Stepping into 2014- walking in My Shoes with Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

Well I have made the phone call.
Basically said what I wrote above.
He took it calmly, was sorry I felt that way, etc
But then when I said I was going to the travel agents tomorrow to book a holiday, he said "all those golfers surrounding you, who wouldn't mind going behind their wives backs, you'll be fine!"
I said I beg his pardon, if that's what he thought of me, then there's nothing more to be said - he tried to back out of that and said he didn't say that, but he did.
Well that says it all then.

Errata

It certainly does! If you get together with him again after that conversation about you being a slapper with no morals then not only does he have no respect for you, but you don't have any respect for yourself
Book your blooming holiday and enjoy it. Get a dog when you come back, it will be honest, affectionate, faithful, trusting and always there for you - something your ex-BF couldn't manage in a month of Sundays.

thorsoak

He's pulled that one on you before Mooloo, hasn't he? It's his attack when he has no other answer to your question It's sad that you're no nearer having a "proper" relationship with him ...perhaps it's time for you to look at the time you have invested in trying to make this relationship work - and decide that enough has been enough - it was great fun - but just one of those things

grey_lady

That's outrageous and a totally unacceptable slur on your character!

I'm sure you'll meet someone much nicer once he's out of your hair.

choccymoose

I know it's hard but you need to stay strong. Hoe dare he say that. You may love him but he doesn't respect you that is clear. Concentrate on you and dad and when you least expect it the right person will appear in your life and you will wonder why you put up with his selfishness for so long

Savvy_sewing

I am going to the Travel Agents in the morning, to book a holiday for DGD and Me!!
I have a new sewing customer coming tomorrow lunchtime, and a fee more jobs that need tackling.
Just been chatting to Biggest of Mooloo, she said go somewhere different, and I said I was looking at Tunisia or Greece still. Don't want to go back to where I took him every year, would be a bit too raw! ( and I certainly don't want to be ogled by golfers!!!)
Was thinking of a holiday that has kids clubs if any are available, as then DGD won't be stuck with just me, and I will get a break when she's in one.

Errata

Some of the best holidays I've had have been in Greece. Lots if islands , lots of choice, but steer clear of any resort that caters for drunken sex obsessed teenagers.
Enjoy your freedom now you've got rid of the millstone.

Hard_Up_Hester

Oh what a charmer he is, no doubt he'll come smarming back soon. Still try to have a good holiday Mooloo.

Savvy_sewing

Then I better get a back bone and learn to not always forgive. Somehow I have to change my mind set, change my routines etc and focus on other things, make new habits for our weekends, etc
Because enough has got to be enough. 10 years of my life is plenty!
At least I have DGD and am not alone.
At least I can now book a holiday when I want to, where I want too. I still have the National Trust Membership, so we can go out and about at weekends.
I can invite family and friends over, and I can smile at a man without fear of upsetting the apple cart. I can strike up a conversation with the family at the table near us, or sat by us on the airplane, restaurant, or beach.
I can just be me! Now that has got to be refreshing.
Today I have some housework to fly through, a new sewing customer at 12.
The holiday to book, my parents house to check up on, and lawn to cut.
My washing and my veg patch to tend too.
I've a thermal bag to make, and that's just what I remembered so far.
Tomorrow I'm meeting a lady from up the street and taking her to work, as the shop side is open to the public tomorrow.
And of course then I can potter at home, catching what I want on the TV, and making time for DGD to ready, colour and craft.
Maybe we will even get around to making some cakes? Who knows.

I am a little sad, had intrusive dreams, at one stage, but at least I did sleep. Although DGD was awake at 4.50!! I had to tell her to go back to sleep it wasn't morning yet!

Remind me if I say I am caving in, that he is not in control of me, I am.

candlelight_2013

Mooloo, are you saying you couldn't do those things when you were with him. That isn't normal you know, not if you respect each other.

You have so much going on in your life anyway you can do without that carp. Time to start respecting yourself Mooloo you deserve much more than he can give you, tell him to sling his hook, go on holiday with DGD and have a great time. If you feel like talking to the family at the next table, then do it.

You have been through this so many times, and some of us have been through it with you. Try to be firm, I know you can't switch off love, but he doesn't deserve it anyway, not the way he treats you.

YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!

Much love
Candlelightx