Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!!

danielley

Hi all,

AuntyPickle - What a day! However it sounds like there is a good plan in place to investigate the growth and I agree that extra monitoring is only a good thing for your little one.

I had my 2nd '12wk scan' today and it was much clearer and this time they were able to do all the necessary checks. It was a great experience, the little monkey was wriggling and stretching around like an acrobat but stayed nice and still for the photos!

I had Ovarian Hyperstimulation Syndrome from fertility drugs which means my ovaries have been full of cysts and very swollen ever since I have been pregnant. They scanned them as well today and although they have reduced a little since my scan 2 weeks ago they are still quite bulky, which explains why I look quite far gone despite only being 12+6. The midwife also thinks that the 'ligament pains' I thought I have been having were actually pains from the ovary cysts shrinking. She said they should all be gone for 16wks and then my ligament pains will kick in.... great!

The sonographer gave us 7 pictures in total as she got carried away and luckily we didn't have to pay for any. I am under the care of 'One to One Midwives' so I think it must be an arrangement they have with the scan clinics.

MrsSippi - I had IVF and lucky for me it worked first time, but we were trying to conceive for 2 years and throughout that time lots of people announce their pregnancies including my SIL! I didn't begrudge anyone their happiness, but I know that your SIL may be very sensitive about it so I think you are very considerate to think of her feelings. However as you are not very close, I would still just tell here when you would have if you hadn't known about her IVF. If she is going to be upset, it will upset her no matter when, you tell her. Hopefully she will be ok, but try not to feel guilty; it is not your fault.

I am officially hopping over to the other thread now, but I will continue to lurk. Good luck to you all and I hope to see you on the next thread very soon.

Take care

x

Aunty-Pickle

Thanks everyone for the nice comments.

Wecome MrsSippi, no real suggestions on your dilemma I'm afraid. We did tell my mum and one of my brothers/SIL quite early on as I'm closer to them and we've only just told my other brother/SIL. It felt weird initially making that decision but was right for us.

millysg1

MrsSippi wrote: »

Yes, sorry, that's what I meant. Ideally I wanted to tell our parents (and their partners) first, then sil, then friends/remaining family. So sil wouldn't' be the last to know but close family would know before her.

Oh I see. I think that is fair enough. Being that she is having a difficult time with conceiving I think a 1 to 1 basis yes but I don't see why she should be first to know. As long as it comes from you guys and done delicately then tell your parents first.

I am close with my sibling and my OH is very close with his but we still plan to tell parents first and then siblings/close friends after.

I personally don't see why she would need to be told first.

lilmissreading

*de-lurk*

I emailed my friend who had been TTC for over 12 months when we got pg. The lovely 12+ TTC crew gave me some ideas on wording.

Certainly joyful fb announcements are a big no no, face to face can be hard if SIL is not prepared for it and you might call at the wrong moment. I put the header as something like an email to read in a quiet moment or something so she knew not to read it in the middle of a social event.

Would your brother/bil know best how to share this news?

It's very kind of you to think of this. It's hard to balance your joy with other people's needs. I agree that it doesn't need to be her who knows first but just to let those you do tell know that you haven't told her yet.

*relurk*

MrsSippi

Thanks everyone for the replies, you've all been really helpful. I think (if everything is well at 12 weeks) we will tell parents first but ask them to keep it to themselves until we've told sil. I'll try and see her asap afterwards and hopefully it won't be too awful when we tell her.

sulphate

Also de lurking to say that I had a similar dilemma to lilmissreading with a friend of mine who was TTC 12+ months before splitting up with her partner and I know she really wants to find someone else, settle down and try again. I met up with her and another friend and told her that way. I didn't make a huge deal of it.

I agree that a big FB announcement isn't a great way for her/them to find out, if you do do a FB announcement at least do it after you have told them, and/or change the privacy on the post so they can't see it.

midnight_ninja

x_missymoo_x thank you for all the hard work with the list :j

RE gender , i really want to find out as its my first :rotfl: but i can see why a lot of people want a surprise

Phoenix01 i have bad nausea too but at least no sickness , sorry your having to wait for appointments too.

Hope everyone is well

jediquigley

Busy board, auntie pickle - it must be difficult to get such out of the blue news but if you weren't pregnant it may not have been picked up for months so it's good that they are aware and you are getting to see the obstetrician.

Today I am feeling pudgy lol I am starting to have to squeeze into my work trousers. Not sure whether to just use the mat leave trousers but worried if someone sees the waist part they will realise its mat trousers then my secret is out. My mum pointed out today that my trousers looked a bit short she didn't ask me if I was pregnant though so may have got away with that one. I am only 7 weeks pregnant so I don't think it is particular baby making me bigger but all the food I am eating and maybe some bloating.

Getting so bored with all this waiting about 2 weeks till midwife appointment.

x_missymoo_x

Good news all round for those who had scans and appointments today - always great to hear! The board has got busy again, hopefully I've covered most people, apologies to anyone I've missed

Date twins again Princess kate, woohoo! I've got a scan next Weds where I should be measuring 13 weeks exactly, so we'll see if we're still twins then So are you officially graduating or shall I leave you on the lists? I'm waiting until my 13 week scan, I need to see proof first!

Aunty-Pickle - I'm glad baby is fine and all is well despite the mystery growth. Its good that they are testing it straight away and they seem quite optimistic about it, so fingers crossed you still have a healthy pregnancy. You're in safe hands and they are obviously on the ball, so I'm sure all will be fine, just stay positive.

CrazyDaisyDee - a jump of one whole week, wow! I suppose it cuts down the waiting time, you're now a whole week closer to meeting baby than you originally thought Congratulations for graduating

Phoenix01 - you know what that tells me... if you weren't sick on holiday, you need to book yourself another one! Have you phoned the surgery to check they have your details? I know it feels like you're pestering them but someone here (sorry I can't remember who ) rang to check and it turns out they had the wrong details! Hope you get seen soon.

devildolly5 - glad your appointment well and they are listening to your concerns. I hope everything goes well this time round.

MrsSippi - congratulations on your BFP and welcome We are in a similar situation but its a friend not SIL. My OH is good friends with the hubby, but I can't say I'm too fond of her really, I'm not friendly with her like the OH is with him. I know that they are going through the IVF process but they've kept it very quiet from most people. Apparently they are having their first round of IVF mid-Oct so OH wants to wait to tell them our news until they've started the process, but I just think what if it's not successful? Surely it will be even worse telling them afterwards, so I would prefer to tell them sooner. Its a difficult situation, but I think in your case I would agree to tell your parents first and then her soon after. I'm sure she will come around to the positive feelings for you, just as we've all had to when we were on our TTC journey and other's were getting their BFP's whilst we were still trying.

Congratulations on your scan danielley - hope to see you soon on the other side! Surely it should be livening up over there now

jediquigley - I've also put weight on and its rubbish being in-between and not big enough for maternity stuff yet! I just look fat and I keep trying to hold my belly in - I can't wait until I pop and people can actually tell its because I'm pregnant and not just greedy

Maysie

janed9388 wrote: »

That made me laugh, I think I only just escaped that one myself though. I do get extra testing for gestational diabetes at 16 weeks as I had it last time round so it's quite likely. Last time the test was at 28 weeks and I could cope with a restricted diet for 3 months, but from 16 weeks will be a nightmare !

I have been told i will not be tested till 28 weeks yet i had it last time i did say i thought it was quite late. Might have to spill the beans to a midwife friend see what she thinks.