ive done it again

Lunar_Eclipse

ziptia wrote: »

I am going to tell my daughter thay im going to take her shopping after Christmas to buy more presents for her

Obviously it's completely up to you, but I don't see the need to do that. £46ish is plenty. You could even give her some of it in cash (£10?) if you wanted, so she could buy something reduced in the sales.

I'm sure Morrisons had Barbies for £5/6 last time I looked.

ziptia

we were not allowed contact with him until after his court appearance which has been and gone. I thought he was going to try to sort himself out. if you had a son that was sleeping rough even though he had done so much to you in the past wouldn't you take him in as a tempoary measure until the council gave him a roof over his head. I feel such a fool to think he wouldn't do this again to us

gingin_2

B and M had lots of cheap moshi bits in yesterday.

£46 is ample. I wouldn't promise her another shopping trip because then you'll have to explain why and i'd imagine knowing that her brother sold her presents could really hurt her. I'd just make the best for her with what you have and not tell her the truth.

My daughter is 9 and likes quantity over quality lol. Why not make her up a big gift basket with lots of bits and pieces, sweets are always a good cheap bulker out

ziptia

my daughter presents were kept in the top of a wardrobe that is not used in my bedroom and it was only by chance that my husband went in there to find a old Christmas costume for my daughter that we seen that the presents were gone. im just so glad it wasn't xmas eve that we found out they were missing. thank you everyone for the support. I am thinking straighter this afternoon and I know what I have to do to sort this out

slightlyconfused1

For 8 year olds lots of little, cheap presents all wrapped up will make a magical Christmas. Lots of great ideas here to save your daughters day.

You have my full sympathy. I can't imagine how hurt you are today. I am sure you will manage to pick up cheap moshi monster bits. All parents know that kids of that age don't measure the value of a gift in money.

Reams

ziptia wrote: »

we were not allowed contact with him until after his court appearance which has been and gone. I thought he was going to try to sort himself out. if you had a son that was sleeping rough even though he had done so much to you in the past wouldn't you take him in as a tempoary measure until the council gave him a roof over his head. I feel such a fool to think he wouldn't do this again to us

I couldn't turn my back either. Remind yourself of the addiction he has so as not to take it too personally. It's almost the drug that stole the gifts really.

Try not to spend all your CB on Monday for presents as money is tight. The present opening is all over and done with so quickly and there is more to Christmas than that. Some fun in the afternoon with silly games and time together will stay in your daughter's memory longer than what she unwrapped. By all means take her out with you after Christmas, just you and her doing something she likes, no need for more presents though as the moment will have passed.

If it's any consolation, out of my many years receiving from my parents, I only remember one gift. I remember far more the fun and walks to feed the swans on Boxing Day with Mum and Dad. Oh, and Bubble and Squeak for breakfast!

skylight

Also, in this weeks MSE email, there is a 40% all at Brantano - plus this works on sale items so you may be able to get some shoes/boots cheaply.

paulineb_2

ziptia wrote: »

I will have £46 ish on Monday my child benefit money she likes poppet from moshi monsters and Barbie and dolls. I am going to home bargains on Monday morning to see what I can get for her. I am going to tell my daughter thay im going to take her shopping after Christmas to buy more presents for her also I am going to try and sell some stuff from around the house to raise some more money

Dont sell things unless its stuff you are sure you will get the value for. Im sure she'll be quite happy with getting a few extra presents after Christmas.

I dont know what its like to be in your situation, but you said in your opening post hes stolen from you many many times, please let this be the very last time. Oh and if you do contact him again, once he is hopefully on his feet however long that takes, he repays what he stole, all of it, even if its a quid a week or two quid a week.

I know he has a drug addiction, but as far as Im concerned, stealing your 8 year old sisters presents is about as low as it gets. I worked with drug users for a long time and I do know what its like when people need a fix, they will sell anything of value, even if its not theirs to sell and probably for a ridiculously low amount.

Do you have a poundworld near you? I mentioned it earlier, they do loads of kids games, poundland the same, home bargains is cheap but poundland can be even cheaper.

You have my sympathy, but hopefully this might be a wake up call for him and if its not, then you'll have to make some decisions about what kind of contact you have with him in the future, hes got a lot of making up to do to people. Finally, I do know people who have thieved, lied and put their family through hell and got clean, the choice is his where he goes from here.

Reams

skylight wrote: »

Also, in this weeks MSE email, there is a 40% all at Brantano - plus this works on sale items so you may be able to get some shoes/boots cheaply.

What? You must work for them is all I can say.
Just the smell of synthetic whatever on entering their stores makes me need to exit and breathe. Same in Primark etc.

Lieja

I'm another that thinks £46 is plenty for gifts for an 8yo. My OH's daughter is 8 in Feb and we're going down the 'lots of little cheap things' route rather than one expensive present. She's barely used the stuff we got her last year so we've decided to go for slightly cheaper things this year and spend more on 'activities' type stuff.