What to do..

kelpie35

Don't be sad Simon, count your blessings now and don't look back, but forward.

Tell yourself this is the beginning of my new life, and be positive.

Bogof_Babe

ViolaLass wrote: »

Having had sex before doesn't mean you want to jump straight into bed with the next guy you find interesting. Assuming this to be the case is somewhat offensive. I made my OH wait weeks, my sister-in-law made her now husband wait months. Nothing to do with being 'innocent' or pretending to be, but wanting to wait, for whatever reason.

Nor does the OP have to keep things platonic just because he doesn't plan to jump into bed as soon as possible. Your view on these things seems a little overly black-and-white.

Fair enough, I consider myself reprimanded. However it sounds very much like they are virtually living together. I still haven't worked out why an arrangement that was initially so they wouldn't be alone over Christmas hasn't ended by now, especially considering there's a small child involved.

Speaking of which, another slight anomaly - if the young woman is in the habit of working 12-hour shifts (or even normal length ones), and she lives alone (which must be the case or she wouldn't have been alone for Christmas), who looks after the child while she's at work? I'm wondering whether her ex actually has 'custody' (or whatever it's called these days), which would explain a lot. As she is only 22 it's unlikely the child is school age yet, so that's an awful lot of child care.

But... Happy New Year Simon, and why on earth would you feel sad with such a seemingly bright future on the horizon? Got to be better than 2013 eh?

poet123

SimonSays wrote: »

Bit sad to see some people who don't believe me. But you are entitled to your opinion.

Last night was good. Was nice spending it with someone. Got a hug at midnight.

I'm having new year blues. I just feel really worthless today.

I think New Year always stirs up emotions. Think positive, New Year new start, new relationship? You sound like a nice, thoughtful chap and I wish you well in 2014.

SimonSays

As for the child. I know she speaks to her mum alot regarding her. So I don't know. I don't want to pry.

SimonSays

So shes gone back to her place now. It was really nice this christmas. Doesn't have to be lonely times.

Just need to prepare for coffee tomorrow.

busiscoming2

SimonSays wrote: »

Bit sad to see some people who don't believe me. But you are entitled to your opinion.

Last night was good. Was nice spending it with someone. Got a hug at midnight.

I'm having new year blues. I just feel really worthless today.

Don't feel bad. You have had a lovely time recently with your lady friend. Things can only get better, you have so much to look forward to.

SimonSays

I know coffee tomorrow then who knows. If it goes well I'll see if she wants to go Jamie Olivers for dinner.

SimonSays

Sounds silly, but does anyone have any tips. This is my first date (she called it that) for coming up to 7-8 years

SimonSays

Sorry I just woryr about mucking things up

Laurajo_2

Just treat it as you would normally - try not to get worked up as it's a 'date'.

Be yourself - it seems to be working so far. Presumably, she feels comfortable with you - she's been stopping at your house after all.

Alternatively, get the bryl cream out, smother yourself in lynx deodorant (aka 'rampant' pour hommes), buy her some flowers from the local garage ask her if it hurt when she fell from heaven. With dramatic eyebrow wriggling.