I need help!!! I don't know where to turn

Gigervamp

Feel free to talk.

Despite what's happened to your relationship, you must be very worried.

heartbreak_star

We don't mind at all.

I wonder whether some talking between you might come of this situation?

Whatever happens, I hope he is ok and am impressed with your dash over there!

HBS x

AMILLIONDOLLARS

Bublin1 wrote: »

So he disappears on you and now wants you when HE is in need......Lord help me.

Not with that attitude. When Jesus was nailed to the cross, even he before his death, gave forgiveness!!

Hopefully the OP husband is not in the same situation. I would encourage her to go, for her own peace of mind, life is full of what ifs, I am sure she does not want her life to be full of this sentiment.

It reassuring to know God does not discriminate, no matter who we are or what we do.


AMD

thecassman86

AMILLIONDOLLARS wrote: »

Bublin1 wrote: »

So he disappears on you and now wants you when HE is in need......Lord help me.

Not with that attitude. When Jesus was nailed to the cross, even he before his death, gave forgiveness!!

Hopefully the OP husband is not in the same situation. I would encourage her to go, for her own peace of mind, life is full of what ifs, I am sure she does not want her life to be full of this sentiment.

It reassuring to know God does not discriminate, no matter who we are or what we do.


AMD

I'm going to hazard a guess and say that i don't think it was intended to be taken literally...

AMILLIONDOLLARS

thecassman86 wrote: »

I'm going to hazard a guess and say that i don't think it was intended to be taken literally...

I guess you are right!!:rotfl:

AMD

Bublin1

AMILLIONDOLLARS wrote: »

Not with that attitude. When Jesus was nailed to the cross, even he before his death, gave forgiveness!!

Hopefully the OP husband is not in the same situation. I would encourage her to go, for her own peace of mind, life is full of what ifs, I am sure she does not want her life to be full of this sentiment.

It reassuring to know God does not discriminate, no matter who we are or what we do.


AMD

Alright, alright :rotfl:

lilbert

BMG wrote: »

Update
I am currently stood outside the hospital 100 miles from home waiting for doctors to do more tests on oh. He is in a bad way. He has many broken bones and ribs.

I am posting this here as I have no one else to talk to. Hope you dj't mind.

I was upset this morning when I saw a post accusing me of being a hoaxer. This not what I needed to see at the moment in the circumstances. Spiteful threads are not welcome

Talk away BMG and ignore those who aren't going to be helpful! I would do exactly the same in your situation you are incredibly loyal and to be there for him shows how much you care. Please let us know how he gets on, so sorry this has happened on top of everything else. X

Cynical_Monkey

Having read this thread from start to finish, I'm really not sure what I make of it - My personal judgments, opinions and thoughts aside though, here's what I'd do right now if I were you;

1. The money in the joint account can legally be used to pay the bills. In this situation, don't lower the payments to the energy companies, increase them as essentially, you're buying yourself time with his money.

2. Leave the hospital. I know the christian view says you should be there even though he's wronged you but consider what happens next. The relationship won't recover from this and all it adds is mental confusion, stress and anxiety.

3. File for divorce citing unreasonable behavior - Refusing to pay for housekeeping falls under this as does his attitude during this thread.

4. Get the debts down to an absolute minimum payment.

5. Speak to your local Citizens Advice Bureau about your disability as if it's serious enough for you to need home adaptations, it almost certainly would entitle you to some sort of benefits especially as you've noted depression. This alone is enough justification for disability benefits if a doctor has issued a prescription.

6. Plan your meals a week in advance, buy what you need and only what you need - Use Jamie Oliver's money saving meals as a starting point - LINK: Recipes from the program

7. Plan for the journey ahead.

Muser1

I challenge anyone to receive a call like that and not do exactly what the op did. It's a really terrible situation. Does he have family at the hospital are they talking?

girlsmum

So sorry to hear what has happened, and I hope he is going to be OK.