Stepping into 2014- walking in My Shoes with Mooloo

Laurajo_2

Mooloo wrote: »

No in his mind it is him that is the victim in all this. So be it. He can think and do what he likes now. He's set me on my new journey setting me free of his mind games and eventually I will get over it. I think I will get over him before he does of me. I have a busy life. His rarely changed in years. He will find filling his days off harder to do then I will. Dispite what he says he will also miss DGD. He had bonded with her.
As I say, he will find it harder.

What a wonderful way of looking at it mooloo.

Wishing you and yours all the best for the new year.

Savvy_sewing

Doesn't feel very wonderful. DGD is home. Biggest brought DS home, so house is full again. The joint is cooked and will do some spuds to go with it and some mixed veg. Not quite a New Year's Day celebration just a bargain joint.
Next on the agenda is Twin1 coming back from her BFs tomorrow and asking to have DGD for the weekend. Least I won't have to explain why we are home and not going to Oxford for the weekend. Then the following weekend is DS's 21st and Biggest is arranging a party for him. So some fun to look forward too. I may book into the travel lodge and make a night of it. Blow some cash on a taxi so I can have a drink or two as well.

candlelight_2013

Just listen to yourself Mooloo, you sound so positive and about to have some fun.

Towards the end of the last thread you sounded so down and despairing of everything involving the young people, and here you are new year, new aims and new plans long may it continue.

Candlelightx

Errata

Mooloo wrote: »

No in his mind it is him that is the victim in all this. So be it. He can think and do what he likes now. He's set me on my new journey setting me free of his mind games and eventually I will get over it. I think I will get over him before he does of me. I have a busy life. His rarely changed in years. He will find filling his days off harder to do then I will. Dispite what he says he will also miss DGD. He had bonded with her.
As I say, he will find it harder.

It's easier for him to play victim than to take responsibility for the part he's played in the breakdown of your relationship.
Get over him, he's spent too many years buqqering up your head and your life.

thorsoak

Mooloo, I'm sorry that this has happened again I think in a previous post, I referred to the BF as being as much use as a chocolate teapot .....looks as if if it was true after all. He hasn't been of much support to you - so although it is hurting at the moment, then you will be better off on your own - of that I'm sure!

Jo4

_party_ :dance: Happy new year to you & yours Mooloo. _party_ :doh:

2014 without this boyfriend sounds like a brillant year to look forward to imho!! :beer:

Molly41

Reams wrote: »

Happy New Year Mooloo and indeed everyone who follows.

I still don't get it and probably never will.

No matter, Happy New Year to all followers of Mooloo.

Well if Moo had never posted on here I would never have made a very good and kind best friend in real life and would never had the pleasure of watching DGD grow into a wonderful little girl. Neither would my DD have had the opportunity to care for DGD and forge a loving bond that benefits them both.

Savvy_sewing

Molly41 wrote: »

Well if Moo had never posted on here I would never have made a very good and kind best friend in real life and would never had the pleasure of watching DGD grow into a wonderful little girl. Neither would my DD have had the opportunity to care for DGD and forge a loving bond that benefits them both.

Thankyou for those kind words Molly.
You are my best Friend and it was lovely to see you today. The wine is lovely, watching Harry Potter and taking a sip. But also I have added masses to the pages of that new journal I showed you.

Believe it or not my self talking has taken me from a place of sorrow to actually feeling Happy.
Some words that flowed naturally from my pen were
" Thankyou to him". Strange words you may think.
But I thank him, and thank him with love.
Why you may ask?
Well. He just gave me the best gift ever.
He gave me freedom, he gave me my life to live as I please.
He gave me the opportunity to build my future. He has given me the strength to make my dreams come true.
So as I wrote in my diary. Thankyou, Thankyou, Thankyou.
Bring on 2014. A great year for Mooloo. a great future to build for DGD and many challenges I will raise my game to tackle.
So don't you agree? The best gift ever!

Heffi1

Mooloo wrote: »

He gave me freedom, he gave me my life to live as I please.

This bit resonated with me, I hope you look back regularly when your mood is low and remember this line.

Savvy_Sue

In your position I'd be tempted to respond along the lines of he may have no regrets, but you regret the years you've wasted on him.

But it's probably better to be the bigger person, and ignore him. Would changing your number be worth doing?