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Not Legally Married
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Im pretty sure my dad has a will, i will need to ask my Mum if she has one.
Her name on all her documents is her "married" name, passport, driving license etc however she seems to have managed to do this without officially changing her name through deed poll or marriage!!
Legally you can use whatever name you like as long as the intention is not to defraud anyone.
Forty years ago officialdom were a lot less careful about checking documents. And once you have one, re-newing is easy.If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing0 -
Yes, if they state themselves as married / husband / wife for insurance purposes then this may invalidate the insurance.
ETA why was your mum apologetic about it, it might be worth your while checking if either one of them is married to someone else? It might throw a whole new situation in the mix.0 -
Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »Did they say why they had done this?
They didnt but my oldest bro who is 36 thinks they are married so its been a while!!0 -
Sorry he knows he's not married, he just doesn't know that i now know about this.ETA why was your mum apologetic about it, it might be worth your while checking if either one of them is married to someone else? It might throw a whole new situation in the mix.0
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Yes, if they state themselves as married / husband / wife for insurance purposes then this may invalidate the insurance.
ETA why was your mum apologetic about it, it might be worth your while checking if either one of them is married to someone else? It might throw a whole new situation in the mix.
I think she was apologetic more for "lying" about it and worried i would be upset/annoyed, my dad was married before and divorced, this was the marriage where he had my sister, im pretty sure he hasnt married anyone else.0 -
I think she was apologetic more for "lying" about it and worried i would be upset/annoyed, my dad was married before and divorced, this was the marriage where he had my sister, im pretty sure he hasnt married anyone else.
So you sister was from your father's first marriage? Were you aware of this?
Are you SURE he divorced?If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing0 -
my dad was married before and divorced
Are your parents Roman Catholic, or some other religion that does not permit remarriage after divorce? Not that it matters, just wondering if that could be the reason.Let's settle this like gentlemen: armed with heavy sticks
On a rotating plate, with spikes like Flash Gordon
And you're Peter Duncan; I gave you fair warning0 -
If definitely divorced he needs to confirm with solicitor that his will is valid, ie it reflects your mother's status "Miss Old Name" known as "Mrs New Name." Otherwise the will could be challenged, or invalid.
Think this situation has perpetuated by generational thinking, in your parent's time this was rarer and could have caused family rifts. Nowadays it is commonplace
I take it you were not upset, I think you need to tell your mother it is time this family secret came out of the cupboard as it is unlikely to upset your brothers either.0 -
Are your parents Roman Catholic, or some other religion that does not permit remarriage after divorce? Not that it matters, just wondering if that could be the reason.
My dad's family were devout RC, so i think that was reason my mum and him never married, my Mum kinda hinted at that when she was telling me they were actually married.0
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