*Stop The Cavalry* It's The 2014 Christmas Chatter Thread

Peppapig

So sorry to hear your news His Missus - knowing it's going to happen doesn't make it any easier to cope. Truly hope his passing was as peaceful and pain free as possible.

Junior-J - you are entitled to ask for a second medical opinion on the NHS, a different GP may feel differently about the referral. It may have something to do with budgets and the cost of the referral and subsequent hospital action to the practice/commissioning group. It certainly wouldn't hurt to ask what their rationale is for deciding that you won't benefit from the referral, there may be a genuine clinical reason and at least you'll know. Hope things get sorted for you, you're going through enough as it is.


Caitlyn - please put me out of my misery with the TFWWATW - my ideas for a couple of those letters aren't really printable :rotfl:

Peppapig

Blue eyed girl - so sorry to hear about DH's niece. I did try to edit my previous post to add this but for some reason I was blocked by MSE.

springdreams

blue_eyed_girl wrote: »

In a bit of a sad situation here too i'm afraid.

DH's neice is critically ill in hospital and has very little chance of pulling through. Her organs are starting to shut down. Family have been sent for today and we are just waiting by the phone. Every time phone rings we are just looking at each other and taking a deep breath.

So sorry to hear your sad news too b_e_g - you are in my thoughts

caitlyn22

So sorry for your loss His Missus. I lost my dad a few years ago and while at first, I actually felt a bit of relief (it had been very difficult to see him weakened by cancer) as the days wore on, I realised what a huge loss it really was. I think some people take the view that your parents should 'go' before you but for me it felt very unnatural and the whole world felt a bit odd! I wish I'd given myself more time and space to feel what I was feeling, which was perfectly justified in hindsight. Remember we're here if you need anything, sometimes it helps to just unload.

Sorry to hear about your niece blue_eyed_girl. Is it quite sudden or has she been ill for a while? Thinking of you both and sending lots of love.

caitlyn22

OK then. Now I feel very rude and crude! It was:

That Bleeping Bleep With A Tiny Bleep

Immature? Maybe. But did they cause my Christmas lovelies an ounce of pain or unhappiness? Then they're TFWWATW!

Hanley25

So sorry to hear about your neice Blue Eyed Girl. X

mrs-moneypenny

Beg, im so sorry, i know how you are feeling ive been in your shoes myself. sending hugs and support to you and yours.

pigpen

Caitlyn.. just go the whole hog and use the c word.. sometimes there is a need


So sad to hear of everyones sad news

Re adoption.. go for it!! My friend is just at the 'choosing a child' stage.. she has her eye on one and is waiting for a few others info to be passed on to her.. though sadly most come with issues.. drug and alcohol ones mostly.. and a lot have disabilities.. but while it isn't an easy process and there seems to be a lot of self analysis going on.. it all seems pretty straight forward if you have no ongoing issues or criminal activity and it is worth trying given the number of children who just need someone to love them

caitlyn22

FeistyFidget wrote: »

Due to our situation, adoption is something that we've discussed and that I have researched a bit on. In theory the idea is wonderful, in reality it is very different. The adoption process screens any perspective parents as guilty until proven innocent and the process is hell. I know of many couples that have had to quit because the stress and strain was making life unbearable. It varies from area to area, but despite their being such a demand for adoption, there are many things that will make you ineligible - history of depression (even if it is quite in the past), array of medical conditions etc. have a look online for some support groups in your local area and get a feel for what they have to say

Thanks Feisty. One of my friends had a very tough time in the assessment, but I think it's partly because it came on the back of a very upsetting few years of trying and loss, which I know you'll understand. It felt doubly frustrating for her given all she was sacrificing to try for a family, if that makes sense. One of my colleagues gave me some good advice about the process, and has a very similar mindset to me. She said it was difficult at times and infuriating, but that she tried to focus on learning about whether it was right for them, not just whether they right as parents, which makes sense to me, but must be easier said than done when you're being 'judged'. I think I'm looking forward to finding out more, part of me expects they might rule us out early on, and I'd rather get that over with and then it's done and I can get my head around it not being an option.

nic2075

his_missus wrote: »

Hi all!

Just a quick, rather sad note from me. Dad died last Wednesday evening.

Thank you to those of you who always asked how he was xxx

So sorry to hear this honey. My thoughts go out to you. I was also here not so long ago, my mum died Nov 2012 of cancer. I'm here if you need to chat xxx