Daughter moved out - how long until I can 'box her things'?

Rummer

The day I moved out my parents had all the rest of my stuff packed and delivered to my new address. They then had the room redecorated and that weekend had a party with all of their friends :rotfl:

I am very close to my parents and they viewed my moving out as a sign of a job well done and me going out into the world and them regaining some space.

WestonDave

Depends a bit on how your relationship works - I know my mum would have not waited long before making jokes about charging for storage - which would have been fine and a fair hint to me that my stuff was getting in the way and also give me the chance to say that yes I do intended to take it but for example, need to get a bit more storage/shelving etc put in over the Christmas break.

paulineb_2

Why not just ask her what she wants to keep and what she wants to throw out.

seven-day-weekend

She almost certainly will have cherry picked things so as not to clutter up her nice new house....my son and his girlfriend did the same when he bought his flat. We just packed everything up and took it round (as they have no car) and when he said they had no room, just said 'neither have we , if you don't want it, sling it', and left the stuff anyway.

SavingPennies_2

Im going to admit when I moved out I did the same thing as your daughter. I just took the minimum things I really wanted and left loads of stuff behind. It cluttered my mums house for years! Eventually she has thrown most of it out, with my help, but I feel bad that she had to put up with my clutter while I had a lovely clutter free home. I moved far away which didn't help and didn't want her to throw things away without my knowing, but in the end we just got rid of most of it.

I would set aside a full day for her to come round and go through everything with you and for her to be ruthless about what can be chucked/charity shopped and what sentimental pieces can be boxed and tidied away. Oh but do it soon or she will "forget" and you will have it for the next 10 years :rotfl:

Pollycat

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

She almost certainly will have cherry picked things so as not to clutter up her nice new house....my son and his girlfriend did the same when he bought his flat. We just packed everything up and took it round (as they have no car) and when he said they had no room, just said 'neither have we , if you don't want it, sling it', and left the stuff anyway.

I like your style, 7DW. :rotfl:

I think you may be right about 'cherry-picking' but only the OP will know if the stuff that is left is likely to be wanted.

If it's mixing bowls, spatulas, fancy ingredients etc then the OP's daughter may want them as she's into cooking/baking.

I think the sooner the OP has a chat to her daughter about what she wants in her new home the better.

Sally22_2

When I moved out, I had two lots of stuff. One lot from my parents and the other lot from my partners parents house (where I was living for 4 years before buying own place)

Everything from my partners parents came with us on day of moving. Didnt realise how much stuff was in their loft of ours!

The stuff from my parents house was at ours within two weeks. All stuff from the loft.

If she is 25 and a homeowner she needs to take responsibility for her stuff! She needs to either keep, sell or throw. To be honest, buying a house isnt a quick process, as soon as we had dates for completion I was packing up stuff ready for moving. Cant understand why she still has stuff in your kitchen and bathroom!

mountainofdebt

My mum every so often reminds me that my wedding dress is still in my old bedroom.........in 2015 Oh and I celebrate our silver wedding anniversary

Laurajo_2

Aargh nip it in the bud now!

I think it took about ten years for all my stuff to be fully 'moved out'.

My poor mother....she was too soft in hindsight:

Mum: when you come round, do you want to pick up your CDs?
Me: sigh, I will....but I don't really listen to them....
Mum: ok, I'll take them to the charity shop then..
Me: noooo, what are you doing mother?!? You're throwing away my childhood memories bit by bit!!!
Mum: well, do you want to take them to your house then?
Me: ok, I'll do it next week though....

My brother was even worse....whilst clearing out his stuff, she had to ring and ask him if it was ok to chuck out his chocolate body paint.....

balletshoes

cheepskate wrote: »

box it all up , leave it in her room and tell her it is there.

thats what i would do - would you be okay having it all in her bedroom for a couple of months? if she's not collected it by then, and you've told her its all there and she should collect what she wants from it before the end of February say, to let her settle in to her new house, then i think thats more than fair, and then you can do what you want with it if its not been collected by her.