Gifts to return/pay for on 'break up'

happy35

I was in a similar position over 20 years ago and I gave the presents back, then found out a few months later that he had given them to his then new girlfriend for her birthday ha ha. I didnt know what to say when I spotted them in the street with her wearing the earrings and necklace !!!

If I was your daughter I would give the unused presents back but I would keep the perfume, as a teenager I would probably have done as your daughter has and offer to pay for it, however now I would just keep it

Kynthia

I think if she does what she thinks is right it will make things easier for her to get over and move on. Even more so because what she is suggesting seems really fair and kind which says a lot about her.

barba

Many years ago a friend was about to end a relationship, but realising her birthday was around the corner she dragged it out so she would get the presents from him.

I thought it was cruel but she thought it was canny.

rachiibell

OP I am horrified at what some people have said on here your daughter sounds absolutely lovely! Yes she went out with someone, she had some doubts about them but thought things could be worked out and when she realised they couldn't offered to give the gifts back / reimburse the guy. He is the one that sounds like an idiot and I'm glad she's shot of him! From when I was 15 to 18 I went out with a controlling boy a few years older than me and I wish I'd had the emotional maturity to see that it was not right and dump him. Congratulations to your daughter!
Ps. I hope she doesn't give him any money it doesn't sound like he deserves it!

C_Mababejive

Affection and dare i say love cannot really be bought. The boy should put it down to experience and it will stand him in good stead in future.

Saturnalia

If there is only a few squirts of the perfume used, the lad could sell it on. Ok he won't get a lot for it, but he'll get a lot more than the law says he is entitled to - i.e. bog all.

And to those who reckon the girl was rinsing him for gifts, don't you think if she were she'd have kept him around for Christmas too? :rotfl:
(As if the fact that she is giving him these gifts back doesn't make that clear.)

arbroath_lass

Saturnalia wrote: »

And to those who reckon the girl was rinsing him for gifts, don't you think if she were she'd have kept him around for Christmas too? :rotfl:

I haven't seen anyone saying that. All I've read is that her behaviour could be perceived that way. For once on MSE all seem to agree the OP's daughter is a lovely young woman.

HPoirot

Homeagain wrote: »

I think that maybe be his next move (I really hope not) - he needs to be very careful if he decides to take that route

Jilted love can feel very violent at 17, I would cut the boy some slack. No need for you to get into it. Life lessons for your daughter and the boy in question.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

So he emotionally blackmailed her leading up to her birthday. And now he's just trying to blackmail her for money/contact.

Ugh. She's well shot of the little creep.

paulineb_2

Homeagain wrote: »

I think that maybe be his next move (I really hope not) - he needs to be very careful if he decides to take that route

Seriously, just get it done and dusted with as little fuss as possible.

You can't control what he might or might not say.