Nice People Thread Number 10 -the official residence of Nice People

tomterm8

My mother takes low dose aspirin to help prevent stroke ( she was on clopidogrel which is like aspirin but even more risky). I used to take warfarin which is very dangerous if badly managed.

Spirit_2

Generali wrote: »

This f***ing anxiety is really starting to annoy me now, it's just not going away. It dials up and down but just won't stop.

Gen, seek medical help .

Please.

Spirit_2

Generali wrote: »

I have Valium which I use occasionally. That provides 4 hours of relief but just postpones things. I would really rather not use a drug on a daily basis for the rest of my life, especially one with some pretty funky side effects as beta blockers seem to have. Given the choice between sex and anxiety I choose anxiety.

I think that the fundamental problem is that I've worked very hard at a career for the past 20 years that I don't want to do. I hate working in corporations and I hate working for idiots that use phrases like 'in that space', 'go live' and 'drop dead date'. The more senior I've become, the more I've had to lie about my 'buy in' (another one) into all this. It's hard to describe exactly how little I think of most of the people I've spent the last 20 years around yet have tried very hard to be nice to or at least professional around.

The end of it is now in sight thanks to Mrs Generali finally recognising about 6 years ago that it's not really fair for me to flog myself through this while she sits about. I've always struggled with getting over the line though, doing the last little bit of something. I think a big chunk of what I'm experiencing is that same problem: I've made it this far and I can see myself doing something I actually enjoy for a living and I'm faltering. It doesn't make things any easier though.

Your sex life will resume, quite quickly. Beta blockers are not for life if given for anxiety

They are an effective and easy remedy at a time when the alternative is feeling out of control. IMHO far preferable to valium.

I loathe management speak and bull sh*t commiserations

Spirit_2

Generali wrote: »

I haven't really, not for a few years and I think you're right it might.

I was going round the massive new Bunnings (B&Q) near us today and I had sudden thought that I just wanted to sit down in the middle of the aisle and start crying but I thought perhaps I'd never stop again.

I don't do hugs but I am making an exception.:kisses3: in a mumsy kind of way

:grouphug:

Spirit_2

zagubov wrote: »

I've contemporaries in the police force who've now retired, and have taken up second careers for basically beer money.

Last year I got a letter saying my retirement (pension) age has gone up by a year. Pretty sure that's not the last of those I'll get.

I'm worried that reaching my retirement is going to be like trying take a close-up photo of the horizon.:(

I start part time working from 27th of this month. As I have a day off on Monday this means last week was my last full time week ever.

I will work 3 days a week in future, usually Mon-Weds.

Put my off days on the family calendar today, with already booked holidays my working commitment in days is :

Feb 12
Mar 10
Apr 13
May 10
June 7


:eek::eek::eek:

Spirit_2

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

There are relatively strong views on both sides - the benefits v. the risks of stomach bleeds.
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I have enteric coated asprin, some studies say it is less effective than plain, however I cannot take plain so enteric it is.

LydiaJ

SingleSue wrote: »

James is now completely back to normal thank goodness, if a little tired after having no sleep at all over night.

He said all the staff at the hospital were so nice and I agree, the nurse who rang me was wonderful.

:beer::j:):D

Generali wrote: »

The end of it is now in sight thanks to Mrs Generali finally recognising about 6 years ago that it's not really fair for me to flog myself through this while she sits about. I've always struggled with getting over the line though, doing the last little bit of something. I think a big chunk of what I'm experiencing is that same problem: I've made it this far and I can see myself doing something I actually enjoy for a living and I'm faltering. It doesn't make things any easier though.

What would you like to do if you were free of the financial shackles?

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

AS a couple we're going backwards on that, michaels and Gen - because of the baby, my financial contribution to chez NDG is going to take a nosedive this calendar and next financial year. But then being with a newborn baby isn't exactly sitting around doing nothing (-:

Babies are different. And they don't stay babies for ever. I imagine NDB can feel reasonably confident that NDG won't be wanting to stay at home full time for the next 20 years. She wouldn't have gone back to work full time after having Isaac if she was that kind of mother. (Have now re-read that and it reads like a criticism of SAHMs as lightweights, which is not at all what I meant to imply. I'm a firm believer in individual decisions for individual couples on that question.)

neverdespairgirl

LydiaJ wrote: »

Babies are different. And they don't stay babies for ever. I imagine NDB can feel reasonably confident that NDG won't be wanting to stay at home full time for the next 20 years. She wouldn't have gone back to work full time after having Isaac if she was that kind of mother. (Have now re-read that and it reads like a criticism of SAHMs as lightweights, which is not at all what I meant to imply. I'm a firm believer in individual decisions for individual couples on that question.)

I can't imagine doing it happily - I have nothing against SAHMs (my mother was one, and is an amazing woman and mother) but it's just not for me, I'd hate it. So I doubt it would do my children much good, either!

My darling Mama has been only supportive and helpful about my going back to work, initially after Isaac, and in the future, after this baby, too. She's been our backup emergency childcare plan, and is only helpful and lovely about it. I think she's happy with the choices she made, so she doesn't need me to make the same choices to validate her own.

PasturesNew wrote: »

I don't take any vitamins, meds, drugs, potions, lotions, miracle tablets or anything.

I don't normally, apart from contraception, but I am taking some anti-sickness pills at the moment, and a recommended pregnancy iron-and-folic-acid supplement.

LydiaJ

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Our kitchen / living room upstairs don't have a door before the stairs descend, but there is a door at the bottom, shutting off the tiny hallway off which lead doors to the 3 bedrooms, bathroom and laundry cupboard. Cooking smells don't seem to go downstairs as easily as up, anyway, all the thing about warm air rising, I suppose.

If I were with my darling Mama, and trying to wind her up, I'd have said, "heat rising" just to get her attention. It definitely would, one of her hobby horses. If she hears it on the TV or radio, she gets very cross.

Well done NDM!

Spirit wrote: »

Gen, seek medical help .

Please.

Gen, you are trying to carry the whole load for the whole of your family - earning shedloads in a job you hate to keep you all in the style to which you are are accustomed, cooking, looking after the kids, absorbing all the negative rubbish that goes along with loving someone with depression. It's too much for one person.

Please please get some help. I know it's hard, especially for men, but you must. Otherwise Mrs Gen and the Generalissimos will have to cope with your breakdown, and that really won't help them. lir is right that it's damaging for you to bottle it all up and never cry, but crying by yourself is unlikely to be enough. You need some people to care about you, be there for you, so it's not just you carrying the entire responsibility for everything by yourself all the time.

Spirit wrote: »

Your sex life will resume, quite quickly. Beta blockers are not for life if given for anxiety

They are an effective and easy remedy at a time when the alternative is feeling out of control. IMHO far preferable to valium.

I loathe management speak and bull sh*t commiserations

Umm... have you tried beta blockers? Do you know that they would affect you in the way you fear? Side effects of medicines are not easily predictable and vary from patient to patient (and between different types of the same family of drug). You might find that you can take beta blockers, feel less anxious, and continue with an unimpaired sex life. I think the side effects are quite temporary - you could try taking them, and if they interfered with sex for you, you could stop taking them and be back to normal quite soon.

silvercar

Nikkster wrote: »

From what I've heard, there is an optimal time to start taking a daily aspirin for cancer prevention... I think it is 50, but might be remembering that completely wrong.

I take a small dose daily, when I remember. After discussing with my GP. Jury is out apparently, but with a parent who had cancer that spread quickly, on balance I should take it.

One of its many benefits is not only preventing cancer, but preventing the spread of cancer.