Good looking women with average looking men - how?

littlerat

I'm probably below average looking (very overweight ) so that side I don't have.

But the guy I'm interested in right now, is probably average, if looked at by any of you. But I know him as a person, I find him more attractive than most men, I think maybe because females are programmed to find a good partner (basic biology) and ultimately, looks are only a small part of that.

I also think a higher proportion of men are generally considered average or around it, less are considered stunning (say an 8 or higher on a scale of 1-10) than the equivalent of women.

System

Ive never really gone for looks, just someone who I could trust with my heart... oh and a certain amount of sexual compatibility helps.:D

kitrat

liney wrote: »

How modest of you! :rotfl:

Haha yes it took me a little while to realise how that came out! Believe me I am not the kind of girl the OP is talking about, just found some of the comments on here highly insulting to women.

paddy's_mum

I admit that I got so cross that I couldn't read the whole four pages - fuming!

My version of handsome? Simon Weston. A man in the prime of his life who suffered, and used every ounce of his character to help others in even worse straits than himself. To me, he is the most handome man the 20th century has ever produced.

Looks? Looks! Bu gg er off ... and hope that you, or those you love, don't end up disfigured ..... and rejected.

paulineb_2

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Mrs G rarely, if ever, wears wear make up. She doesn't use hair tongs or hair spray.

I may be biased, but I would rate her as a lot better looking than I am.

I'm not rich either.

I dont wear make up either, maybe a couple of times a year, dont use tongs or hairspray either. Ive been referred to as beautiful by people in the past, I think I scrub up ok, but as other people have said, beauty is subjective, in the same way Im attracted to some people and others not, some people will be attracted to me and others not. Some people might think I have a face like a burst ball, thats ok, you look the way you look and Im quite happy with me, not just how I look but me as a person.

My brother is a very good looking guy, hes in a long term relationship with someone who is quite a lot older than him and for a long time he wasnt working, he is now and has been for a good few years now. She certainly wasnt with him for his money and knowing my brother as I know him, he wouldnt have been with his gf because she had more money than he did.

Its possible for two people to love one another even if one is better looking than the other, or whether one is better off than the other, if people truly love one another and want to be together they arent going to be sitting going, I look better than you do, you look better than me and if there are imbalances in earning power, people get over that, lots of couples dont earn the same as each other.

System

Looks fade . You've got to be pretty shallow to choose someone for looks alone.

moneysniffer

DigForVictory wrote: »

Me, I get a bit weak at the knees for intelligence. If Ian Hislop were ever to come onto the market, I suspect I'd be part of an interested rush...

Haha! I am not alone! Thank you for making me feel normal

And to the OP - believe it or not, there are some women out there who, in addition to being attractive, are also intelligent (:eek: shock horror!), and they may be attracted to intelligent men, or simply the man they 'click' with, regardless of the wrapper. Is that really so difficult to comprehend :huh:

neverdespairgirl

I couldn't be in a relationship with someone I didn't find very attractive. To that extent, looks are important to me - except that "attractive" means an awful lot more than just what someone looks like.

I think OH is the sexiest, most gorgeous man in the entire world. But I can't possibly dissect what proportion of that is what he actually looks like, and what is because of every other aspect of him.

I do remember I thought he was good-looking when I first met him (in a not-intending-to-go-anywhere-with-it-way) but that's not why I later came to find him amazingly gorgeously attractive.

I think it's very likely indeed that OH is more objectively good looking than I am - but fortunately, he doesn't seem to care.

Soleil_lune

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I couldn't be in a relationship with someone I didn't find very attractive. To that extent, looks are important to me - except that "attractive" means an awful lot more than just what someone looks like.

Same.

I find it strange that people think it's shallow to go for someone good looking. Why wouldn't you? LOL. That said, there would need to be something more there.

nmlc

Morning

It's been interesting reading how different people view what contributes to how "attractive" someone is. I'm a very average looking female, who's always had a major weight battle until the last 4.5 years when I've lost nearly 5 stone in weight and am now at a steady maintained weight where I'm happy with where I am. Now when I look in the mirror I don't see a fat lump of lard, with a sad look in my eyes. I see someone slimmer with a happier look in my eyes. It's a bit of cliche, but you need to be happy and love yourself first before you can love anyone else (that's not meant in a self obsessed vane way also mentally not just physically). Realistically I could do with losing another half a stone but I'm not really that bothered.

I think for most people looks are the first thing you see and we all have a natural human reaction as to what you find attractive - for me I don't rate skinny men, I naturally like broad men with a bit meat on them - not fat though, dark hair, etc - don't like blond haired men! I look for good sense of humour, honesty, being able to look me in the eye when talking to me, hard working, sexual compatability. Also attractiveness is about that "click" some people you just "click" with others you don't, most people I know are equals in their relationships - 1 person doesn't class themselves as better than the other.

Like lots of other people have said everyone has different traits they find attractive - it would be very boring if everyone like the same things!

nmlcx