Worrying unnecessarily (I hope)

Tiddlywinks

MrsSippi wrote: »

You're right, I know you're right, I think I am just scared what it will say, even though I know deep down it's highly unlikely I am pg. I was about 10 days late before I could bear to test when I was pregnant last time and that was planned! I didn't want to get my hopes up then and this time I'm too worried about what the result might be.

For goodness sake... take the test.

At least then you will know WHAT to worry about, if anything.

What can any of us say?

We can't say 'there, there, it'll be alright' as we don't have a crystal ball.

Take the test and know for sure or don't take the test and just keep worrying and posting about not knowing... I know which I'd rather do.

Lunar_Eclipse

I'm another that says to do the test.

Reading your reply above about the potential for being pregnant should it turn out that way, I think you will probably be quite thrilled after not so much time at all. Babies often don't arrive to our timings. You have a lot going for you (husband, home, income) that will stand you in good stead should you end up welcoming another bundle of joy into your life.

I know you're scared, but you might feel better knowing, especially since you have a child already so know what to expect. The anxiety would make me feel sick ;-)

Prothet_of_Doom

I am amused by your husband's reaction to the potential news. I mean what did you expect him to say ? Most blokes would try to be positive and upbeat about something that appears to be out of their control. If you are pregnant he will be pleased as punch, but secretly bricking it about how you are going to cope, and if you are not pregnant, he'll be silently relieved that finances can't get worse, but secretly a bit !!!!ed off that he's not about to be a Dad again.
And us blokes try and say the right thing, so cut him a bit of slack, if it comes out all wrong because we never reveal our true inner feelings (without alcohol)

debjay

Did you take the test?

MrsSippi

debjay wrote: »

Did you take the test?

No, not yet. I didn't get home from work till late last night and didn't have time to go and get one. I did speak to my husband again last night and I was pleasantly surprised how calm he is about the possibility of another child (a lot more calm than me!). He said that although it is not the ideal timing we would manage and it would be lovely so I suppose that is one less thing to worry about. So I am now on day 37 (my longest cycle yet) still no sign of monthly visit (though I am getting some cramping) and if nothing happens by Thursday I will get a test. In the meantime I am going to try not to think about it too much as I know stress can delay things.

emsywoo123

I admit, I never understand threads like this. You're late. You have an adult relationships. Pregnancy tests are cheap and easily available, with instant results. We cannot guess if you are pregnant or not - why would you not just test? Am I missing something?

Person_one

emsywoo123 wrote: »

I admit, I never understand threads like this. You're late. You have an adult relationships. Pregnancy tests are cheap and easily available, with instant results. We cannot guess if you are pregnant or not - why would you not just test? Am I missing something?

Maybe the OP needs a bit of time to gather herself and ensure she is prepared for the result, whichever way it goes?

I can understand that. If a positive would result in full on panic on Monday, but waiting till Thursday means you'd be composed and feeling positive, there's no harm in waiting!

fluffnutter

emsywoo123 wrote: »

I admit, I never understand threads like this. You're late. You have an adult relationships. Pregnancy tests are cheap and easily available, with instant results. We cannot guess if you are pregnant or not - why would you not just test? Am I missing something?

Person_one wrote: »

Maybe the OP needs a bit of time to gather herself and ensure she is prepared for the result, whichever way it goes?

I can understand that. If a positive would result in full on panic on Monday, but waiting till Thursday means you'd be composed and feeling positive, there's no harm in waiting!

Waiting won't help. Or if you are the type who does find a bit of time and distance calming then the last thing you want to be doing is starting threads about it on the internet. Threads that mean you're constantly checking to see what replies you have, thereby keeping the issue you're trying to find some perspective on at the forefront of your mind.

Two ways - take the test, or forget about it for a few days. If the latter, posting about it on social media won't help.

MrsSippi

emsywoo123 wrote: »

I admit, I never understand threads like this. You're late. You have an adult relationships. Pregnancy tests are cheap and easily available, with instant results. We cannot guess if you are pregnant or not - why would you not just test? Am I missing something?

I just came on here to vent I suppose. I know that no one can tell me if I am pregnant and I know that the only way to find out for definite is to just do a test. I am just scared I suppose and maybe looking for a bit of support. I am in a stable relationship etc so it would be far from terrible if I did fall pregnant but in no way do I really feel ready for this right now. I suppose I also thought (sods law) that if I started really thinking about it being a possibility then my period would arrive. I am honestly not looking for people to say "there there, don't worry" I just wanted to vent my anxieties. Sorry if this has offended anyone.

MrsSippi

Person_one wrote: »

Maybe the OP needs a bit of time to gather herself and ensure she is prepared for the result, whichever way it goes?

I can understand that. If a positive would result in full on panic on Monday, but waiting till Thursday means you'd be composed and feeling positive, there's no harm in waiting!

This is exactly how I feel. I think that right now I am stressing about it and I know that yes I could do a test today and know what the result is by the end of today but I also think that if I get to Thursday and still nothing then I will assume that I am pg and will be able to deal with that very real possiblity before I test and then either way the result won't be a shock.