Bucket list

meritaten

yeah - but sometimes the 'things' you want to do are not possible due to finances or time or work commitments. we all have things we would have liked to have done - but to me 'bucket lists' make it seem that all items on list should be ticked off - because we are terminally ill! and that puts pressure on people - oh you must do this or that..........its like the terminally ill shouldn't live a 'normal' life! they should be running about completing 'bucket lists'! and I have known people do this - for some completing one goal is enough - for others their 'bucket lists' were so long they wouldn't have a hope of comepleting them if they lived to be a hundred!

geoffky

There is very few things left to do that i dreamed of achieving..
The only one i have now and that will be fulfilled as soon as my youngest leaves home in a few years and that is a overland trip to Australia that will take over a year to do.
I have been very lucky indeed.

dawyldthing

I think I just have a lifelong list of things I want to do, so wouldn't call it a bucket list as i'm only in my mid 20s so hope I still have many years to go but still have a list of things I want to do such as a safari at 30, go to Australia and dive the great barrier reef while its still around and get down to 11 stone plus some other bits and bobs. I'm another for live for today as long as it isn't to the detrement of others and to the near future as as much as i'd love to go travelling tomorrow i still need to keep working to keep the roof over my head

UKTigerlily

I don't understand these lists, we could all die tomorrow, nobody knows when they will go so if there's stuff you want to do & can do get on with it IMO

fluffnutter

I don't really want to live my life as if every day is my last. Far too exhausting. Sure that might mean I never get round to doing some stuff that I might quite like but I like just being in the now, enjoying my family and the minutiae of daily life. I also think it's psychologically healthy to not overly contemplate my death - that's precisely the reason why a prognosis of a terminal illness is so difficult; we're not meant to know how long we've got left.

If that's dull then so be it but really I have absolutely no desire to go bungee-jumping or swim with a wet mammal or wander round on a stinky camel's back or any other of the 'must dos' that seem to feature on people's bucket lists. Each to their own but I'm happy making chutney.

lostinrates

fluffnutter wrote: »

I don't really want to live my life as if every day is my last. Far too exhausting. Sure that might mean I never get round to doing some stuff that I might quite like but I like just being in the now, enjoying my family and the minutiae of daily life. I also think it's psychologically healthy to not overly contemplate my death - that's precisely the reason why a prognosis of a terminal illness is so difficult; we're not meant to know how long we've got left.

If that's dull then so be it but really I have absolutely no desire to go bungee-jumping or swim with a wet mammal or wander round on a stinky camel's back or any other of the 'must dos' that seem to feature on people's bucket lists. Each to their own but I'm happy making chutney.

This is really very true. We were told in my twenties I was unlikely to live, then that I'd be essentially, a vegetable. When I wasn't a vegetable I was working so hard on being not just not a vegetable but back to being something like me I must have forgotten to die. Most years now I go up and down in different ways, but I've exceeded what I was meant to have by a long way and don't feel at deaths door yet. I do however spend a lot of time napping, taking it easy and pacing myself. Somedays all I can do are the most basic of chores.

And chores.....housework......I'll or otherwise, you need clean socks and a clean kitchen.

Errata

I think a bucket list is a bit 'clawing at life' ish. There may be certain things I wish I'd done, but I know I have excellent reasons for not having done them.
There's enough pressure and angst when termially ill without the additional pressure of feeling you must draw up a bucket list "because everyone does, don't they".

Alikay

I don't know anyone who's had the chance of ticking off their bucket list: Either they've died or become permanently disabled suddenly, or if they've been disgnosed with something terminal they have loads of appointments and treatments going on which would discount haring off viewing pyramids, rainforests and polar bears. Most have simply been too ill to go far from home: If you've got something that going to kill you, you're usually not feeling too great by the time that diagnosis is reached!

DH and I have always tried to do as much as we can without putting things off, as no-one knows what's around the corner, so we have great holidays, lovely days out and spend time with special people whenever we can. Neither of us wants a long list of things we wish we'd done together using the insurance money when the other one has died.

DUKE

Yes I've got a bucket list & on my list's all the countries I want to visit. I became quite outrageous when I was first diagnosed with cancer (unless it's the mad meno) 4 years ago. I went to my first concert to see Ozzy at the age of 48! :eek: Since then when I'm well & able I've travelled to places that I never thought that I would see. In the last year I've had cancer 3 times, & although not exactly life threatening I've reached the conclusion that if it's going to take me then I ain't waiting around in my bed with all the family sobbing over me. I'm going out in blazing glory as life's just too short!

System

So far the only thing I've actually come up with is to see the northern lights I don't know why but there is something beautiful and alluring that draws me to them