Good looking women with average looking men - how?

LiveOnce

I think I see that money, confidence, access to resources seduce women more than looks.

There's a really fat guy on a social media site who is engaged to my friend, the dude makes some mulla's in Dubai and always pampers my friend. The guy has a turkey neck and overweight so it must be more than looks that she likes.

thorsoak

For me, its the voice that can make me go weak at the knees....

paulineb_2

adindas wrote: »

Believe it or not, there is an art and science of seducing women. This is what the Pick Up Artist (PUA) guru such as Neil Strauss, Erik von Markovik is very good at. PUAs have a very good proven record to seduce women into bed ...

They are relying on charming, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and combined with prescriptive actions such as kino escalation. They know how to lead the chat/talk (not chit chat like the one who is just flapping their mouth), know the way to escalate to the stage where they want the relation to be ....

Here is a little introduction on PUA
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pickup_artist

I've read some of that stuff before. Quite sad really, think men who need to pick up women in this way have a few issues of their own.

Georgiegirl256

thorsoak wrote: »

For me, its the voice that can make me go weak at the knees....

For me it's if someone who doesn't normally wear glasses has a pair on, I don't know what it is? Maybe all of a sudden they look really suave and intelligent?! :rotfl:

mrsrwallace

haven't been on this in a while and thought I would throw my penny's worth into the topic. I ended my marriage last summer and thought I would be a happy singleton (had no intention of being in a relationship ever again to be quite frank). However, I am now in a relationship (albeit casual - nothing too serious ) with what some people would say is a balding overweight middle-aged man. I knew him while I was married and he asked me out for dinner last September. I immediately said yes. He is funny, kind, has old-fashioned values and makes me laugh which to me is the most attractive feature ever. He would remark that he cannot believe he is with me (trust me I am not a stunner by any stretch of the imagination - but I am quite a bit younger and have a slim build now). I am attracted to him physically, he has beautiful eyes and a great smile but I am attracted to his personality more. He makes me feel genuinely amazing in his company should it be going for a coffee or just a walk. We do get looks when we are out in a bar but it bothers him more than it bothers me. At my age (40s) I have the common sense to appreciate happiness and we just enjoy being together.

harrys_nan

mrswallace, that is a beautiful compliment to your man, you are very lucky to have each other.
have fun and enjoy each other xx

flutterby_lil

aileth wrote: »

Here's the thing.....



Looks don't mean everything. I'd rather an average bloke with a fantastic personality than a vacuous stunner.

It's probably a bit to do with security too. They think the average fella won't run off with someone else as they've got such a 'hot' girlfriend, whereas if your boyfriend is very good looking he can have the pick of the bunch really and no doubt keep getting approached by women. Average men blend in.

^^^This - you took the words right out of my mouth

Georgiegirl256

mrsrwallace wrote: »

haven't been on this in a while and thought I would throw my penny's worth into the topic. I ended my marriage last summer and thought I would be a happy singleton (had no intention of being in a relationship ever again to be quite frank). However, I am now in a relationship (albeit casual - nothing too serious ) with what some people would say is a balding overweight middle-aged man. I knew him while I was married and he asked me out for dinner last September. I immediately said yes. He is funny, kind, has old-fashioned values and makes me laugh which to me is the most attractive feature ever. He would remark that he cannot believe he is with me (trust me I am not a stunner by any stretch of the imagination - but I am quite a bit younger and have a slim build now). I am attracted to him physically, he has beautiful eyes and a great smile but I am attracted to his personality more. He makes me feel genuinely amazing in his company should it be going for a coffee or just a walk. We do get looks when we are out in a bar but it bothers him more than it bothers me. At my age (40s) I have the common sense to appreciate happiness and we just enjoy being together.

That's lovely. He sounds a really nice guy, and I hope your relationship continues to grow and flourish.

paulineb_2

Id probably have posted less on this topic if I had realised the OP enjoyed making personal remarks about peoples looks (mine) if you happened to disagree with the comments they have made on a thread.

In fact, I wouldnt have bothered my !!!! posting at all.

TopQuark

thorsoak wrote: »

For me, its the voice that can make me go weak at the knees....

Indeed. My fiance is French and I never get tired of the accent!

For me, looks are important, but only if backed up with personality of course. My OH is very attractive, both to me personally, and in a more conventional sense. I guess I am also considered to be so (it's cringe-worthy writing such a thing about yourself), so for people sad enough to compare our relative attractiveness, they would probably find we match up reasonably well.

One thing that does play on my mind a teensy bit though, is getting older. I think OH will age far better than I, with his olive skin (I am super fair and blonde). I need to stop being so vain!

All that said, looks are only a part of the equation. I could not be with a good-looking but intellectually vacuous man in a month of Sundays. Equally, if our interests and worldview were not compatible, it would be sayonara.

Each to their own I say. It's really nobody else's business what two people find attractive in each other.