Christmas is coming!!!!

fluffnutter

justanopinion wrote: »

I hate it. It always feels like Groundhog Day. Get up, go to parents, watch Top of the pops special eat lunch. Mum always proudly says, "I said it would be ready by two!" Queen's speech, go to inlaws. Back to parents for three hours. Scream.

It used to be a magical day. Now I hate the rigidity and take no pleasure in it. Which I then resent in itself!!

So do something different. I know the pressures of family life mean that we don't always get to simply please ourselves but you've got to realise your own part in all of this. You're obviously a grown-up, married with your own home. So live your life the way you want to. It's interesting you say you're resentful - that's precisely how we feel when we do things for others that don't have any pleasure or gain for ourselves. It's dysfunctional behaviour and no fun for anyone.

Either accept that pleasing your family is more important than pleasing yourself and visit them graciously, or do something different. Up to you.

joansgirl

fluffnutter wrote: »

So do something different. I know the pressures of family life mean that we don't always get to simply please ourselves but you've got to realise your own part in all of this. You're obviously a grown-up, married with your own home. So live your life the way you want to. It's interesting you say you're resentful - that's precisely how we feel when we do things for others that don't have any pleasure or gain for ourselves. It's dysfunctional behaviour and no fun for anyone.

Either accept that pleasing your family is more important than pleasing yourself and visit them graciously, or do something different. Up to you.

Sometimes it's just not worth the grief that you get.

This_Year

justanopinion wrote: »

I hate it. It always feels like Groundhog Day. Get up, go to parents, watch Top of the pops special eat lunch. Mum always proudly says, "I said it would be ready by two!" Queen's speech, go to inlaws. Back to parents for three hours. Scream.

It used to be a magical day. Now I hate the rigidity and take no pleasure in it. Which I then resent in itself!!

So why not do something different this year?

Twisted_Cherry

One thing I am not doing this year is having lunch out at the local pub! It cost us £70 last year for two of us, and it was absolute rubbish! Going to make a homemade roast beef dinner for us instead!

Gra76

I hated Christmas with a vengeance. I'd shout "bah humbug" at anyone who mentioned it and I'd resent spending large amounts of money on presents and socialising with friends and family. As far as I was concerned Christmas was just one huge con.

Well, at least that was the case until I was diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma in September 2011. My mid-point for the 6 months of chemo that followed dropped right into the Christmas period and it thoroughly changed my outlook on things. My Christmas day was spent curled up in bed feeling spectacularly ill.

Last year (for the first time since I was a child) I wore a proper Christmas jumper (I let my wife choose it) and got right into the spirit of things. I will be doing so this year as well, and for every Christmas I get to celebrate from now on. I'm more than grateful for the opportunity to spend time and money on friends and family now!

Stupid cancer has a way of changing your attitude to life! Come February I'll be 2 years clear and hopefully being discharged. I'm planning this Christmas already!

joansgirl

Gra76 wrote: »

I hated Christmas with a vengeance. I'd shout "bah humbug" at anyone who mentioned it and I'd resent spending large amounts of money on presents and socialising with friends and family. As far as I was concerned Christmas was just one huge con.

Well, at least that was the case until I was diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma in September 2011. My mid-point for the 6 months of chemo that followed dropped right into the Christmas period and it thoroughly changed my outlook on things. My Christmas day was spent curled up in bed feeling spectacularly ill.

Last year (for the first time since I was a child) I wore a proper Christmas jumper (I let my wife choose it) and got right into the spirit of things. I will be doing so this year as well, and for every Christmas I get to celebrate from now on. I'm more than grateful for the opportunity to spend time and money on friends and family now!

Stupid cancer has a way of changing your attitude to life! Come February I'll be 2 years clear and hopefully being discharged. I'm planning this Christmas already!

That's absolutely wonderful! Keeping my fingers crossed for your discharge.:T

I think that in the last few years my attitude towards Christmas has been further soured by the fact that my deceased oh was told he was terminal on Christmas eve. He only lived another 10 days after that and it was then that I decided "no more, I'll do it my way from now on". But even before this I was anti Christmas.

You're right though Gra76, something like what you experienced does make you take stock and stop you from taking things for granted. I hope you have a spectacular Christmas and many more to come.

DCFC79

Is there not a skip/fast ward button we can use to skip the whole christmas thing ?

DCFC79

RuthnJasper wrote: »

I believe that Ebeneezer Scrooge was much misunderstood.

Christmas is fine. At Christmas (24 - 26 December).

Yes them 2 days is fine, its the whole kafuffle weeks before I dont like.

Azari

DCFC79 wrote: »

Is there not a skip/fast ward button we can use to skip the whole christmas thing ?

I'd use it like a real FF button.

FF up to lunch time on Christmas eve, let it play for two and a half days and then ff until the 3rd Jan.

pelirocco

Surely Christmas ( like anything else) is what you make of it ?

Its a day you can spend with all your family so how can anyone hate that?

I can not understand why anyone feels that have to buy x y z ..........and then moan about it , maybe it should be called martyrs day

I think the maoners secretely love having an excuse to moan about something lol