3rd baby?

duchy

I have a friend whose first died of cot death -It took another seven before she stopped having kids ! After five boys she finally had a girl - and we all thought that was it but no she decided it would be nice for the girl to have a sister with all those brothers- Thankfully the baby was a girl and her husband practically ran to the vasectomy clinic before she changed her mind

I always believed she was trying to fill the space left by her first son and the wanting a girl was just an excuse to keep having babies.

katym79

dandy-candy wrote: »

Then tell him straight away how you feel. If it's been this long and you are still longing for baby 3 then I can't see it changing. TELL HIM NOW!!

He's fully aware of how I feel.

katym79

Alikay wrote: »

Why did you offer vasectomy as the alternative to another baby? That's the polar opposite of what you want and permanently discounts a change of mind, even if you won the lottery (assuming finances are a factor in his decision).

Because I'm tired of being 'lead on'? I know he doesn't want one (baby) and didn't want to admit it, so I guess I've made it easier for him. He won't change his mind, and let's face it, we ain't going to win the lottery.

katym79

peachyprice wrote: »

And what if you have No.3 and the feelings are still there? If it's a 'little baby' you're yearning after rather than another child it's quite possible that you will still yearn for a baby once No.3 gets to the same age No.2 is now.

Edit: Doh, just realised this is an old thread.

Sounds like your OH really doesn't want another if he's willing to have a vasectomy. Do you think if he does have the snip you'll be able to move on more easily?

He doesn't. And I don't know. I'm going to have to get over it somehow.