Nice People Thread Number 10 -the official residence of Nice People

SingleSue

vivatifosi wrote: »

That's really interesting, thanks. DH has personal plates on his car.

I had a personal plate on one of my cars...except the personal plate wasn't mine but ex husband's bosses wife's!

When we sold the car, we had to retain the number plate and then transfer the ownership back to him as part of our purchase conditions.

The way I remember my current number plate is by remembering KP nuts, it's not actually the letters of the registration but something to do with the nuts aids the memory.

SingleSue

LydiaJ wrote: »

It takes years to get to that point. It begins with one person being a bit unreasonable and the other person being "nice" and not making a fuss about it, and it progresses imperceptibly to a point you would never have accepted if you'd been presented with the possibility at the beginning. But by that time it seems normal to you, and you have forgotten that this is not how life is supposed to be. It is not until after you are no longer in the relationship that you gradually realise how much that you put up with was completely indefensible, and how unwittingly you contributed to the situation by not standing up for yourself at the beginning when it was still subtle.

I can relate to this completely, without going into it, it happened to me too and was one of the reasons cited in the divorce.

lemonjelly

michaels wrote: »

Pah, you look up and see something like that and it makes drudging into work seem even more pointless, best to just keep the blinkers on

Generali wrote: »

Crivens mate. I'm pretty fed up with work myself but this is desperate stuff. Are you ok? Sounds like you need some sun or something there old boy.

Any chance of a nice fat redundancy?

I think (& I appreciate I might be putting words into michaels mouth - apologies if so) but looking at the wonderousness of the picture, the experience of the sky etc, the drudgery of work pales in comparison. Far better to have the time to have such experiences, & with those we love. That's kinda how I read his comment.

I work with people who take work home, are desperate to climb the ladder, who I can see are making themselves ill with all they're doing, who complain about the fact that they don't spend time at home with their kids because they're working. That is not the life for me.

lemonjelly

Interesting fact for the day.
My solicitors fees are above my parents total mortgage from the 70's!:eek:

vivatifosi

If it makes you feel better jelly, because you are such an adept saver, your mortgage requirement a year down the line (once things have panned out) will still be less than mine was when I bought this house, even though a) the market wasn't as good then and b) I had all of the equity brought with me from homeowning for 19 years.

It is a great place to be and I'm really pleased for you.

Generali

lemonjelly wrote: »

I think (& I appreciate I might be putting words into michaels mouth - apologies if so) but looking at the wonderousness of the picture, the experience of the sky etc, the drudgery of work pales in comparison. Far better to have the time to have such experiences, & with those we love. That's kinda how I read his comment.

I work with people who take work home, are desperate to climb the ladder, who I can see are making themselves ill with all they're doing, who complain about the fact that they don't spend time at home with their kids because they're working. That is not the life for me.

I've walked the path that I think michaels is walking and it's desperate, just horrible.

All I can recommend is to try to enjoy the sunrise because if that's the only joy in your day then it's better to have some than none.

Nikkster

Lydia and Sue - you are two of the NP I admire the most (and there are many). You are both so strong and patient and reasoned.

You both deserve partners who are equals, and treat you as such. It is a good job that your ex-/ nearly ex-husbands were so wrong about your ability to strive for the best for your children, seeing as you've been left holding the babies (literally).

lostinrates

Nikkster wrote: »

Lydia and Sue - you are two of the NP I admire the most (and there are many). You are both so strong and patient and reasoned.

You both deserve partners who are equals, and treat you as such. It is a good job that your ex-/ nearly ex-husbands were so wrong about your ability to strive for the best for your children, seeing as you've been left holding the babies (literally).

Exactly. Exactly exactly.


Look, i know I don't have kids, but if I did its people who have done jobs like nice parents have done I would be looking to for guidance and advice. I adore the nice children I have met, I think you have all done amazing jobs with different little people.

When I think of children I might have liked to have, I think of lots of traits you MARVELLOUS people have given your children. I feel richer for seeing the jobs you do with yours. Incidentally, part of why Michael's, please enjoy the sunrises....your part in the world is three fold greater than mine for example, and you have done well with it. . I hope they enjoy looking up.

Lydia, I feel certain that sunshine and sweet sensitivity needing reassurance of personal value in your very different two have THE right parent for them. The thought of them overidden and squashed is awful. Further more, I know if I had a girl I'd want her taught by you.

tomterm8

So... it's a nice day weather-wise today so I'm digging over the vegetable patch ( which is the size of an allotment, really) using the grafters spade I borrowed from my dad, and I look over at the grass and I realize it is dry-ish.

First time in three months.

I get the lawnmower out, do around 2/3 of an acre... then the thing dies on me.

Saved by the lawnmower:D

Now I've come in, and I ache...

lemonjelly

Generali wrote: »

I've walked the path that I think michaels is walking and it's desperate, just horrible.

All I can recommend is to try to enjoy the sunrise because if that's the only joy in your day then it's better to have some than none.

Absolutely. When I look at the experience I had with my last employer, & the effect it had on me, it really re-focussed me on looking out for the good things.