Good looking women with average looking men - how?

FBaby

When I was a teenager, I was very average looking with a youngest sister always referred to as stunning. I grew up feeling a bit self-conscious and even though I was always attracted by good looking men, always assumed I would have no chance. Yet twice I managed to attract boys who told me that they were more interested in me than my sister because I was more 'mysterious' and something about me made them want to get to know me better. This really booster my confidence.

As I got old(er), I became more attractive as I remained healthy looking, slim and looking younger than my age yet when I was single and dating, I found that who found me attractive wasn't obvious. Some good looking men find me attractive, others not at all, same with the looking average men I met.

When my husband contacted me and I saw his picture, I found him definitely not good looking. Still I decided to meet him and almost immediately found him attractive. He doesn't have typical features that make him stand as good looking and he looks older than his age, but he has the type of charm that makes me feel weak in the knees, confident and warm, but with a hint of shyness which melted my heart. He became gorgeous to me. I then discovered that although he is very slim, his body is all muscles and perfectly proportioned which is certainly a bonus!
Thankfully for me, he felt the same about me.

Unfortunately, my sister is a heavy smoker and at 40, it is starting to really show, making her look older than her age. She is still a good looking woman, but won't make heads turn as she used to systematically. Her partner no doubt still find her gorgeous though.

prowla

Beauty is more than skin deep; it's no good looking nice if you don't have the personality too.

Person_one

Soleil_lune wrote: »

Same.

I find it strange that people think it's shallow to go for someone good looking. Why wouldn't you? LOL. That said, there would need to be something more there.

Why wouldn't you? Well, because you could miss out on being with a wonderful kind, funny, clever, loving person who is a perfect match for you just because of the way their facial bones line up! Doesn't make any sense to me.

Gloomendoom

Person_one wrote: »

Why wouldn't you? Well, because you could miss out on being with a wonderful kind, funny, clever, loving person who is a perfect match for you just because of the way their facial bones line up! Doesn't make any sense to me.

On the other hand, by paying attention to the way facial bones line up, you could end up with someone who is wonderful, kind, funny, clever, loving etc and drop dead gorgeous. :beer:

VestanPance

Person_one wrote: »

Why wouldn't you? Well, because you could miss out on being with a wonderful kind, funny, clever, loving person who is a perfect match for you just because of the way their facial bones line up! Doesn't make any sense to me.

Being those things but not attractive is a friend in my opinion, not a partner. A long term partner requires physical attraction and personality compatibility.

Bazey

LiveOnce wrote: »

When you walk around any good crowded area you always see such beautiful/good looking women with average looking guys.

It baffles me not in a shallow way but in some other ways, women make such an effort to look good so I would have thought they picked better in men.

You see women in media portrayed as vying for men like Clooney, Pitt, Cruise, or whoever the flavour of the year is in movies/TV.

I guess it comes down to maybe women look for other things in men than looks. Is this the case?

Or is it the case that the men who have the balls to ask out women tend to get it, over men who are good looking but are not bold?

Are you Maintenanceman?

HPoirot

Bazey wrote: »

Are you Maintenanceman?

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: You may be right on the money there Bazey .

lostinrates

VestanPance wrote: »

Being those things but not attractive is a friend in my opinion, not a partner. A long term partner requires physical attraction and personality compatibility.

Sexual attraction isn't quite the same as finding something beautiful though.

I find my cats beautiful, my curtains beautiful, some of my friends beautiful but don't want to have sex with them. Many people are physically drawn, and sexually drawn to those things you are saying makes people 'friends' to you, but in a different way to the way they are to friends. Its like friends with chemistry. .

DH is my best friend as well as my lover. If he wasn't my best friend I wouldn't want to have the relationship I have with him, the lifetime commitment. The stuff that goes beyond the good sex. I get excited when he comes home not just because I am physically excited but because of all the other aspects of our relationship.

Sex is fabulous. I love it. I'd describe myself as a very sexual person, but its not the most important aspect of my relationship with my husband. Its a wonderful, exciting and sacred part of it absolutely. But if something happened that meant we couldn't I'd still find my heart beat for him. I've been 'personality compatible' and 'physically compatible' with other lovers. Arguably, in some ways more so...but....that's the magic ingredient really I suppose for me, the bit I cannot quite put my finger on.

I know a lot of both our friends were surprised by the match, DH is reserved and polite, where I was less reserved and often less restrained than I should be. He toed different lines to those I did. Our social circles were different, overlapping maybe, but very different!

But it works. Did I look at home the day we met and go 'phwoar'? No. I didn't. But I do now. Partly because he has matured into himself a but, and partly, more so I imagine, because love does that to one.

Bazey

I thought it was the gay guys that got the chicks. Life is so unfair.

SandC

lostinrates wrote: »

Sexual attraction isn't quite the same as finding something beautiful though.

I find my cats beautiful, my curtains beautiful, some of my friends beautiful but don't want to have sex with them. Many people are physically drawn, and sexually drawn to those things you are saying makes people 'friends' to you, but in a different way to the way they are to friends. Its like friends with chemistry. .

DH is my best friend as well as my lover. If he wasn't my best friend I wouldn't want to have the relationship I have with him, the lifetime commitment. The stuff that goes beyond the good sex. I get excited when he comes home not just because I am physically excited but because of all the other aspects of our relationship.

Sex is fabulous. I love it. I'd describe myself as a very sexual person, but its not the most important aspect of my relationship with my husband. Its a wonderful, exciting and sacred part of it absolutely. But if something happened that meant we couldn't I'd still find my heart beat for him. I've been 'personality compatible' and 'physically compatible' with other lovers. Arguably, in some ways more so...but....that's the magic ingredient really I suppose for me, the bit I cannot quite put my finger on.

I know a lot of both our friends were surprised by the match, DH is reserved and polite, where I was less reserved and often less restrained than I should be. He toed different lines to those I did. Our social circles were different, overlapping maybe, but very different!

But it works. Did I look at home the day we met and go 'phwoar'? No. I didn't. But I do now. Partly because he has matured into himself a but, and partly, more so I imagine, because love does that to one.

Aww, you couldn't ask for more really could you?