Advice before it gets worse, first year student

flower24

What a shame you are feeling like this. I'm 26 and in my 2nd year of my degree and my friends are of all ages, from the 19 year olds to a very good friend who is 68! We all get along well. Perhaps the difference is that I am at a college University centre rather than a big uni?? Could you transfer to somewhere similar?

flower24

It does sound like you are reading too much into the email from your tutor, all my tutors emails can be a bit short and curt, they are busy people, don't worry.

orangeslimes

SlimmingSusan wrote: »

I am being bullyed by a lecturer, my course leader, what the heck do I do?

She sent me an email to turn up after my lecture on Monday, very curt and very rude.

I spoke to my disabiaty advisor, who agreed it was rude, then advised me to reply politely, asking why, copying her into the email.

I have now got a reply saying an issue requires a face to face meeting.

Does this sound disciplinary? I have no idea why, but it could be this group thing.

Where do I stand? Have no idea what it is about, but also feel that this lady has a duty to know about disabled students and treat them accordingly.

Probably she should know about disabled students - but she is an academic and will have been employed for her research skills (or possibly teaching skill if you are lucky). Her communication is probably due to a lack of understanding and ineptness, not malice or any attempt to upset you.

It is best to meet her and find out what it is about calmly, it might be you need to explain your difficulties to her (or get student services to help), but you should try not to be defensive.

Maybe she has noticed you are struggling with group work and wants to help - but doesn't want to be insensitive and email you about it, so wants a chat face to face...

duchy

So have you had the meeting yet ?

SlimmingSusan

It was about a misunderstanding, but is all sorted now.

She has been made aware of my disability, and so it turned out to be a good meeting, and she was lovely.

jacques_chirac

SlimmingSusan wrote: »

It was about a misunderstanding, but is all sorted now.

She has been made aware of my disability, and so it turned out to be a good meeting, and she was lovely.

So there was no harassment or bullying?

You must understand that you cannot throw around those words for no good reason - accusations like that ruin careers.

SlimmingSusan

jacques_chirac wrote: »

So there was no harassment or bullying?

You must understand that you cannot throw around those words for no good reason - accusations like that ruin careers.

Other people were throwing them around about me- which can ruin a degree. Horses for courses cannot elaborate

Person_one

SlimmingSusan wrote: »

Other people were throwing them around about me- which can ruin a degree. Horses for courses cannot elaborate

Graciously admitting when you're wrong isn't something you'll be taught in a lecture, but its a really important thing to learn.

SlimmingSusan

Person_one wrote: »

Graciously admitting when you're wrong isn't something you'll be taught in a lecture, but its a really important thing to learn.

I was not wrong, but am not willing to elaborate. The lecturer visibly flinched when told the full story, please do not post without full information, as in wanting something to be there when there is not. Last post of mine on this thread but thank you all for the help and advice.