I'm trying not to stress out, but it's still 2 weeks til our dating scan

LittleMoog

lulu_92 wrote: »

Yeah..kind of. I told her there's plenty of time to think about things like that.

She won't stop messaging me now. Asking when she can tell the world. Surely it's mine and OH's news and not hers! I told her we will tell people ourselves when we're out of the woods. She doesn't understand that it's so early still.

Oh I forgot, she said on Sunday "it's a good job we're going away next week instead of this week because then you wouldn't have been able to tell anyone for another week" OH said it wouldn't have made a difference so her point is irrelevant, but she was insistent that we wouldn't have been allowed to tell anyone before her! :eek: I think she's annoyed that we told my parents first (by a whole hour!).

Argh, MILs can be a nightmare Hopefully she'll settle down later on once the news has sunk in a bit.
Mine is ok, but she can be so suffocating at times. She buys more clothes for my DD than I do, every time we see her there are bags and bags of things she "just couldn't resist"! very MSE though

michbright

Lulu, I just wanted to say that it's probably best to just smile and nod when your MIL starts to annoy you. Remember, you hormones are raging right now, so it's even more annoying, but I'm sure she has the best intentions at heart.

My MIL can be the same and over the years I've found it's better to just let the little things slide. If your MIL wants to buy the pushchair and the cot, maybe compromise and say she can buy the pushchair and you buy the furniture? That way, you could possibly have a shiny, brand new travel system without having to pay for it. I regret not allowing my MIL to buy us a pushchair with DD3, when she went on to buy a gorgeous cotbed for my BIL and SIL when they had their baby a year later because my SIL was gracious enough to say yes.

Easier said than done, I know, but you need to keep her happy - after all, she's a potential babysitter once baby is here.

lulu_92

So good to see some new faces on here, welcome all

I don't mind her buying stuff but she doesn't understand that we have 34 weeks to think about this stuff. She couldn't understand mine and OH's logic that we have enough saved to buy everything so we can go for more expensive, better quality stuff (like nursery furniture). Her help is appreciated but whilst she is excited I'm already feeling like rubbish.

Oh well, I'll save it all up and tell OH when it really starts to bug me

michbright

lulu_92 wrote: »

So good to see some new faces on here, welcome all

I don't mind her buying stuff but she doesn't understand that we have 34 weeks to think about this stuff. She couldn't understand mine and OH's logic that we have enough saved to buy everything so we can go for more expensive, better quality stuff (like nursery furniture). Her help is appreciated but whilst she is excited I'm already feeling like rubbish.

Oh well, I'll save it all up and tell OH when it really starts to bug me

I can totally sympathise with feeling rubbish! I'm having coffee (decaf) right now, and it's making me gag. I think it's the milk as I always go off dairy in the first few weeks.

If you've saved up enough, why not say she can contribute towards things? It's better to let them feel useful. I know you've got a long time to prepare, but after first 14 weeks, time seems to fly by.

I was like you and kept my MIL at arm's length when she wanted to buy things for the children. I only realised I was doing it when new SIL came along and was letting her be involved. My SIL is very fussy and wouldn't settle for anything less than the best, but she knows how to let my MIL in and help out on her terms.

michbright

With our last pregnancy, MIL offered to buy a new travel system after our 20 week scan and I said no because I had in mind what I wanted and didn't think she'd get the same. In hindsight, I was being silly because she would have given us the money and let us buy what we wanted.

This time round, I've been eyeing the Stokke travel system, but I don't think DH will go for it. Hopefully MIL will be generous again and this time I'll be gracious and say yes! We gave away/sold most of our baby stuff after DD3 as DH was adamant we weren't having any more. Well...

michbright

Last post!

Just wanted to add that when I was pg with DD1, my mum went out and bought nappies and outfits the day after we told her, and I was only 6 weeks then!

lulu_92

MIL is just very intense and it's more the way she has made it all about her. I'm sorry but I've not even been asked how I am.

I think a long sleep is needed when I finish work!

michbright

lulu_92 wrote: »

MIL is just very intense and it's more the way she has made it all about her. I'm sorry but I've not even been asked how I am.

I think a long sleep is needed when I finish work!

Oh dear. Go home and have a long sleep. You're growing a human after all

WizzyPop

devildolly5 wrote: »

Hope you have a good booking in appt Wizzypop.

Thanks the appointment went well although still no scan date, which the midwife is trying to sort out, however now have appointment in 2 days to test for diabites because of my BMI. and more likely additional appointments with a consultant.

lulu_92 wrote: »

MIL is just very intense and it's more the way she has made it all about her. I'm sorry but I've not even been asked how I am.

:grouphug: you are not alone Lulu. Some people have no feelings. I've still not had any communication from my partners family to ask how i am getting on. However we have had plenty of demands of what THEY want. I've taken a step back and am now letting my other half deal with them.