Bucket list

Gigervamp

If you found out that you had a terminal illness, would you write a bucket list, and if so, what would be on it?

lika_86

I think I might try to clarify my priorities in life but I don't think I'd write a bucket list.

I hate 'bucket lists', too often they consist of shopping lists of generic experiences (swim with dolphins, go up the Empire State Building, visit the pyramids) which if you asked the same people before they were diagnosed, they'd never have even thought they wanted to do. People then become so focussed on ticking off those experiences (often paid for by someone else) that they lose sight of the things that actually matter.

I do have things in life I want to do (currently I have a list of things I want to accomplish before I'm 30), but all of them are very personal to me and my achievements, mostly they can't be bought.

Hermia

I do have a Bucket list and I also have a Day Zero list. I am the sort of person who tends to drift. My parents were also dreamy drifty people and they both died without doing some things they really wanted to do. I know they both had regrets. I find writing something down makes it more concrete for me so I do actually start working on it.

Gigervamp

What's a Day Zero list?

PasturesNew

I'd not do it, I'd want to go and do those things with people... not alone. I don't think it'd be a good idea for me to be traipsing around alone if I were terminal.

Hermia

Gigervamp wrote: »

What's a Day Zero list?

http://dayzeroproject.com/

You set 101 goals to complete within 1001 days. It's good because having 101 goals means you can choose a mix of serious stuff and silly stuff. The 1001 days deadline also means you have a few years to get things done, but you are also doing things all the time.

Hermia

PasturesNew wrote: »

I'd not do it, I'd want to go and do those things with people... not alone. I don't think it'd be a good idea for me to be traipsing around alone if I were terminal.

I often wonder where these people get the money from!

I know my dad, from the day diagnosed terminal, was on medication that stopped him eating and it was one long slide to death - no time/energy for any thought of a bucket list!

That is not the same for everyone though. My dad did die very quickly after being diagnosed, but my mum had a couple of years and she was fairly well during periods of that.

As for the money aspect, well not everyone is poor and not everyone has expensive Bucket list goals. Also, you can't take the money with you. My uncle wanted to visit India one last time before his death. He sold loads of his stuff to pay for it because, after all, he wasn't going to need any of it anymore.

**professor~yaffle**

Gigervamp wrote: »

If you found out that you had a terminal illness, would you write a bucket list, and if so, what would be on it?

What would be the point? I've got no money so wouldn't be able to do any of the things on the list anyway :rotfl:

scooby088

Revenge as karma takes too long.

Gigervamp

**professor~yaffle** wrote: »

What would be the point? I've got no money so wouldn't be able to do any of the things on the list anyway :rotfl:

Haha, yes, that's pretty much the situation here too!

My mental list of *things I'd like to do someday* are either out of my budget, (such as visit Japan) or impractical (keeping dairy goats).

I've wondered if it's only well-off people who do a bucket list. Although I suppose some may have friends fundraising for them.

SavingPennies_2

PasturesNew wrote: »

I'd not do it, I'd want to go and do those things with people... not alone. I don't think it'd be a good idea for me to be traipsing around alone if I were terminal.

I often wonder where these people get the money from!

I know my dad, from the day diagnosed terminal, was on medication that stopped him eating and it was one long slide to death - no time/energy for any thought of a bucket list!

I think the idea is to do them during your lifetime, not necessarily wait till its almost too late like in the film. Also they can be free, like tell someone something you've never dared to (good or bad) or dye your hair blue, though generally they are expensive otherwise youd already have done it.