Worrying unnecessarily (I hope)

building_with_lego

If you are ill in the first phase of your cycle ovulation can be delayed, thus your period arrives late. If you're not charting your cycle you wouldn't necessarily notice that you've not ovulated yet, just be worrying about the lack of period.

Maybe hazyjo and her neighbour had the same bug or virus early in their cycles leading to the whole shebang happening later than it would have.

FBaby

The same thing happened to me when my first was 20 months old. My OH had been getting at me about having another one, but I wasn't ready as my DD was extremely demanding, I worked full-time and still finances were tough. The prospect really scared me but... my periods were late one month and as days passed, I started to convince myself it could only be because I was pregnant but didn't dare do a test as I was too scared of the results. After about 1 week late, I couldn't do it any longer and went out to get a test (getting my DD ready and out against her will, in the cold....) then after closing my eyes and my heart beating a 100 miles an hour, I opened them to realise that the test had not work.... out with DD we went again, did the test and this time, it was a clear negative. I should have felt relieved, but to my dismay, I felt an incredible sadness fall upon me and that feeling didn't go away the next day. I knew then that I really wanted a child. Out went the pill, and on a mission I went. I was pregnant 5 months later (felt like 5 years!).

Things were tough in every way, but never have I regretted my decision, it was the best one I've ever made, so if being late and doing the test is was prompted me to feel totally happy with the decision to do it, then I am eternally grateful for my cycle having gone out of synch at that time.

FBaby

. At 43 I'm starting to think the menopause won't be too far off in my future

This started with me the day the month I turned 42 a year ago. Since then, my periods have been all over the place, and this summer, I didn't ovulate for 2 months in a row (I did get my period the first time, but I do know for certainty when I ovulate or not). I do think it is the pre-menopause having knocked on the door, but I don't have any other signs, no hot flashes or anything like that, so maybe still a few more years to go. I have read that the pre-menopause can go on for years before fully on!

Laurajo_2

Don't keep us in suspense!!!!

But seriously, periods can come late for a number of reasons - amongst my circle of friends, all of us have had it happen at least once where we've been late, and worried we might be pregnant, put off taken the test...and the day after the test has been taken, the period starts...I think it's the worry/stress/excitement of potentially being pregnant that plays havoc.

MrsSippi

Well after getting cramps yesterday afternoon I was certain it had started and (without giving tmi) I went to the loo, where I was absolutely sure it had and I breathed a big sigh of relief (which is probably quite telling I thought). Fast forward to this morning and nothing proper, it is more like what the last day of my period is like. I have no idea what is going on, this has never happened in the 17 years I've been having periods.

So right now I feel more peed off than worried or anxious. Tomorrow morning I am getting a test, then sods law it will start when I am on the way to the shop, but that is fine by me, at least I won't be in suspense.

It's my poor husband I feel sorry for, I told him I'd started then this morning I had to tell him I wasn't sure. I am going to keep quiet until I am 100% sure one way or the other.

FBaby

For both my pregnancies, I had period cramp feelings, if anything stronger, but no period coming, so to me, what you are experiencing would be an indication of pregnancy.

I think you've gone too far torturing yourself mentally now that whatever the outcome, you are likely to be shaken up by it, so you might as well get over it asap now and move on with whatever the news the test is giving you.

fluffnutter

Any reason why you've still not tested, MrsSippi? I assume you've had plenty of time to buy a test.

This is going to sound really harsh, and as a caveat I'm saying it simply because no doubt we have very different personalities, but there's nothing wrong with procrastinating and getting yourself in a tickle-tangle. It's entirely a personal decision about when to test so take as long as you want. But why the sharing with strangers? I understand the original post asking other women when they'd test but dragging it out for days with regular posts about your menstrual cycle just seems a little self-aggrandising, if I'm honest.

It's the title of your thread - you say you hope you're worrying unnecessarily. Well, there's only one way to find out yet you're not taking that option. So a part of you must be enjoying it all, else why are you delaying things?

kettlefish

Just do the test for goodness' sake. You've not been able to relax or stop thinking about it, so spend the quid and know for sure. There are 1001 reasons for a late period - but it's likely you ovulated late in the cycle due to illness, stress or just one of those things - in which case your period will be late. I do think they should teach us more about how our bodies work in relation to this at school, though, which would be useful when TTC or for natural family planning!

I have a friend who has a pregnancy "scare" every few months ... luckily I now have a stash of cheap tests from when we were TTC so I give her one and don't get caught up in the drama!

MrsSippi

fluffnutter wrote: »

Any reason why you've still not tested, MrsSippi? I assume you've had plenty of time to buy a test.

This is going to sound really harsh, and as a caveat I'm saying it simply because no doubt we have very different personalities, but there's nothing wrong with procrastinating and getting yourself in a tickle-tangle. It's entirely a personal decision about when to test so take as long as you want. But why the sharing with strangers? I understand the original post asking other women when they'd test but dragging it out for days with regular posts about your menstrual cycle just seems a little self-aggrandising, if I'm honest.

It's the title of your thread - you say you hope you're worrying unnecessarily. Well, there's only one way to find out yet you're not taking that option. So a part of you must be enjoying it all, else why are you delaying things?

I haven't tested yet partly because I wanted to get my head around the possibility of a positive result before I tested and also I have been working lates this week and haven't been getting home till 9pm. I know that there are still chemists open then, but I suppose I am putting it off in the hope that I don't need one.

As far as the sharing with strangers goes, maybe it wasn't the best idea but I needed to vent somewherr. My husband knows the situation but I dont want to keep going on at him ubntil I know for definite. I could have talked to friends/family but they would all think it's fantastic, which I wouuldn't find helpful.

Sorry if this thread has come across as me wanting a bit of attention or something, that is not my intention at all. I suppose I am fretting more than necessary to because although, as I said, I would like another child eventually, the thought of going through another pregnancy is terrifying for a number of reasons.

Either way, I will bow out as this has dragged on now. Sorry

Tiddlywinks

Just take the test and stop wallowing in the drama....