I need help!!! I don't know where to turn

asparagus1968

soory, I think I am right in saying (and looks like others agree)
if you are a named party to a joint account you cannot "steal" money from it!
you are both jointly responsible for it and any overdraft it incurs, and can both put in and take out money whenever you want.

glasgowsaver2011

Thank you Asparagus, you cannot steal money from a joint account.

He has had many chanes to withdraw money from it, either in person ata branch (every penny paid in withdrawn) or £200 per day if unable to get to a branch.

At the very worst I would withdraw it all and put it into the mortgage, or electricity bill, or council tax as at least then it is in household bills for a house he owns

AMILLIONDOLLARS

So just because he has not had an opportunity to withdraw the money, its alright to take it all!!

Let's hope that neither one of you, are in a position where your partners takes all your wages from a joint account. I am glad that you won't see it as them stealing from you.

AMD

glasgowsaver2011

It does not matter what anyone sees it as.

In law it is not theft.

I am sure he could go by a cashpoint and withdraw it if he wanted.

He deserves everything he gets.

For richer for poorer, for better for worse.

yet when it is worse and poorer he leaves.....

BMG

I have spoken to the solicitor again and he again adviced me not to touch the money. By all means allow the dds to go out but dont remove it in cash.
That is two lots of legal advice taken with the same outcome.

Muser1

I understand leaving if he felt deceived etc but to just vanish into thin air and not withdraw wages just seems so bizarre. What are both parties living on if neither are taking money out?

AMILLIONDOLLARS

glasgowsaver2011 wrote: »

It does not matter what anyone sees it as.

In law it is not theft.

I am sure he could go by a cashpoint and withdraw it if he wanted.

He deserves everything he gets.

For richer for poorer, for better for worse.

yet when it is worse and poorer he leaves.....

It matters very much when you're standing in that person's shoes! We have only heard one side to this story, so I'll be reserving any comments!

AMD

BMG

I appreciate all your comments. I am struggling to know what to do about everything. I cant get my head around it all.

I am going to take a few days to try and sort everything out.

glasgowsaver2011

BMG wrote: »

I have spoken to the solicitor again and he again adviced me not to touch the money. By all means allow the dds to go out but dont remove it in cash.
That is two lots of legal advice taken with the same outcome.

So he says you cant touch it, now he says you can to pay for direct debits.

What if you need money for petrol or food.

or are you meant to starve

of course you can touch it, its your money.

AMILLIONDOLLARS

Why pay for legal advice if you are going to ignore it!

The advice was quite clear don't touch it, but allow the DD instructions to continue. The status quo remains unchanged, she has not put herself into a position whereby she could be harassed, verbally abused or asked to return anything.

How is she going to feed herself? She is going to learn to stand on her own two feet and not rely on someone else to put the food in her mouth. The reason she is in this mess in the first place, was that she relied on another person, lesson learnt the hard way.

She could now be illegible for benefits now that he has gone, time to look into selling the house and starting again. she is sitting on a loan given to her, by her family that was meant for home improvements, time to use this. There are options, she just needs to look out for them.

I wish her all the best.

AMD