Advice Re. American Citizenship ~ Complicated

coolcait

gravity, this is all utter !!!!!!!!. You know that as well as we do.

If you really can't bring yourself to tell your friend that in so many words, then at least keep telling her that you've never heard of such things happening.

If the GP reference is code for 'she might be a wee bit wandered (in her head)' then it's a lot more complicated.

Also, the UK Consulate will not pay for free flights back to Blighty for indigent Brits abroad. Even when they truly are both indigent and abroad.

Which I don't believe is the case here.

thorsoak

Tell her to tell him that there is no more cash until she SEES her grandchildren! And no, she's not sending money for their tickets!

And also, suggest to her that whilst he "is" in the USA he cannot physically hurt her! I don't believe that he is.

gravitytolls

coolcait wrote: »

gravity, this is all utter !!!!!!!!. You know that as well as we do.

If you really can't bring yourself to tell your friend that in so many words, then at least keep telling her that you've never heard of such things happening.

If the GP reference is code for 'she might be a wee bit wandered (in her head)' then it's a lot more complicated.

Also, the UK Consulate will not pay for free flights back to Blighty for indigent Brits abroad. Even when they truly are both indigent and abroad.

Which I don't believe is the case here.

You're right, I do, but I can't bring myself to be that firm with her. I just keep saying 'there's nothing in the US papers, consulate website, forums etc.'

Today she tells me his 'friend' called her to tell he works in intelligence for the army, and though it's hush hush it's all true, they're rounding folk up in camps. All the countries of the world are joining together and will be doing the same.

I did indeed tell her this was rubbish, asked did she really think the US, Russia, Iran, Israel etc. would ever work in such a way.

If I come into money, I'm popping over there to chin him!:mad:

coolcait

Maybe you're the one who's being spun a line, gravity.

claire16c

Is your friend suffering from dementia or something similar?

I don't understand how she can work 3 jobs yet apparently believe this stuff her son is telling her.

She can't be that old if she's working so much but could it be she had some kind of mental illness?

My nan is in her late 80s and would never believe this carp.

Your last post just sounds ridiculous.

Errata

TBH I think you're flogging a dead horse trying to reason with her. Either he's bonkers, she's bonkers or somebody's stolen his ID - possibly a Nigerian prince.

thorsoak

It's beginning to sound as if your friend is one of our trolls ....the story gets more and more involved! If she's not listening to your good advice - then stop listening to her story.

HPoirot

If he's been "her little lad" for 40 years then I suspect you're flogging a dead horse; he's milking her like he's been brought up to expect and she's 'doing everything' for her "little lad" like she's done for 40 years. Heartbreaking to witness but there is little you can change here.

Gingernutty

Reading the thread from the beginning, it sounds as if the son is milking an increasingly confused woman.

How is the money getting to him? She isn't sending him cheques (she doesn't know where he lives), she isn't tech savvy so is unlikely to move money electronically - how is she so brassic?

Are you able to visit her at home to see how she's living?

Is she receiving these 'phone calls at all? If not, where is the money going?

This is one for social services or elder abuse.

gravitytolls

Gingernutty wrote: »

Reading the thread from the beginning, it sounds as if the son is milking an increasingly confused woman.

How is the money getting to him? She isn't sending him cheques (she doesn't know where he lives), she isn't tech savvy so is unlikely to move money electronically - how is she so brassic?

Are you able to visit her at home to see how she's living?

Is she receiving these 'phone calls at all? If not, where is the money going?

This is one for social services or elder abuse.

She's sent money in an envelope (she does have his address), didn't arrive (apparently), she's put it in his UK bank account, but his card was used fraudulently (in America, lots of small payments made in New York ~ she showed me the statement detailing the fraudulent withdrawals/payments as he contacted the fraud department of his bank).

The money was refunded, then 'taken back' again, apparently.

She's paid hs rent, cable, internet for months. She told him she couldn't pay his cable any more (£40 PM!!!). He said he needed her card details to cancel the payment and transfer to his bank card. She said she'd never heard of that before, but he said it was an American thing.

When £290 had left her account, the bank manager told her to contact the company and tell them t was used without her permission. She did so, got her money back, and instructed them not to accept any payment from anyone other than herself.

Hurrah, I hope she's getting tough now.

I know it sounds trollish, it would be if it were posted on here, she's mid sixties, not sure exactly, she's cagey. She's not stupid, she's savvy enough to manager her money and look after her dogs and herself, but I think she's spent her whole life bailing out her lad and he's come to expect it, with no thought to her.

She received a tablet this week, so she could skype him and see the grandchildren. He enclosed instructions, he's set it all up for her. When she first told me he intended to get her one, she said she told him she'd rather he spent the money on paying rent. He told her they're only about $20 over there!

Anyhoo, it's here now, she can't use it, but I imagine his plan is that seeing the children will tug on her heart strings.