Nice People Thread Number 10 -the official residence of Nice People

Spirit_2

I asked about ideas for a few days away and had great suggestions - Barcelona and Lisbon being my favourites Mr S knows them both well and was happy with either. However the situation in Ukraine has been causing OH some anxiety and by the middle of the week going away was off.

As things are looking up we made a decision tonight. We will go to Cyprus for four nights - to somewhere we know well - where I could go alone and be happy if needs be and he does not come .

Tahlullah

LydiaJ wrote: »

Tahlullah, I think NDG will probably delete the photo from her post soon, so she might appreciate it if you don't quote the actual photo in your post either.

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Thank you for letting me know Lj, have edited my post.

lostinrates

Spirit wrote: »

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As things are looking up we made a decision tonight. We will go to Cyprus for four nights - to somewhere we know well - where I could go alone and be happy if needs be and he does not come .

Excellent backup planning !


Regarding the other subject earlier, of addiction, having spent all afternoon with my hairdresser and knowing he has a past issue and a current stress I was sad to find him at the train station a little worse for wear when I picked up DH. Its lovely to know he lovesh use both a lot though.

DH took his suit trousers off to sit in the back with dog dog, which was making hairdresser scream with mirth ( and worse) but we couldn't him in the back with the dog and didn't want to leave him there. Its not a long detour to run him from that town to the next one, but it felt like it. I know his 'sponsor', it was she who introduced me to him. I am sure there must be an etiquette for those in the loop but I'm not.

zagubov

Good news Nikkster, especially about your dad! :j
Masomnia sorry about the job/car outcomes. For the job, there's no substitute for just keep plugging away at it.

Don't know too much about car write-off situations. I'm sort of a thrash it to death driver and when I do have to exchange it when getting anything new I always sell to someone I know for the trade-in price.

Spirit Cyprus sounds like a good place. Always wanted to visit it.

neverdespairgirl

Spirit wrote: »

The receptionist was being tactical. If you have not chosen anything then you cannot be disappointed when you do not get it.

Is this about location - a home birth/maternity unit decision - or elective C vs the other route.

Because Isaac was born via emergency caesarian after induction and labour, I'm supposed to see a consultant to work out whether to try labour again, or go for an elective section this time.

The good news, though, is that I was downgraded from "medium risk" to "low risk" pregnancy today. I started off as "medium" because of my advanced age (over 35), and previous caesarian. Neither of those factors has actually changed, obviously, but as all my scans, blood tests, blood pressure, baby size and so forth are boringly normal, they've decided my scarred, geriatric self can cope with baby #2.

Being sick all the time has been not much fun for me, but fortunately, has done Aethelbald no harm at all, he's bouncing around, the picture of foetal health for 30 weeks' gestation.

The positive consequences include being able to go to a clinic 2 minutes' walk away for my next few midwifery appointments, instead of schlepping over to UCLH every time.

Generali

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Because Isaac was born via emergency caesarian after induction and labour, I'm supposed to see a consultant to work out whether to try labour again, or go for an elective section this time.

The good news, though, is that I was downgraded from "medium risk" to "low risk" pregnancy today. I started off as "medium" because of my advanced age (over 35), and previous caesarian. Neither of those factors has actually changed, obviously, but as all my scans, blood tests, blood pressure, baby size and so forth are boringly normal, they've decided my scarred, geriatric self can cope with baby #2.

Being sick all the time has been not much fun for me, but fortunately, has done Aethelbald no harm at all, he's bouncing around, the picture of foetal health for 30 weeks' gestation.

The positive consequences include being able to go to a clinic 2 minutes' walk away for my next few midwifery appointments, instead of schlepping over to UCLH every time.

Mrs Generali had a VBAC with the second after the first [STRIKE]PITA[/STRIKE] Generalissimo was born by planned Caesar (#1 was breach).

#1 was born in UCLH and that led to the scales falling from my eyes about the NHS. The doctors were very professional during the op but I think I've made my opinion perfectly clear about how I feel about the nursing care afterwards.

#2 was born at The Birth Centre in Tooting (now closed, sadly) and the experience was amazing if expensive. My only complaint was that the bed could have been slightly larger and more comfortable. That complaint tells you all you need to know about how well it went.

michaels

DD1 was emergency section due to decelerations which meant a blue light from the not-very local birthing centre (now closed) to the even more of a pita to get to general hospital. This meant that we were not allowed birthing centre option for the next too but we were able to choose the maternity unit (now closed) at the nearest hospital (which is much closer and easier to get to than the 'catchment' hospital) and both the others were 'straight-forward' normal births, dd2 (I think) was considerably late but luckily DW was in labour when we came in for the induction appointment DW was well into the old enough to allegedly be higher risk category but no issues at all with this.

vivatifosi

michaels wrote: »

DD1 was emergency section due to decelerations which meant a blue light from the not-very local birthing centre (now closed) to the even more of a pita to get to general hospital. This meant that we were not allowed birthing centre option for the next too but we were able to choose the maternity unit (now closed) at the nearest hospital (which is much closer and easier to get to than the 'catchment' hospital) and both the others were 'straight-forward' normal births, dd2 (I think) was considerably late but luckily DW was in labour when we came in for the induction appointment DW was well into the old enough to allegedly be higher risk category but no issues at all with this.

I still don't get why our local A&E and maternity were put in the hospital with the worst road links. I'm sure it has nothing to do with the fact it is the least valuable site for redevelopment due to flood risk. Plans have already been drawn up to build houses on part of the HH site. I wouldn't mind the hospital not being here if there was one we could actually get to in an emergency. Generally it is just easier to go up M1 to the L&D, even though it is further away.

michaels

vivatifosi wrote: »

I still don't get why our local A&E and maternity were put in the hospital with the worst road links. I'm sure it has nothing to do with the fact it is the least valuable site for redevelopment due to flood risk. Plans have already been drawn up to build houses on part of the HH site. I wouldn't mind the hospital not being here if there was one we could actually get to in an emergency. Generally it is just easier to go up M1 to the L&D, even though it is further away.

I guess the 'centralised' site is the one closest to the largest population but it certainly leaves your town and mine a long time (even if not distance) from the A&E. for us WGC is only about 5 minutes away compared to 25 on a good day to W but because our town comes under the W Herts Trust we are supposed to use W. In reality even S is much closer time wise than W now WGC is downgraded.

It is a shame they decided against the super hospital at H by the Uni where instead they have now built the incinerator

SingleSue

James was born in a consultant led ward at the big hospital, this was because of my endometriosis and ex hubby's diabetes. He suffered some decelerations and they attempted ventouse twice and then did forceps (the type now banned).

Middle was born in a midwife led ward at the big hospital, we were supposed to be in the consultant led ward but they had no space. He suffered acute decelerations, old meconium in the waters when broken and they had to monitor his heart beat via an internal monitor as they were finding it difficult to pick it up via an external monitor.

Everything went wrong with that delivery and we were extremely lucky to leave the hospital with a live baby, albeit one which had suffered an injury to his brain and shoulder (he was literally yanked out when his heart rate disappeared completely)

Youngest was born on the consultant led ward, he was a trial of labour with theatre set up ready to spring into action at the slightest deceleration. His delivery was absolutely normal, no assistance required and unlike the other two, very fast...unfortunately, he was also early and required assistance due to being prem.

It was discovered during the third pregnancy that the reason the first two got stuck*, was because I had a birth defect in my pelvis which prevented it from opening properly (fused one side) and with them being overdue, it meant there wasn't enough give in their skulls or my pelvis. So with youngest, they decided to induce bang on my due date....it was only when he was born that they realised the scans had got it wrong and he wasn't due for another month or so!

Mind you, my first home midwife was right, she said I was only designed for 6 and a half pound babies and that they should induce early to ensure a smaller baby size. Youngest was bang on 6 and a half pounds and early, he didn't get stuck and instead of the 33.5 and 25 hour labours with the first two, his was 2 hours and 40 minutes!

*Middle son also had a true knot in his cord, so as he was descending the birth canal, the knot was being pulled tighter and tighter, cutting off his oxygen supply.