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Not Legally Married

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  • RAS
    RAS Posts: 36,128 Forumite
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    Skinto_7 wrote: »
    Im pretty sure my dad has a will, i will need to ask my Mum if she has one.

    Her name on all her documents is her "married" name, passport, driving license etc however she seems to have managed to do this without officially changing her name through deed poll or marriage!!

    Legally you can use whatever name you like as long as the intention is not to defraud anyone.

    Forty years ago officialdom were a lot less careful about checking documents. And once you have one, re-newing is easy.
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  • HPoirot
    HPoirot Posts: 1,022 Forumite
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    edited 29 November 2013 at 1:45PM
    Yes, if they state themselves as married / husband / wife for insurance purposes then this may invalidate the insurance.

    ETA why was your mum apologetic about it, it might be worth your while checking if either one of them is married to someone else? It might throw a whole new situation in the mix.
  • Skinto_7
    Skinto_7 Posts: 264 Forumite
    Did they say why they had done this?


    They didnt but my oldest bro who is 36 thinks they are married so its been a while!!
  • NAR
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    Skinto_7 wrote: »
    Sorry he knows he's not married, he just doesn't know that i now know about this.
    I thought that was the case but have learnt never to assume!
    HPoirot wrote: »
    ETA why was your mum apologetic about it, it might be worth your while checking if either one of them is married to someone else? It might throw a whole new situation in the mix.
    Very valid point HP.
  • Skinto_7
    Skinto_7 Posts: 264 Forumite
    HPoirot wrote: »
    Yes, if they state themselves as married / husband / wife for insurance purposes then this may invalidate the insurance.

    ETA why was your mum apologetic about it, it might be worth your while checking if either one of them is married to someone else? It might throw a whole new situation in the mix.


    I think she was apologetic more for "lying" about it and worried i would be upset/annoyed, my dad was married before and divorced, this was the marriage where he had my sister, im pretty sure he hasnt married anyone else.
  • RAS
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    Skinto_7 wrote: »
    I think she was apologetic more for "lying" about it and worried i would be upset/annoyed, my dad was married before and divorced, this was the marriage where he had my sister, im pretty sure he hasnt married anyone else.

    So you sister was from your father's first marriage? Were you aware of this?

    Are you SURE he divorced?
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  • benjus
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    Skinto_7 wrote: »
    my dad was married before and divorced

    Are your parents Roman Catholic, or some other religion that does not permit remarriage after divorce? Not that it matters, just wondering if that could be the reason.
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  • NAR
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    If definitely divorced he needs to confirm with solicitor that his will is valid, ie it reflects your mother's status "Miss Old Name" known as "Mrs New Name." Otherwise the will could be challenged, or invalid.

    Think this situation has perpetuated by generational thinking, in your parent's time this was rarer and could have caused family rifts. Nowadays it is commonplace
    I take it you were not upset, I think you need to tell your mother it is time this family secret came out of the cupboard as it is unlikely to upset your brothers either.
  • Skinto_7
    Skinto_7 Posts: 264 Forumite
    RAS wrote: »
    So you sister was from your father's first marriage? Were you aware of this?

    Are you SURE he divorced?


    Yes i was always aware my sister was my half sister, my sisters Mum is re-married and know my dad got divorced.
  • Skinto_7
    Skinto_7 Posts: 264 Forumite
    benjus wrote: »
    Are your parents Roman Catholic, or some other religion that does not permit remarriage after divorce? Not that it matters, just wondering if that could be the reason.


    My dad's family were devout RC, so i think that was reason my mum and him never married, my Mum kinda hinted at that when she was telling me they were actually married.
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