"There is no point in getting married if you're not having kids"

Soleil_lune

Better_Days wrote: »

Not everyone wants children. Some for financial reasons. Some for emotional reasons. Some like their life as it is and are happy and fulfilled without children. Some are unable to have children, make peace with the situation and move on. Surely that is OK?

Parent's lives change enormously when they have children. Some adults don't want their lives to change.

Better to make a conscious decision not to have children than to have children because those around them think it is a good idea and they are happy with their children. Miserable parents regretting they had children makes for miserable childhood's - believe me I know.

Different people have different priorities. I can't see what harm it does not to have children and why you find it depressing.

Oh good grief. Why don't people read posts correctly before responding? Why do they just see what they want to see and THEN respond accordingly?!

I never said what you are trying to make out I said!

I said I found it depressing that someone would have a child, and then say, if they could have their time over again, they would not have had him, then at least they would not have had extra worries and would not have ended up with something that 'cramped their style.' And you wonder why I think this is depressing? They had a child and basically said that he got in the way of them living their lives and doing what they wanted to do!

And now their son does not want children either; which is fine, because apparently THEY don't want grandchildren!

Person_one

Soleil_lune wrote: »

And now their son does not want children either; which is fine, because apparently THEY don't want grandchildren!

Well it is fine that he doesn't want children.

Its nothing to do with what any potential grandparents might think and is frankly none of their business, but its still fine!

poet123

It would still be fine if he did want children and they didn't want grandchildren. It really is no business of anyone else whether or not a couple procreates.

Georgiegirl256

Soleil_lune wrote: »

I find this a really depressing post... Children 'cramp your style?' You apparently 'wouldn't be without' your son, but say with hindsight you would have stayed child-free as children 'cramp your style'

And now you don't even want grandchildren??? Why don't you want grandchildren? :huh: And your son does not want children either?

Re; the OP, yes it IS perfectly OK to get married when you are not planning to have kids.

What business is it of yours why she doesn't want grandchildren and why her son does not want children? It's obvious you're one of those people who feel you have to stick your nose into other peoples private lives....

Soleil_lune

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

What business is it of yours why she doesn't want grandchildren and why her son does not want children? It's obvious you're one of those people who feel you have to stick your nose into other peoples private lives....

Oh FGS! ANOTHER one NOT reading my posts before responding to them, and TOTALLY missing the point! Maybe try READING what people say before putting your ignorant, inane, sarcastic retorts! And you know NOTHING about me, so keep your comments about how 'nosey' I may or may not be to yourself!

I'm done on this thread. No good trying to 'debate' with people who see what they WANT TO SEE, to suit their own agenda. And I have said what I wanted to say, even if some people are not bright enough to understand it, and try to make out I'm saying something I am not!

Georgiegirl256

Soleil_lune wrote: »

Oh FGS! ANOTHER one reading my posts before responding to them, and TOTALLY missing the point! Maybe try READING what people say before putting your ignorant, inane, sarcastic retorts! And you know NOTHING about me, so keep your comments about how 'nosey' I may or may not be to yourself!

I'm done on this thread. No good trying to 'debate' with people who see what they WANT TO SEE, to suit their own agenda. And I have said what I wanted to say, even if some people are not bright enough to understand it, and try to make out I'm saying something I am not!

You said, and I quote "And now you don't even want grandchildren??? Why don't you want grandchildren? And your son does not want children either?", so I ask again, what business is that of yours? Why did you feel the need to ask those questions? What am I not reading correctly here?

Oh, and btw, I'd try and control that temper of yours....

Dunroamin

Soleil_lune wrote: »

Oh FGS! ANOTHER one reading my posts before responding to them, and TOTALLY missing the point! Maybe try READING what people say before putting your ignorant, inane, sarcastic retorts! And you know NOTHING about me, so keep your comments about how 'nosey' I may or may not be to yourself!

I'm done on this thread. No good trying to 'debate' with people who see what they WANT TO SEE, to suit their own agenda. And I have said what I wanted to say, even if some people are not bright enough to understand it, and try to make out I'm saying something I am not!

I always find this to be the best strategy.;)

Georgiegirl256

Dunroamin wrote: »

I always find this to be the best strategy.;)

:rotfl: Me too....I read it, then I responded to it!

Soleil_lune

Dunroamin wrote: »

I always find this to be the best strategy.;)

BUGGAR! I have now corrected it! :rotfl:

Soleil_lune

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

You said, and I quote "And now you don't even want grandchildren??? Why don't you want grandchildren? And your son does not want children either?", so I ask again, what business is that of yours? Why did you feel the need to ask those questions? What am I not reading correctly here?

Oh, and btw, I'd try and control that temper of yours....

Fair enough ... But this is a discussion board and I was just asking questions... whether you think I am nosey or not.

All it was is that I couldn't fathom how someone could say they had a child and loved them, but thought of them as 'cramping their style,' and were now glad that they weren't having kids either. I just don't get it.

And the first response was "Different people have different priorities. I can't see what harm it does not to have children and why you find it depressing." And I was not having a go at people not having kids. Just couldn't understand what SDW meant and am still confused by it.