Husband just left after 28 years!

paulineb_2

There were a couple of other posts that were also deleted, assuming thats the reason the OP left.

BJV

I think that the OP was reaching out. That is a long time to be married and lose everything. Hope I never find out just how hard.

Think that we also have to remember that you can not stop loving someone just because they are a ***.

Hope she is ok.

atrixblue.-MFR-.

its a shame OP has gone.

I know my and others posts were harsh, but if your not prepared to open your mind to suggestions and opinions then its not the right time to reach out for support in an open forum.

meer53

I think the OP has probably read the majority of the replies and realised that she hadn't really thought about the "what if's" and thats why she deleted the post. It's hard to accept other peoples honest opinions and experiences when you think you're right.

It really did sound as though she was making excuses for him and that she couldn't possibly accept the fact that maybe he wasn't telling her the truth. In my experience, and i've been in exactly the same situation, the replies were really helpful and i wish i'd been on the forum when i went through the same experience.

paulineb_2

There were a couple of posts which I think have been deleted that said, why are you choosing to discuss your private life on this forum? At that point I think the OP decided to remove her posts.

I thought it a bit odd because lots of people start threads doing exactly the same thing every day on here.

FBaby

Maybe we did help and that's all that matters. OP did seem to be protecting herself convincing herself that things would be ok and he would be back. We all face betrayal and loss differently and that's a better way than many others.

Maybe our posts opened her mind, or maybe it didn't, but she will remember them at a later stage. And of course, we could just all be very wrong because after all, OP will always know her husband much better than us.

globetraveller

it's possible she took on board that post about airing her private life and maybe worried that someone would recognise her from what she said.
I don't think anyone was really harsh, but I don't think she will have found it easy reading. She probably needs time to think things through and hopefully the posts have given her food for thought. I just hope she doesn't make it too easy for him. But it's a scarey situation to be in. Good luck to her.

paulineb_2

globetraveller wrote: »

it's possible she took on board that post about airing her private life and maybe worried that someone would recognise her from what she said.
I don't think anyone was really harsh, but I don't think she will have found it easy reading. She probably needs time to think things through and hopefully the posts have given her food for thought. I just hope she doesn't make it too easy for him. But it's a scarey situation to be in. Good luck to her.

The posts that were removed said something along the lines of why are you sharing all this on the internet. The OP then said excuse me?

And then left. I found it odd that she was being picked up on why she was sharing, when other people are allowed to and some threads are very supportive.