Worrying unnecessarily (I hope)

hazyjo

You don't even need a chemist. The local corner shop probably even has them! Or a supermarket...

I also told my OH I'd started on time, but it turned out to be mid-month cramp rather than a period.

Oh, and if it is late, be prepared for it to be heavy! Jeez, I'm so lucky usually but did get a feel for what some friends and my sister go through every month. Came as a bit of a shock!

Also, don't forget a lot of women miscarry in the first month without realising - there's not always blood, and it might just mean a heavier period. Do think I probably was, but the odds are 1% apparently so not likely to happen again, and 1 in 2 miscarry at my age.

PLEASE go do the test! Buy at least two to be sure!

Unless of course you have done a test and now don't want to share with a bunch of strangers on the www before telling people you know

Jx

fluffnutter

MrsSippi wrote: »

My husband knows the situation but I dont want to keep going on at him ubntil I know for definite.

I think this is the most significant thing. And in another post you say you feel sorry for your poor husband because you're still not able to give him a definite answer.

But there's nothing stopping you. All you need to do is take a test. You're putting your husband in this position by dithering. You have absolute control over when he finds out for sure whether you're pregnant or not. If he's feeling stressed about the uncertainty then it's entirely your making. It seems a bit strange to feel sorry for him. Why not just put him out of his misery instead?

Like I said, it's probably a personality thing. I could never allow myself to worry if it was in my power to find out. Good news brings such a relief who'd want to delay it? And bad news doesn't improve with age.

Goldiegirl

fluffnutter wrote: »

Like I said, it's probably a personality thing. I could never allow myself to worry if it was in my power to find out. Good news brings such a relief who'd want to delay it? And bad news doesn't improve with age.

I think there's another type of personality what would rather bury their head in the sand and think 'I'd rather not know' when it comes to health matters - the type that doesn't go to the doctors when there are signs of problems, and hope it'll just go away.

Maybe by delaying the test the OP feels they can avoid a possibly unwanted truth for a few more days.

If this was me, I'd have taken the test by now. Why worry when you don't have too?

Tiddlywinks

Goldiegirl wrote: »

If this was me, I'd have taken the test by now. Why worry when you don't have too?

... and why worry others - like her OH - and then worry about his worrying... when all she has to do is pee on a stick?

fluffnutter

Goldiegirl wrote: »

I think there's another type of personality what would rather bury their head in the sand and think 'I'd rather not know' when it comes to health matters - the type that doesn't go to the doctors when there are signs of problems, and hope it'll just go away.

Maybe by delaying the test the OP feels they can avoid a possibly unwanted truth for a few more days.

Oh definitely. I agree. It's just not a particularly psychologically healthy approach. Denial innit.

FBaby

My experience of people who delay testing is that they either really really don't want to be pregnant or who really really want to.

I suspect the OP deep inside really want to be pregnant, especially now that her husband has given the go ahead but is now worried that she will be disappointed.

Laurajo_2

Well, I hope she comes back and tells us if she is or not!

(Yes, I probably need to get a life)

fluffnutter

Is the silence good news or bad news? Or just that she's STILL not tested?