Lilt and Jellytots most excellent adventure...

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please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »

1) You are NOT a bad Mummy!!!!

2) Hope you told Dr about your chest and they sorted you both out.

3) Disgusting service from Drs and 111.

4) You are NOT a bad Mummy!!!!

5) You are NOT a bad Mummy!!!!

So there!!

Lots of love Xx

Ditto xx

Sholly

You are not a bad mum! I'll hear none of that Miss Lilt!! Nursery was probably a good distraction for her...and good for you too.

I'm the same re the kidneys - one day of no drinking and my body just gives in. Luckily it's only every couple of years that I get a really bad one. Morphine is my friend when those ones hit! Is Jelly any better? Did the docs confirm whether it is a UTI? Sorry that you're not feeling well either, what a time you two are having.

I have a mobile hairdresser who was recommended by a friend. She's been coming for a couple of years now although Littlie always needs a mop chop in between her visits. She charges us £14 xx

liltdiddylilt

Awww you are all so sweet. Jelly has been the picture of health at nursery apart from wincing and holding her crotch when she sees. So went to see the doctor and he refused antibiotics. But wait for it...

....Because he thinks she has an ear infection, and although her chest is clear, it is obvious she has been horribly down with a bad cold, and these things can often lead to sore lady bits in children. Apparently... *rolleyes*. Well it is funny but everyone I have mentioned to that since has said, 1. Crock of.. 2. If she has an ear infection surely she needs antibiotics anyway? Best of all, he told me her immunisations are due, in such an accusing manner I felt like he was insinuating that I would not get her vaccinated. She isn't three until April; I haven't even had a letter from the Dr's about it yet, and getting an appointment is like rocking horse poo anyway!! :mad: :mad: So I booked her in... and they managed to fit her in tomorrow :rotfl: which means Him has to take her. He is NOT impressed! I say fairs fair, I had to take her today...

Did not mention my own chest after all that, but did almost cough up a lung on his floor several times. He just sort of looked at me funny and I thought, screw you mate I am not asking you to check my chest in case you think I want you to feel me up or something. :mad: So in all likelihood I have to go back at some point if I and she do not improve anyway. There is no way that she has anything except a UTI. My doctor is just a pillock.

Am off to sulk and eat curry after getting her to bed. And then coming back to explain the gaping hole in my finances after the last 2 days. Whoopsie!

Payday tomorrow though

pennywisepoundstupid

Evening lilty,

Right young lady you are not a bad mummy, you are blinking fantastic and if anyone says otherwise they will have me to deal with.

Your Dr sounds like a complete twonk and that's being polite, if you really think Jelly has a UTI (which I thnk she has) and you feel she is in pain then go to A&E and make sure she is seen to, my old DR surgery (moved house) were useless and I ended up in hospital with DS overnight on steroids at 9 month because of a misdiagnosis by a carp GP, I'm not slamming all DR as I now have a fantastic Dr at a brilliant surgery.

Take care hun.x.

October_Starter

Totally agree with everyone else. You are a good mum!

I really don't know what is with doctors now. My doc left a couple of years back (retired as far as I know). His replacement is HORRIBLE. She's a little Indian girl who when I went for my tiredness decided I was too fat and that was the root of all my issues. Didn't even take my blood pressure! I'd like to say that's just my doc but my bestie is pregnant and I went with her to the doc. She is in the very early stages, been told previously she can't have any more children and is over weight. Her pregnancy is definitely what they would class as high risk. So the doc didn't even take her blood pressure to begin with! She didn't even have the right information on file and we ended up being called back for my friend to get her blood pressure taken. Then to get an appointment with the midwife has taken longer than necessary. It's crazy! Can you take yourself and Jelly to a walk in clinic or to the local hospital?

October xx

BILLIE

WOW have a night off from the thread, due to having to bring work home, and look at all the posts I have missed. Have to reiterate Lilt YOU ARE NOT A BAD MUMMY. So there...... Sympathise with those of you that suffer with UTI's as I do too. Am now allowed to have antibiotics in the house as they always start out of hours such as early morning, Sunday or Bank Holiday and by the time I can get an appointment I am crawling the walls.

Anyway, hope you have a relaxing evening and all is well health wise. You take care with your chest. xxxx

Levi-

hi Lilt, I'm just checking in here as I try and make my way through reading some other threads:) just to send you my best for you and little 'JTot..... hope she feels better soon.. and don't ever call yourself a bad mummy, that is clearly the last thing you are... feel like a bit of a fraud myself for not having time to read & post on everyones threads too but am going to check in and start subscribing as time allows x

liltdiddylilt

Hi guys

I bliddy love you all bunches I do. I am of two minds as to what to do regarding Jelly as my mum has said kids can kick these things, but the risk is that it will recur, possibly affect her kidneys and at such a young age, with enough issues potty training her, I don't like this complete fear of a simple pee. I will see how she fares overnight. This morning we were up about half 4 for a nappy change as a wee woke her up. She went back down fine but if she does it again tonight then I might just ring the doctors again in the morning. Or, I will ring the out of hours service and get seen by a duty doctor at the local hospital.

I normally have nothing but praise for GP's and for this one in particular. I have found overall, this surgery to be as good as the brilliant one I had in Nottingham when I bought my house. I was sad to leave that surgery. One GP threatened to escort me home, and then rang my boss knowing I had gone back to work and told her to send me home :rotfl:

BILLIE you sum it up perfectly. Climbing the walls is precisely what I do and I have had antibiotics in the house on standby for years, but now have a low dose antibiotic once a week and touch wood, since I have been using it I have not been troubled! They started me on it when I was pregnant and I haven't looked back since! It is why I know it so well and don't like being looked at as some sort of hysterical mum!

Levi flower I would never expect you to read my waffle when you have so much on your plate. Thank you so much for dropping in but please don't feel *obliged* to do so. My support is free and unconditional as is everyones!!

Rigt I really am going to do my sums now. YNAB is going to cry.

Also note to self, birthday card for work tomorrow! x

Levi-

sorry to have not caught on but how old is the lil J'Tot? We seem to have a lot of shared circumstances:) Happy to be of any help I can if I can by supporting all in the way you all have supported and welcomed me..x

liltdiddylilt

I shall try and sum up for you!!

Jellytot is 3 in April - a very smart little cookie, counting to 10 at 18 months and recognising the numbers at the same time, but stubbornly refusing point blank to contemplate letters at all... S? 5. L? 1 W. A sideways 3.. and so on recently though she has been really zoning in on the letters after conquering the 10-20's At nursery she is doing excellently, on the EYFS learning schedule since September and she is ahead in most areas and just behind on potty training. She is ready for school in maths :rotfl: She has an incredible routine. So much so that the sight of a dummy is like Pavlov's Dogs. She doesn't drool but she instantly says she's tired, can she go to bed. She is in bed at 6pm each night (her choice that time, I wanted 7!) and she sleeps for 13 hours... total godsend. When she was just under 18 months old, her dad left for various reasons but the main one being boredom and an unwillingness to grow up and accept responsibility. This came on the heels of me bulging and tearing two discs in my spine, causing me a lot of grief, then an operation to have my wisdom teeth out. He couldn't deal with doing everything when I was unable to and so he ran away. That was September 13. In the December I kicked him out to his mums. He didn't like that. Neither did Jelly. She took to carrying a teddy 'Buhbear' everywhere, for months and the routine got a bit odd, she kept waking in the night. Health visitor involved said she was fine but I worried a lot and she missed him.

So we patched things up and have been working at trying to make it work ever since. For the last year that has meant him coming over here on a Weds morning when I walk past him as he comes in on my way to work. He stays overnight and then leaves on Friday night after my shift is done and dinner is eaten. He pops in to see us if work and trains allow in the rest of the week. When he is here too much we tend to argue and things get bad quite quickly, so for now we just... are as we are. May look weird to everyone else but it works for me.

I work hard at saving money because when I had Jellytot I was in £3+k of debt which was enormous considering it was purely living expenses and nothing extravagant that caused it. I got out of it, slowly but surely using great diaries on here as mega inspiration. I join the monthly Ninja Saving Turtles challenges in honour of NinjaSavingKat who ran them until she went off travelling the world on her incredible savings. They make me count my grocery costs, Spend Free Days (aka No Spend Days) exercise, walking to work, lunch to work and a donation to charity or a food bank.

And I now have £4400 in savings, and add £300 to that total each month in a regular saver and then scrape some more together each month besides that from a relatively small salary, plus tax credits and child benefit.

I've got 4 current accounts and am going to be paid £150 to open a 5th shortly but will close another that cuts interest from 5% to 1% in February. No loyalty here... it doesn't pay me nearly as well. In 2 years I have had: £5 per month from Halifax, and £100 to switch two DD's £125 for First Direct and a 6% reg saver which just kicked out £93 in interest after tax an a years savings. I got £50, as did Him for a friend referral where I opened the 5% account which I will shortly close, for the £150 bonus. Have consistently had £4-6 of interest per month on that account balance. And all I do is spend 10 minutes a month running my wages through each account then back to where they are needed!! I have set amounts on DD that go out, 2 on each account minimum. And the bank where my wages go in has all the main DD's so maybe rethink that loyalty to GnatsVest... how much are THEY paying YOU a month?

Anyways thats us in a nutshell. No need to read back now. The only things that might be added are 'Him's a twonk' and pictures of Jelly.