How to persuade a child to take a blood test

itsanne

mountainofdebt wrote: »

If he's being allowed the priviledge of vetoing a blood test then he needs to 'man up' and at least tell you why he's decided not to have it. Personally I think he owes you this at least if its you that's going to have to deal with him becoming sicker as a result of not having the test done

Here's the rub - he's 13.

Dumbe

Why can't you just tell him it's not a choice and to do it.

This is a 13 year old child not an adult with the right to decide their own medical choices.

Would you take the same view if he refused to so his homework, do his chores.


Not critising but genuinely a little stunned that it's not as simple as telling him he must do it and if he refuses grounding him taking any tv prevail games, pocket money etc.. Until he does as he's told.

victory

Thank you very much for all your posts:D

As fluffnutter says we're going to leave it and see if he comes round. He has all the information, we have given him the facts, we are going to leave it and bring it up again and thanks very much
mountainofdebt I am going to make him aware of what you are saying, along the lines of 'preventing you getting sicker will make life for all of us' easier type thing.

I hope we get there in the end, leaving it for now ,so long as we get the bt done, whether it be the longest way round in the world, we will get there in the end, slowly slowly for now....:D

victory

Callie22 wrote: »

It sounds to me like he's got everything a bit mixed up in his head and avoiding the blood test is a way of avoiding the possible consequences - 'if I don't have the blood test then I don't have diabetes/thyroid issues/whatever'. Everyone's focusing on him being scared of the test but maybe he's more scared of the results?

DS is not scared of the bt, needle, has had all his other injections from birth till now no problem,

mountainofdebt

itsanne wrote: »

Here's the rub - he's 13.

I know he's 13.

But if he's adult enough to be able to refuse that blood test then he should be old enough to at least tell his mum and dad why he won't have it.

He can't have it both ways.

The only other thing I can suggest is that he (on his own) talks to the nurse about why he won't have the test.

victory

Dumbe wrote: »

Why can't you just tell him it's not a choice and to do it.

This is a 13 year old child not an adult with the right to decide their own medical choices.

Would you take the same view if he refused to so his homework, do his chores.


Not critising but genuinely a little stunned that it's not as simple as telling him he must do it and if he refuses grounding him taking any tv prevail games, pocket money etc.. Until he does as he's told.

Please read itsanne reply, spot on:D

victory

mountainofdebt wrote: »

I know he's 13.

But if he's adult enough to be able to refuse that blood test then he should be old enough to at least tell his mum and dad why he won't have it.

He can't have it both ways.

The only other thing I can suggest is that he (on his own) talks to the nurse about why he won't have the test.

The nurse tried that, alone bit and he refused to answer, look at her, speak properly, was just closed down, so we are going to leave it now and bring it up later, slowly we will get there, some people may say not ideal but it is the only thing we have got at the moment, if it's right what someone said about 'making it look like it is his decision' kind of like reversed psychology well so be it...

brightonbelle is right, if he's not doing it, bringing a friend along is not going to work either...

heartbreak_star

Just out of interest - fingerprick tests are generally for blood spots such as those used in blood sugar monitors, not anything where you need a vial of blood. Incidentally, they hurt - there's a LOT of nerves in your fingertips!

If the tests requires serum or a full cell count, it needs to be venous blood.

HBS x

victory

OH and I have agreed we are not going down the 'bribery route', he is not stupid, he doesn't need to be indulged in the' I am not doing it', he is 13 and has rights, I understand that but he needs to understand that this will not go away and he needs to do a bt, we will be taking the facts/google/patience/listening/working with him/answering any questions/ route that will get us to where we all need to be:D

victory

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Just out of interest - fingerprick tests are generally for blood spots such as those used in blood sugar monitors, not anything where you need a vial of blood. Incidentally, they hurt - there's a LOT of nerves in your fingertips!

If the tests requires serum or a full cell count, it needs to be venous blood.

HBS x

Venous blood is from the arm?