scared of dying

Armchair23

I don't think the extent of your worries about death are 'usual' but please don't let them eat away at your life. We all worry about death sometimes but if it's interfering with your day to day life that is a problem you need to sort out.

We all have times and circumstances where we just can't hack it on our own.

Having a baby, death of someone close, moving home are all stressful.
If you have medical issues on top of that I'd be surprised if anyone wasn't feeling completely whacked and in need of help.

Always see your GP first (if you can) and deal with any physical issues that are making things hard for you first.

Be kind to yourself as previous posters have said. I doubt that fear of dying is really is the cause of your worries, more the way that that you're expressing your feelings and fears.

Sending you my love and hoping you are doing OK

flamingo747

Thank you I am feeling much better. I'm just reminding myself that brooding on it won't change the outcome and that (god forbid) if something awful happened and I was diagnosed with a terminal illness, I'm going to be really annoyed with myself for wasting my time by worrying for no reason.

crafting-queen

I think that you may find some comfort if you had some faith. I am a Christian, I believe that when I die, I will go to live with God and that my life will continue with him, with only good surrounding me. Whether this is true of course I do not or cannot know.
I still fear death, like you the thought of perpetual darkness forever makes me afraid, but I try to think that being with God will be so much better than being here.

claire16c

crafting-queen wrote: »

I think that you may find some comfort if you had some faith. I am a Christian, I believe that when I die, I will go to live with God and that my life will continue with him, with only good surrounding me. Whether this is true of course I do not or cannot know.
I still fear death, like you the thought of perpetual darkness forever makes me afraid, but I try to think that being with God will be so much better than being here.

That's the thing for me though - I don't understand how you can believe in something you don't know is true. It's not logical to me.

I'd like to have a faith so I could believe in comforting stuff like that but I can't believe in something if it's not known for sure. I just don't get it.

So it freaks me out a bit too to wonder what happens after we die.

crafting-queen

I can understand that, and it's not easy, it's something that I found came with time. There were times in my life when I felt desperate, and felt I had no where to turn.
At that point all I could do was pray, somehow I felt a peace inside that I can't explain, I could have been imagining it, but I felt better, and this happened many times.
I always find that when troubled and I put my trust in God, things turn out fine, in the end.
It's clearly a personal journey, and I feel that I had to give up part of myself to get where I am.
It works for me, so I am happy with that. I am not preaching, just telling my story, people have to make their own minds up and have their own opinions.:blushing:

busiscoming2

Oh wow, I thought it was only me who went through periods of this.
Mine started when my mum died five years ago. Although I knew people died and I had lost grandparents, when my mum went it was like 'OMG people really do die'. I suppose prior to that I must have been in a bit of a bubble.

I made a Will and have written letters to each of my children and my DH to be opened in the event of my demise. It certainly made me feel better knowing I had done this.

I'm in agreement with Hazyjo I want wailing at my funeral too.

I think the worst thing is the thought of being forgotten

If you find you can't get over this, then maybe some counselling would be a positive thing.