'Don't have kids unless you are ready to marry' says judge

Mojisola

Saturnalia wrote: »

Who even asks other people why they aren't married?!? Is this really A Thing?

It's more likely to be A Thing when one partner dies and the survivor finds he/she isn't entitled to a Bereavement Payment or a Widowed Parent's Allowance or a Bereavement Allowance;

or that the survivor ends up paying IHT because he/she isn't entitled to a spousal exemption;

or, when a couple haven't sorted out wills, the survivor has to sell the family home and give the money to those entitled under the intestacy rules, etc.

unicorn1984

Kind of makes marriage more business like in that instance really..... I know its all real and important, but its so cold and financially based! LOL

Savemesomemoneyplease

Mojisola wrote: »

It's more likely to be A Thing when one partner dies and the survivor finds he/she isn't entitled to a Bereavement Payment or a Widowed Parent's Allowance or a Bereavement Allowance;

or that the survivor ends up paying IHT because he/she isn't entitled to a spousal exemption;

or, when a couple haven't sorted out wills, the survivor has to sell the family home and give the money to those entitled under the intestacy rules, etc.

But what about a couple who are in their 20s?

Marriage should be about love, with legal benefits as simply that - benefits.

You're so clinical.

Saturnalia

Mojisola wrote: »

It's more likely to be A Thing when one partner dies and the survivor finds he/she isn't entitled to a Bereavement Payment or a Widowed Parent's Allowance or a Bereavement Allowance;

or that the survivor ends up paying IHT because he/she isn't entitled to a spousal exemption;

or, when a couple haven't sorted out wills, the survivor has to sell the family home and give the money to those entitled under the intestacy rules, etc.

And that, just like anything else to with their relationship, is their problem. Not yours.

Mojisola

unicorn1984 wrote: »

Kind of makes marriage more business like in that instance really..... I know its all real and important, but its so cold and financially based! LOL

For the people who know their relationship is very strong and don't feel the need to get married from that point of view, it's still worth considering it for the legal and financial aspects.

I've got several relatives who did the legal thing for the financial benefits. They had wonderful relationships but also wanted to make sure that their partners wouldn't lose out when they died just because they didn't sign a bit of paper.

Mojisola

Saturnalia wrote: »

And that, just like anything else to with their relationship, is their problem. Not yours.

Did I say it was?

lostinrates

Savemesomemoneyplease wrote: »

But what about a couple who are in their 20s?

Marriage should be about love, with legal benefits as simply that - benefits.

You're so clinical.

People die in their twenties and when they are in love, sad but true. A huge motivation for us at the time. Thankfully, I didn't!

Love doesn't wash with HMRC, for example. Part of love for me, is making sure, as the one likely to go first, my affairs are as well organised and "clinically' dealt with so that he has as little to worry about with regard to that as possible afterwards.

Savemesomemoneyplease

lostinrates wrote: »

People die in their twenties and when they are in love, sad but true. A huge motivation for us at the time. Thankfully, I didn't!

Love doesn't wash with HMRC, for example. Part of love for me, is making sure, as the one likely to go first, my affairs are as well organised and "clinically' dealt with so that he has as little to worry about with regard to that as possible afterwards.

Yes I know.

But in your 20s you surely shouldn't be left high and dry? Just like any other single 20.

lostinrates

Savemesomemoneyplease wrote: »

Yes I know.

But in your 20s you surely shouldn't be left high and dry? Just like any other single 20.

What? Who is clinical now? Not every single twenty year old has lost their ' life partner ' to death! That the legality is in place to make the bereavement easier, rights to the home/ finance and inheritance automatic were will etc not in place cannot replace it but doesn't hurt.

Savemesomemoneyplease

lostinrates wrote: »

What? Who is clinical now? Not every single twenty year old has lost their ' life partner ' to death! That the legality is in place to make the bereavement easier, rights to the home/ finance and inheritance automatic were will etc not in place cannot replace it but doesn't hurt.

Exactly, other posters are implying one should get married as soon as they psychically can to protect the behinds!