Vent - Sexism within schools - Boys & Earrings

JReacher1

I posted a link from the equality website which seemed to suggest the school had grounds to stop him wearing an earring. I see this has been lost admist all the petty squabbling!

hollydays

Oh for when life was less complicated

cod3

hollydays wrote: »

Oh for when life was less complicated

Indeed. I am happy that my lad has no wish for piercings - especially as he plays rugby at school.

k12479

paulofessex wrote: »

...children should be able to have a voice and to provide the opportunity for a child to debate an issue...

Perhaps the time for your son to have debated and challenged the rule was before breaking it, and being caught doing so, twice.

PILES

paulofessex wrote: »

Understand where your coming from, we chose the school due to its academic reputation and achievements etc, and yes you're correct we read uniform rules but although we disagreed with this particular issue we certainly wouldn't choose not to send our child there just because of that. By not sending him means we would not be choosing what was best for him and would have been thinking more about our own issue with it.

That is why we are not the type to go banging on the heads door as it were. Surely you don't grudge me having a vent about it do you?

So you read and understood the rules and decided to send your "DS" there. You then complain that the rules are being implemented? So yes I do begrudge you having a vent about it. Get him to take the stud out and concentrate on his studies. That is what school is for, its not a fashion show.

WiggyDiggyPoo

k12479 wrote: »

Maybe, the purpose of these kinds of things is to instill some level of discipline so that the kids stand some chance of becoming employable one day. Earrings on men are inappropriate in many workplaces, as are having Nike swooshes carved into your hair. If people don't learn these basics in school, they probably never will.

Happily sat in my office with no issues, eyebrow pierced as well as ears. Worked in several businesses with my head like this (customer facing and back room) and always been no problems.

reason2

k12479 wrote: »

That's quite specific prohibitions about earrings you mention, and there's good reasons for them like hygiene or safety. A lot of other settings, e.g. a typical office, wouldn't allow earrings for men but would for women, if not as a written rule, as an expectation. School rules like this reflect that.

This simply is not true..

In 11 years of working in head offices for places like the BBC, marks and spencers, Halifax, Esure, Manchester united.. i have never ever ever once been told to remove my lip stud or my upper ear stud.

Neither have any men who have studs.

And IF it is health and safety and hygeine, men wearing studs is not more unhygenic than women wearing them.. the point is when it comes to ear studs and the like it should be 1 rule for ALL not one for boys and one for girls..

reason2

Also, i think OP is doing the best thing..

he has give his son all options, made sure he is informed on the potential outcomes of all options, told him to make his own mind up and which ever decision he makes he has full support of the parents.

Grade A parenting if you ask me..

much better than the "i am your father you will do as i say" approach in this instance

Norma_Desmond

Good grief - this is a school we're talking about - not Milan fashion week.

No-one was allowed earrings at my school and we all had to wear full uniform.

End of.

iltisman

Not much point in educating him,if he went for a decent job interview with bits of metal hanging off him he would be at a great disadvantage.