Paid to Breastfeed: would it have encouraged you to do it?

poet123

I don't/haven't breastfed - no I wouldn't have done it

MoneySavingMamma wrote: »

I have never made any comment about 'trying hard enough' or 'not persevering' as I have said with this baby I may last 1 day, or 6months.

I will TRY it out, see how it goes.

Alot of people are misinterpreting my comments, when I think I have been quite clear in saying that TRYING or ATTEMPTING to breastfeed is the right thing to do. If you are not successful, even after 1day/1 week, you deserve the same respect as the next woman who TRIED and found it easy/managable and continued for months.

My contempt is for those that don't attempt just one or two feeds. The ones I know who when pregnant have told me that no way would they TRY it's disgusting, or it'll ruin their boobs, or they don't want to.

Maybe my posts should be read properly before I am judged?

And mine is for those who are so judgmental of other mothers that they would feel how another mother fed her thriving child is any of their business.;)

MoneySavingMamma

I do/have breastfed - I would have carried on whether the money was offered or not

dizziblonde wrote: »

And to get people MORE annoyed - we get formula on prescription for my youngest child as she's got a fairly severe dairy allergy - so £20+ a can stuff for free. That'll be good for another few pages of insults being thrown.

MSE HQ - starting this wanting it to remain civil and non-insulting was a really really really daft idea btw.

Why would this get people annoyed? Your child has an allergy & needs specialist milk?

My first developed reflux and I had a prescription for his formula once he was on formula, his biggest problem was bringing up most of his feeds, so when breastfeeding, it would come back up, then I'd have to feed again, and as there wasn't enough 'made yet' that resulted in the soreness as feeding virtually 24/7.

I do find it amusing how my comments have been twisted as if I am being nasty to those who either they or their babies had medical issues, when I have clearly stated the problems I faced, and the switched to formula!!

MoneySavingMamma

I do/have breastfed - I would have carried on whether the money was offered or not

poet123 wrote: »

And mine is for those who are so judgmental of other mothers that they would feel how another mother fed her thriving child is any of their business.;)

It's a free world, and this is my opinion, on an internet forum, on a thread discussing breastfeeding.

pukkamum

MoneySavingMamma wrote: »

I have never made any comment about 'trying hard enough' or 'not persevering' as I have said with this baby I may last 1 day, or 6months.

I will TRY it out, see how it goes.

I have also said I breastfed too long with my first, as the struggles I was having were eventually having a negative effect on me & the baby. I should have stopped before I was distressed.

Alot of people are misinterpreting my comments, when I think I have been quite clear in saying that TRYING or ATTEMPTING to breastfeed is the right thing to do. If you are not successful, even after 1day/1 week, you deserve the same respect as the next woman who TRIED and found it easy/managable and continued for months.

My contempt is for those that don't attempt just one or two feeds. The ones I know who when pregnant have told me that no way would they TRY it's disgusting, or it'll ruin their boobs, or they don't want to.

Maybe my posts should be read properly before I am judged?

Contempt seriously?
Why would you even care how others feed their babies is it so you can feel superior in your ivory tower.
What if you had a daughter who didn't want to try would you show your contempt for her?
I save my contempt for mothers who neglect, abuse and otherwise screw their children up not for the ones who choose a different path when feeding.
Seriously there must be something majorly lacking in your life for you to be so vitriolic about this.

poet123

I don't/haven't breastfed - no I wouldn't have done it

MoneySavingMamma wrote: »

It's a free world, and this is my opinion, on an internet forum, on a thread discussing breastfeeding.

Indeed you are, but my guess is that at some point in your life either with a daughter or a dil you will have to bite your tongue and reign in that contempt.....it is called Karma, and it always finds you.;)

What else causes you to feel contempt for other mothers? I bet there is a rather long list......:D

pukkamum

poet123 wrote: »

Indeed you are, but my guess is that at some point in your life either with a daughter or a dil you will have to bite your tongue and reign in that contempt.....it is called Karma, and it always finds you.;)

What else causes you to feel contempt for other mothers? I bet there is a rather long list......:D

I imagine greggs sausage rolls and fruit shoots are up there, is she a migrant from netmums?

Air_Cooled_75

Isn't breast milk dairy free?

I wanted to bf as both hubby and me have a load of allergies between us. LO was over 8lb when born (e c-section) and dropped at least 1lb very quickly. Skin to skin does help as does popping the baby on at any given opportunity.

I'm sorry kathrynha, but I don't understand how you 'fooled everyone' babies are weighed a lot after you have one, I presume your baby lost a lot of weight if it wasn't getting any milk? I apologise if I offend you but I'm unsure about your story.

I think maybe the trial or study (whatever it is) might be looking at what could be a cheaper alternative to dishing out vouchers for formula. I have no idea though. I actually don't understand why women are able to get vouchers for formula, surely child benefit could/should be used.

CruisingSaver

I couldn't breastfeed for medical/personal reasons

Wow just wow! Some of the posts on this thread are just unbelievably harsh and judgemental. Why us women feel the need to rip into each other is beyond me!

For the record I'm one of the few who couldn't breastfeed due to medical reasons (the medication I take for a chronic incurable condition is harmful to babies) so formula feeding was the only option available to me.

During my ante natal care I was made to feel like the devil himself for being very open about my intention to formula feed. Other mums to be were too quick to judge to listen to my reasons why and I'm sure I was marked down as one of those lazy, selfish mothers who can't be a*sed referred to earlier in this thread.

Luckily I didn't give a monkeys what other people thought and my now 14 year old daughter doesn't appear to suffered any ill effects from being formula fed :cool:.

Anyhoo I think the proposal to pay mums for breastfeeding is ludicrous and the money would be better spent on providing adequate support for mums who want to breast feed and are finding it difficult.

CS

sedment

I couldn't breastfeed for medical/personal reasons

Think this is the biggest waste of nhs money EVER!!!! I personally tried to bf, and couldnt with my son as he was early and the milk never came in. He was also very sleepy from the painkillers I had had.The nurse on my ward was very pushy to bf,and on the second day of us struggling another nurse came on shift and was shocked and got me formula. I was upset, baby was starving and had lost a lot of weight. Better spend that money on educators who will sit with you and help you rather than give you bribes.

lilymay1

From what I can gather, the study is being trialled in 2 of the most deprived areas of Sheffield. I say deprived - they are 2 of the areas with the lowest rate of breastfeeding mothers in the country.

£120 (in shopping vouchers) is given if the mother breastfeeds for 6 weeks, the other £80 is if they continue until 6 months. Midwives and health visitors will confirm whether or not the mother is breastfeeding (...'coz that's not open to abuse..!)

The vouchers can be used in high street stores I believe, so can be used to purchase alcohol, cigarettes etc. Entirely up to the mother what she buys with them.

I'm not planning on trying to breastfeed this baby. I guess that makes me a selfish and lazy mother.