Lilt and Jellytots most excellent adventure...

liltdiddylilt

Hello all you lovely people. Thank you for posting, quite a crowd in here!!

Lucky It certainly sounds odd textured. I wouldn't reject it out of hand but it would have to be very strong flavoured for me to eat it I think. I love making sponge cakes in the microwave. Mums recipe Maybe try it in the microwave next time? Let me know how you get on!!

Regarding my bro, he is home safely, back for an MRI this week. Basically he is so young and so fit and healthy they have divided opinions on what caused the heart attack and how. Some say a heart muscle eating virus, others say plain old weird heart attack with no official cause. Regardless he is home, and a lot better than he was, recuperating and has lost some excess weight from his holiday so overall a happy bunny!

Regarding the utility companies, haven't heard from First Util yet. It took them months to get in touch even to start the process before but I am determined to shift and a bit of a delay just means NP0wer getting my boiler in without me switching midway through. First also still do the warm homes credit Lucky kindly adds, so I am happy, and £30 cashback is not to be sniffed at when they will be saving me a fortune anyway! Just had a call from BT where I had to explain to the lovely executive complaints lady handling my case once again that I have a line rental saver I only just bought on my old account. She is requesting this be added to the 'new' account today (giving me an extra month and 5 days of line rental free), and she is also processing another credit to my account of £17.99 on top of several other credits applied so far, and without yet my 'goodwill gesture' of compensation as promised.

I really need to research boilers... and efficiency and how to be warm this winter. I think I might make a new post down a bit on what my lists look like at the min. They are forever going on on excel and in my notepads, but rarely on here. And really you should all see my organisational skills at work

If I can stick within my budget this month (upped groceries budget by £5...) and attack Sept with similar gusto and £50 extra in my pocket, my savings should be £2700.00 & £917.93 by the end of September.... That would be epic

Onto 'other' news. I won't say 'bad news' as frankly that doesn't cover it. My Pop is in the hospital, rushed in yesterday as either his kidneys are in end stage failure, or his stent has become infected. Either way he has an end of life care plan in place and will refuse surgeries etc, plus has a DNR on record. So basically this is it. Next, my mum facetimed me yesterday evening to speak 'face-to-face' - I thought she was going to say Pop had died. Instead she told me she has breast cancer.. Again. Third time for that particular cancer, fourth time in all for her. It is a particularly aggressive type but was found early and has not spread. She is due surgery soon and chemo afterwards. As always with my mum she is looking on the bright side. Her implants (15 years old this year) from the reconstructive surgery after the last bout of BC, are both leaking. She is to have them removed, and new ones in their place temporarily, but once all is sorted she will be getting a 'tummy tuck' on the house to create her new puppies as she calls them. She is 60 years old so she is very very happy at this prospect. I can't describe to you the vivacious tenacity with which my mum has gone through so may rounds of cancer before. She is the rock, when all around her fall. I personally feel like I have been hit by a truck. I am getting over the shock slowly, but I need to pull myself together for her and for all that is to come.

Signing off to fetch my jellytot and give her an extra squeeze. Thank you all for all your kind messages about her. She is my shining light. Along with my mum. xx

giblet1979

Oh God lilt, I am so sorry you are having such a rough time. My heart goes out to you, and I'm sending hugs and good wishes to you and your family. Please let me know if I can do anything, or if you need to talk xxx

Greying_Pilgrim

(((hugs))) Lilt - thinking of you

Greying

Penguins86

Sending lots of love and hugs your way xxx :grouphug:

pennywisepoundstupid

So sorry to hear of your news, sending you hugs and thinking of you.x.

killerpeaty

Oh lilt, when it rains it pours.

Your brother sounds like he's a strong individual and I'm sure he will be fine. Your mum sounds unbelievable! She's my new hero and I will start a fan club! I'm sorry to hear about your pop as well.

Because I don't know what to say I'm going to place this here, in hopes that it makes you smile.

hohum

Lilt bam that's a sledgehammer to deal with. Much love to you and yours x

please-let-me-be-lucky

Oh Hun what a bag of carp! Massive hugs to you and Jelly. Fingers crossed all goes as smoothly as it can Xx

liltdiddylilt

Hello peepies!!

Thank you for all of your lovely messages. It is indeed a load of carp as Lucky states, but I am less sledgehammered today and feeling more positive. My mumma is indeed worthy of being anyones heroine Peaty. She is the most positive person ever. She was first diagnosed when I was 8-9 and the second time when I was 12 I think. I don't really remember all that much other than her being tired and on the sofa all the time for a few years. I do remember her after her double mastectomy and the implants etc, receiving some superglue and "barbie n1pples" as she put it. They were the silliest bright pink teenage boy n1pples ever... To make us laugh she glued one to the middle of her forehead! :rotfl: it was there for hours and hours...

Anyhow, the scores are on the doors. I have £29.73 left in the bank and a bill for £18.53 going out next Thursday as my wages come in but they aren't to be touched til the 1st. Other than bread and milk I should NOT need anything else. £11.24 to last a week? And tomorrow a train fare of £8.60... so really £2.64. If bread and milk is all I buy that leaves me with 64p... LOL

I *could* transfer some of my extortionate savings this month back out and stop living like a pauper. But I don't want to :rotfl:

For those of you in debt I apologise. I just realised the above seems like the most ridiculous of dilemmas to those of you who have debts. Please know that I have been there and I have been perilously close to going back there recently and so my 'savings' are actually way below what they should be due to my rubbishy ways recently. I am trying to kick myself up the bum but I do not want to seem facetious at all.

Jellytot is driving me bonkers today. She is a bundle of chaos and mess determined to try my patience, especially with the ear-piercing shrieking. I have lost count of the number of naughty step trips... Still, bed soon, and I plan on making wraps for dinner, watching cloudy with a chance of meatballs with some hot chocolate and squirty cream, and a nice helping of my free lindt choccies which arrived! I thought it would be vouchers but it was in fact solid bars of chocolate...

Today...... Him put his wedding ring on. He is here as usual Weds-Fri to enjoy the holiday with us. I haven't seen this ring in more than 6 months. I was more than a little gobsmacked. He applied last week for a full time job which *if* he moved back in would have disadvantaged Jellytot and I to the tune of about £9.5k a year, not to mention extra bills, c tax, prescription charges, £4.5k nursery fees a year to get Jelly in nursery all the time I am working... The list is endless. I was understandably shocked when he told me his plans to apply and move back in as it is closer to here and saves him money (:rotfl:) and wasn't exactly enthusiastic or supportive. Eventually after I spent an hour on several calculators plugging in figures and facts over and over, then adding in costs for train fares and all of the above... he sees that he is working an extra 30 hours a week, missing out on Jellytot, for a family income of £4000 less a year IF he were living here. So told him to stay at his own home and leave us out of it if that was what he wanted. He understood (finally) where I was coming from. And then didn't get an interview and was utterly heartbroken.

It feels pretty awful knowing that taking full time jobs actually leaves us with less money. As someone who has always (and does now) worked it is a gutting feeling to think that it is better not to. Or at least to work, but not as much. So much for the system working... Him moving back in does also cost more, but somewhere around £1500. And to be honest, I am ok with that loss... I think he is worth that much.. :rotfl: although he better start pot-washing and vacuuming more often!

The upshot is, I think I am ready to trust he is going to stick around and that he is worth having around. It has been almost a year... I think next month all being well once Ellie is settled in new nursery, he may move back in... officially, but without his junk. I want him free to leave if it doesn't work. We will work on bringing that back eventually. Babysteps, lets start with telling council/tax creds etc he is coming back...

lobbyludd

just hugs and good thoughts for you L, whatever decision you make with him will be the right one, whatever the outcome, trust yourself. and we are all here if you need us.

xx