Good looking women with average looking men - how?

paulineb_2

andygb wrote: »

Unfortunately you have been unable to use lateral thinking, or indeed any type of thinking to arrive at this conclusion.
The lady is attractive, the guy is quite ordinary - what on earth does that matter?
They are probably attracted to each other because of far more important things than looks or money.
They find each other interesting, they can talk to each other on the same level, they appreciate that they both care for each other, and most importantly respect each other for what they both are.

Agreed, who cares.

paulineb_2

Some people look better with make up, I dont mean because they arent nice looking, but Ive seen friends whove worn make up for a night out and they look great with it on. Me, I like buying make up, Im just too lazy to bother wearing it. I have extremely sensitive skin so I dont bother with foundation and if I go out on a night out I wear a bit of lipstick and some eyeshadow and thats it, if at all, a lot of times I just go out bared faced. I probably wear make up less than half a dozen times a year. Nail varnish and perfume on the other hand, I like having my nails done and I like to wear a bit of perfume

When I was 20 or so, Id never have gone for a night out without make up on, funny, maybe you get more lazy or confident with age.

My mums never been one for wearing make up but anytime she did wear some for a works night out for example, I thought she looked really good

My gran on the other hand, always had a bit of lipstick and a powder compact. Even in her 60s and 70s, she would always have a bit of lipstick on. One of the things that reminds me of her is the smell of the powder, when you are wee you love looking at these things and waiting to be grown up enough yourself to put make up on.

Those pics above, some of them look better with the slap on, some look way better without it.

Saturnalia

Those women look incredible in the after photos with the heavy make-up and correct lighting, but they'd probably look clownish under natural light. Especially the ones with the dark contoured cheeks, that look just doesn't translate to the High Street.

marisco_2

LiveOnce wrote: »

You see women in media portrayed as vying for men like Clooney, Pitt, Cruise, or whoever the flavour of the year is in movies/TV.

I guess it comes down to maybe women look for other things in men than looks. Is this the case?

What one person finds really attractive about another, could be a total turn off to someone else. Maybe I am odd but I have never been attracted to the type of guys you mention above. That doesn't mean to say that having a physical attraction toward someone I would consider being involved with isn't important to me. From the outside looking in people may not see that though.

If I get on really well with someone but am not attracted to them then they will never be anything more than a friend. Sometimes I have been attracted to someone, but have known full well that we are not that compatible so nothing has ever developed. To partner with someone I need to feel that we are compatible and to be attracted to them physically and intellectually.

neverdespairgirl

paulineb wrote: »

My gran on the other hand, always had a bit of lipstick and a powder compact. Even in her 60s and 70s, she would always have a bit of lipstick on. One of the things that reminds me of her is the smell of the powder, when you are wee you love looking at these things and waiting to be grown up enough yourself to put make up on.

Those pics above, some of them look better with the slap on, some look way better without it.

I don't wear lots of make-up. Partly I can't be arsed, partly I don't like it. I usually wear mascara, though, because I have short, white eyelashes and look like a rabbit without it.

I agree with you that smell is very evocative - my mother always wore the same perfume when she and my Dad when out, and one whiff of it and I feel like an 8 year old kissing her goodnight when she was all glammed up and ready to go out.

Vicky123

It would be wrong to assume that plain looking men are all great guys with a good sense of humour who will treat someone with respect, and all the good looking ones are vain and disrespectful.
I'm not fussy I like a man that treats a woman with respect and could body double for Johnny Depp;)

Mrs_Ryan

I've often said I wish I was beautiful. I've been told on many occasions I need to love myself but I'm very insecure, strangely more so now than I was when I was four stones heavier. However I'm not 'classically pretty' I'm still a size 18, and due to my alopecia my hair has grown back at a strange angle and I hate it- I hate the colour and the fact it looks like wire wool I'm shockingly short sighted but won't wear my glasses because I think it makes me look worse.
I really want to be a size 10 and blonde (don't we all ) and I guess well.. Just pretty instead of being strange looking as I think I am. I've said before I'm not and never have been physically attracted to my OH, come to think of it I can't hand on heart truthfully say I've ever actually been physically attracted to anyone I've had a relationship with but it doesn't mean I love them any less. There are people I know (yes males ) who I do get on very well with and from what I pick up from them they tell me I'm a lovely person and all that but I find it hard to believe that's what men actually want? It seems that I only get physically attracted to men I can't have which causes all manner of problems for me.. I wish I could translate some of those feelings into my relationships but try as I might I can't and it's got me into all sorts of trouble (don't ask )
I must admit sometimes I do see couples and I think what is s/he doing with him/her but I'm guilty of forgetting beauty is only skin deep which I think society is also guilty of forgetting.

Gloomendoom

Mrs_Ryan wrote: »

I must admit sometimes I do see couples and I think what is s/he doing with him/her but I'm guilty of forgetting beauty is only skin deep which I think society is also guilty of forgetting.

Is it something society can control, or is it something innate to all, or most, humans?

FatVonD

I've never been attracted to the trappings of wealth, even when I was younger if I saw a guy in a flash car I'd think 'what a w***er' but I still wouldn't date someone I didn't find physically attractive but thankfully what we all find attractive is different. Personally I love a tall, skinny bloke with a big nose and a guitar even though that might not be everyone else's cup of tea.

I think it's futile to try to argue that there aren't a lot of beautiful women with rich men that wouldn't be with them if they weren't rich and famous though (and vice versa, would Tina Malone and Vanessa Feltz be with their younger, fitter men if they weren't famous?), it's very obvious that it goes on. If they're prepared to make the trade then good luck to them, they're adults and both parties know what they're doing.

DH has a workmate who isn't terribly bright who is now paying to build a house (which he will lose, again!) for his third Thai bride but if he's happy to exploit their poverty to have sex with a young, gorgeous woman he wouldn't attract in normal circumstances then I think they're entitled to every penny they can get out of him.

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